What's with all the ruckus.......

[Tamia78]

...........about dating on the TMF all of a sudden? In my 3 years here, I've never really dwelled on the subject much, not to mention not too many guys out there actually looking for dateable females on here (or maybe it's just me).

There have been a few threads about dating that I've seen pop up over the last couple of weeks. It's kinda like an obssession. Not that it's bad to want someone who shares your interests, mind you. That's not what I'm saying. Also, it seems to be males who are initiating these threads.

Is there something in the water?

Anyways, sorry for rambling. It's nice to see people getting together!

--T

 

[BrightEyes1082]

LOL! Buttscratcher!

Sorry. Yeah, I agree. People just need to make friends on the forum,
and then if something happens, great. If not, you've got a large number
of awesome friends all over the globe.

 

[Mz Chaos]

That's not what I'm saying. Also, it seems to be males who are initiating these threads.

--T

I noticed that too.

I'll take one of those buttscratchers! Beats scooting along on my behind on the carpet.

 

[SamuelKhan]

That cat means business.

 

[xionking]

Yeah, I've noticed it a bit. In my opinion, I'd say it has to do with the growing number of new members (particularly youngens) that have gotten involved over the last year. Actually, does anyone actually have a number of how many members were on the TMF this time a year ago compared to now? I'd be interested to see.

But yeah...the TMF is providing more ways for people to interact more on a personal level (private messages, friendship requesting, photo albums). So, perhaps now that we're in an era of 'Facebook' and 'Twitter', people are utilizing that kinda of format here on the TMF as well.

As long as peeps aren't getting hurt and frightened off, I say go for it.

-Xionking

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Yeah, I've noticed it a bit. In my opinion, I'd say it has to do with the growing number of new members (particularly youngens) that have gotten involved over the last year. Actually, does anyone actually have a number of how many members were on the TMF this time a year ago compared to now? I'd be interested to see.

But yeah...the TMF is providing more ways for people to interact more on a personal level (private messages, friendship requesting, photo albums). So, perhaps now that we're in an era of 'Facebook' and 'Twitter', people are utilizing that kinda of format here on the TMF as well.

As long as peeps aren't getting hurt and frightened off, I say go for it.

-Xionking

This. And to follow up on it, quite a few of the females have been members here for a while so naturally they've made more friends in comparison to someone who's just joined. It's a bit frustrating to see messages posted up on your friend's profiles along the lines of, "Hi ur hot do you haz AIM can u get on that would be so cool? Show me pics uv ur_________" So in the age of Twitter, Facebook, blah blah, please demonstrate some restraint, respect and manners. 😉

 

[Goodieluver]

In times of recession people look for companionship alot more than normal

That could be a reason

 

[lemoncake]

Yeah I don't get the whole sharing of twitter, facebook, myspace thing. I don't even know you, why would I share that with you? So you can just comment it up with weird stuff? I'll never get that whole "you look cool from your myspace thing". Its easy to make a fake one of those. I dunno, I think its just a lot of the guys on here want a fast meeting. They want to chat on aim or yahoo, exchange some pics and meet up or something. Then they get frustrated when it doesn't happen. Sometimes it feels like spam or something.

 

[Tamia78]

Hey, thanks all for responding.

I'm not just talking about hooking up for a session or something. Those types are ALWAYS around, lol. I really do mean it seems as if alot of members really are looking for someone quality to spend some time with, and that's great. I just wonder why all of a sudden, ya know?

Maybe it is the recession. I dunno.

"Hi ur hot do you haz AIM can u get on that would be so cool? Show me pics uv ur_________"

So....you're saying that's NOT the way to really getting to know someone? What am I doing wrong?

--T

 

[chicago]

Dating someone from here is rough. If you can do it, awesome, but it's hard to find a normal guy that you can actually see dating. Most of them just want to hook up for tickling or they're so socially retarded you can't really relate to them or they're fucking crazy or they live on the other side of the country/Earth. And I have learned multiple times that the long distance thing is not for me.

 

[venray]

Hey, thanks all for responding.

I'm not just talking about hooking up for a session or something. Those types are ALWAYS around, lol. I really do mean it seems as if alot of members really are looking for someone quality to spend some time with, and that's great. I just wonder why all of a sudden, ya know?

Maybe it is the recession. I dunno.



So....you're saying that's NOT the way to really getting to know someone? What am I doing wrong?

--T

The community is growing...people are taking more time to get to know one another through chat pms posts munches and gatherings.....

We are evolving....more and more, people will be looking for those that will accept them as they are and try to form meaningful relationships...

As Annie said, it is hard sometimes, but with all the features available here and the sheer number of members, the chances of finding someone have increased greatly....

 

[Tinkerhead414]

Well, in my case, I recently got off of a relationship of 15 months, so I am one of the ones who are single and looking, but then again, I am also not one of the ones trying to hook up with anyone here. I have seen enough unanswered personals to be able to take a hint.

I obviously couldn't say anything about a trend.

But to respond to AnnieHall, I would consider myself a normal guy worthy of dating. It's just that those guys are also not the desperate ones sending PMs left and right to girls.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

So....you're saying that's NOT the way to really getting to know someone? What am I doing wrong?

--T

 

[Oddjob0226]

There's alwasy the personals section - why isn't that enough for people?

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Idk.....has it been a full moon recently?

In all seriousness though maybe it's the plethora of folks coming out and saying hi and going to things. Idk, more exposure perhaps equals more hope of finding happiness?

 

[xionking]

There's alwasy the personals section - why isn't that enough for people?

As long as it isn't interfering with your day, then I really don't think it should matter where people go looking for love.

-Xionking

 

[SlaverTickler]

Ruckus mamm? I didn't hear a ruckus... could you descibe the ruckus?

 

[Oddjob0226]

As long as it isn't interfering with your day, then I really don't think it should matter where people go looking for love.

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Then why even have sections & subforums? There's both a Humor Forum and a Silly Stuff Forum and PMs, yet people still post their clever winky-wink 'aside' in-jokes in the General Discussion Forum that only 20 out of 10,000 members will get.

So start posting armpit photos in the P&R Forum. Put drawings in the Sports Forum. Go to the Gatherings Forum and put in pictures of cats hazing cheezeburgers. None of this interferes with anyone's day - but why break up the forums into seperate sections if it shouldn't matter?

I've seen newcomers post something in the General discussion forum looking for this n' that and someone other than me ususally posts back that their quesry should be put in Personals. It matters to enough people, I guess.

And is it really 'love' they are looking for? I haven't really seen any trend.

 

[wishful1234]

Re; looking for substantial relationship...

In response to Tamia78
"I'm not just talking about hooking up for a session or something. Those types are ALWAYS around, lol. I really do mean it seems as if alot of members really are looking for someone quality to spend some time with, and that's great. I just wonder why all of a sudden, ya know?"

(I couldn't get it to quote in a blue box, sorry)

I make no bones about it; I'm looking for a substantial, long-term relationship, a life-partner to fill the void left from my last partner. And here's a place full of people who share my unusual interest, possibly the trickiest piece of the puzzle to fit. That's my No.1 goal, the highest prize for me... and I'm obviously not alone in this...

BUT, maybe that's not the mindset of this forum, and I certainly can't expect some woman to read my post and throw her body and soul at me sight unseen- if that happens she's probably a stalker.

SO, I'm starting to "get" it, this is a place for meeting friends. Something could very well blossom somewhere down the road, but you gotta start small and not force things to happen.

Men especially are goal oriented, eyes-on-the-prize etc, we see what we want most and jump twenty steps ahead towards it. So we blunder in, try and get it right away by the quickest means; but a good solid, deep relationship doesn't happen instantly.

I think it's a positive sign if lots of people are looking for dating, relationships and not just carnal hook-ups or one night pleasure-flings. It demonstrates depth. Maybe the ecomony has people evaluating what they truly value in life...

 

[SlaverTickler]

...........about dating on the TMF all of a sudden? In my 3 years here, I've never really dwelled on the subject much, not to mention not too many guys out there actually looking for dateable females on here (or maybe it's just me).

There have been a few threads about dating that I've seen pop up over the last couple of weeks. It's kinda like an obssession. Not that it's bad to want someone who shares your interests, mind you. That's not what I'm saying. Also, it seems to be males who are initiating these threads.

Is there something in the water?

Anyways, sorry for rambling. It's nice to see people getting together!

--T

The truth Tamia, you know me well enough that I will give it to you straight... and I'll be honest in a conversation too. The fact is you are a beutiful woman, both physicaly and as a person. You care about your buddies and look out for them. You are smart, and indapendent, and... fairly decent (I mean you talk to me so you have some flaws lol). You will find a good guy on the exact day when you aren't looking for him. Thats how love works, you just sort of fall into it. There is know "battle plan" there is know way to really tell a good man from a bad man except for time. You are just about every thing a woman could or should be, and I find it hard to believe that none of the guys you have met have realized that yet. That is there loss not yours, because you are one awesome chick.

ST

 

[Tamia78]

BUT, maybe that's not the mindset of this forum, and I certainly can't expect some woman to read my post and throw her body and soul at me sight unseen- if that happens she's probably a stalker.

Oh, c'mon......calling 25 times in an hour does NOT make you a stalker....

SO, I'm starting to "get" it, this is a place for meeting friends. Something could very well blossom somewhere down the road, but you gotta start small and not force things to happen.

Men especially are goal oriented, eyes-on-the-prize etc, we see what we want most and jump twenty steps ahead towards it. So we blunder in, try and get it right away by the quickest means; but a good solid, deep relationship doesn't happen instantly.

This is definitely quote-worthy. It sounds like you indeed "get it". Good luck in your search.

I think it's a positive sign if lots of people are looking for dating, relationships and not just carnal hook-ups or one night pleasure-flings. It demonstrates depth.

So is the TMF...............GROWING UP? *gasp*

There's alwasy the personals section - why isn't that enough for people?

The personals are fine, but the fact is, some people don't even post there, so it's kinda hard to rely on personals to meet people's dating needs. And from the ones who DO actually post, most are just looking for play in their area, not really a relationship.


I think Ray and Musicrox said it pretty good--- there's just more people coming "out" and saying hi, not to mention more younguns (yes, if you're younger than I, you're a youngun 😀)

Annie also has a point. Sure, we all like tickling, but that doesn't GUARANTEE that everything else will click into place enough to actually try and have a relationship. If it happens......those people are lucky.


ps to Slaver-- I got a man, lol. You still made me cry with your post. Thank you!


--T

 

[Capnmad]

SO, I'm starting to "get" it, this is a place for meeting friends. Something could very well blossom somewhere down the road, but you gotta start small and not force things to happen.

Ya hit the nail on the head, brother. Good to see you posting -- becoming more active around here is the first way to start getting a little bit better known. When people get to know you a bit by your posts or in chat, they may want to know more... It's a gradual process in which patience and perseverence serve well. Christina and I both appreciated meeting you at the munch last night, and I hope to see you more active around the forum. 🙂


More on the topic -- Goodie had an interesting point that people seek "companionship" in times of recession. I don't know if that's genuine, lasting companionship, or just a function of the logic that, "Well, sex is cheaper and more fun than a movie", or that the one leads to the other... Could we perhaps be witnessing a manifestation of the recession here? Or is this just another fluke trend that goes as sure as it comes? I dunno to say for sure.

 

[Mephistopheles]

or they're fucking crazy or they live on the other side of the country/Earth.

You just broke my heart 🙁

 

[chicago]

You just broke my heart 🙁

Oh, dear. 🙁

 

[Saeria]

Dating on the TMF?? Who the hell does that?