What's the connection between tickling and sex?

[Garamonde]

I'm not sure I understand it myself. I notice it whenever I tickle a woman, I pretty much instantly get horny. Is this because I love having control over a woman in such a way, or is it because it's probably the closest I'm ever going to get to touching a woman? I'm not sure. I've never been good at psychoanalyzing myself.

 

[dove]

For most people and me, I think it's definitely a dominant/submissive thing...I mean 'ler' and 'lee' is very obvious there right? It's definitely helplessness and in control thing, like BDSM but maybe a little less intense. It's also a kind of innocent sort of play thing that people like about it also, if it's not sexual. Also it could be like that in that it (sensations) are more intense

And if anyone else is like me, I remember being tickled as a little kid and really really liking it but also getting blush and very embarrassed when people would...I didn't want them to know I like it but I'd try to get myself into ticklish situations! 😛. Even now I can't stand it but I love it both.

 

[Imlatino]

yea like bondage but with no crazy stuff, just safe tickle.

 

[Powah]

For me tickling can be almost to the same level of sex. or it cannot be it really depends on your type of person. If someone gets off on tickling they may sometimes prefer it over sex itself in the sense that it actually gives the same amount of gratification.

 

[Bugman]

I'm not sure I understand it myself. I notice it whenever I tickle a woman, I pretty much instantly get horny.

It's a sexual thing for some,and not so much for others.I fit into the latter category myself.🙂

 

[RavenMoon]

For me, tickling is very sensual and very sexual. I know that the control issue involved, 'lee/'ler, is very much like the control issue in the BDSM I partake in (dom/sub) Additionally, there is the sensations it's self. Light tickling is very much akin to sensation play in BDSM. Remember... BDSM does NOT always mean pain!!! A large number of those who partake in BDSM are sensualists. They like the lighter side of the lifestyle. So... as I was saying. Light tickling activates nerves in the same way that sensual touching will. Rougher tickling can become painful, so for me, that is when things really heat up because I am a sadomasochist and my body reacts sexually to pain.

There are a number of other factors that can come into play. Tickling involves a degree of comfort and trust, even when playful. Comfort and trust are both psychological states that allow us to be intimate with a person. Tickling between two people can be even more intimate and allow the mind to slip into that comfort zone and desire more intimacy.

So much of how one reacts to tickling depends upon how they are wired. How they view sexual and sensual activities. How they view themselves. How they view the people they are with.

Your own reactions to the tickling can also depend upon how your partner is reacting. Perhaps you don't normally react sexually to tickling, but you are with a partner who does. In the throes of the tickling, your body recognizes their sexual arousal and reacts likewise. That is an absolutely natural reaction when the person is sexually open.

The two cents of a pure switch who has many years of experience in the BDSM and paraphilia fields...

 

[RavenMoon]

For most people and me, I think it's definitely a dominant/submissive thing...I mean 'ler' and 'lee' is very obvious there right? It's definitely helplessness and in control thing, like BDSM but maybe a little less intense. It's also a kind of innocent sort of play thing that people like about it also, if it's not sexual. Also it could be like that in that it (sensations) are more intense

And if anyone else is like me, I remember being tickled as a little kid and really really liking it but also getting blush and very embarrassed when people would...I didn't want them to know I like it but I'd try to get myself into ticklish situations! 😛. Even now I can't stand it but I love it both.

I remember getting into tickle fights many moons ago with my sis. Such innocent times, but I would really, really enjoy it. Since I was sexually aware at such a young age, I would often get embarrassed over these innocent things...

Garden of Eden moments I guess... Which brings me to your statement about innocence. It can often be such an innocent action, very playful and free. I think when we analyze why our bodies react a certain way to a stimulus, we introduce the "dirty" nature to it that society has cultivated.

Anywho... all that to tell you I think you have such a cute pic! LOL! Best wishes to you and yours...

 

[xSamanthax]

Garamonde (why does that name ring a bell??)...

I think it's different for everyone. Human sexuality is about as complex as it gets. Even the "experts" don't know exactly why people have the turn ons that they do. Not sure the how or why even matters, unless it is causing you some kind of emotional discomfort.

Enjoy it, find others who enjoy it....life is too short to psychoanalyze everything, lol.

 

[cue]

I've only gotten tickled by my husband, so I guess I just associate tickling with sex, since we incorporate me getting tickled into foreplay. So, when he does tickle me, it just gets me excited. But, I don't know what would happen if a friend would start tickling me. I know I'm not sexually interested in any of my friends, but can't say that I wouldn't get sexually stimulated either from it. Hard to tell.

 

[Evil Dave]

It's the whole sub/dom control thing used as an aspect of foreplay for me.

If I was wired slightly differently it could easily be a more physical form of S&M that pushed my buttons.

 

[lemoncake]

I think its a lot of things. i think its that wanting to feel good/make another person feel good. It can show affection and desire much like sex does. It can give you a connected feeling to another person. It can be a dominance/ submission/loss of control much like sex can be. You can be at your most vulnerable moment, just like sex. I think that it can also both energize and drain you, haha, just like sex.

 

[Lord Doctor]

I supose it's whatever you make of it.

Could be that at some time you tickled a girl you fancy, which creates an asosciation which burrows deep into the subconscious and grows.

It will be different for each of us. For some, there is no connection

 

[dove]

I remember getting into tickle fights many moons ago with my sis. Such innocent times, but I would really, really enjoy it. Since I was sexually aware at such a young age, I would often get embarrassed over these innocent things...

Garden of Eden moments I guess... Which brings me to your statement about innocence. It can often be such an innocent action, very playful and free. I think when we analyze why our bodies react a certain way to a stimulus, we introduce the "dirty" nature to it that society has cultivated.

Anywho... all that to tell you I think you have such a cute pic! LOL! Best wishes to you and yours...

Oh yess! I used to do it all the time but it was my brother of course, and we know that brothers are always evil, especially when they're older

What you say is that it might be the combination of innocence and sexualness that makes it so nice is what I think I understand. Deffinitely true!! But I think it could be different for many people...or maybe just all in the back of your head you don't know about

Thank you for saying such nice things! My kitty is cute too, isn't he? 😛 Best wishes to you as well 🙂

 

[RavenMoon]

Thank you for saying such nice things! My kitty is cute too, isn't he? 😛 Best wishes to you as well 🙂

Yep! He's a doll! It amazes me the places they find to nap. Ousr insist on my legs every time I sit down and put my feet up...

 

[TRU]

if there's an explanation behind the connection, idk what it is.

it turns me on, it sexually satisfies me, tickle torture is awesome. i like it intense and want it to last as long as possible.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I'm not sure I understand it myself. I notice it whenever I tickle a woman, I pretty much instantly get horny. Is this because I love having control over a woman in such a way, or is it because it's probably the closest I'm ever going to get to touching a woman? I'm not sure. I've never been good at psychoanalyzing myself.

It more or less could be the response that you're causing as well as the fact that tickling is your preferred (more or less) form of physical touch. One that brings forth the feelings of arousal.

Just as much as one would get simply wrestling around with a lover. Throw in the tickling aspect and there you go.

Some folks can only play like that in an intimate situation due to how strong of an arousal they feel from the tickling/act of. Others manage to differentiate.

It varies with everyone.

 

[SlaverTickler]

I'm not sure I understand it myself. I notice it whenever I tickle a woman, I pretty much instantly get horny. Is this because I love having control over a woman in such a way, or is it because it's probably the closest I'm ever going to get to touching a woman? I'm not sure. I've never been good at psychoanalyzing myself.

My connection is when I tickle a woman I get an erection. I don't try to understand it, I am simply happy for it.


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[CantonTom]

odd one out here

For me it is both sexual and non sexual depending on who I'm tickling,my girlfriend for example gets horny from it,a few other people I know that enjoy it just like the rush of it,but even some of them get off on it. I think it is somewhat based on who you are tickling