What's with all the ruckus.......

[fordtech30]

I would say it's just like any other site for dating or anything else. It's a crap shoot.

As a guy you always have to:
1. Prove your not a stalker or some crazy serial killer
2. Prove that your worth talking to.
3. Prove that you are who you say you are.

These three things are not easy in any way. Dating on the TMF? I'm all for it! If you can find someone special anywhere in this crazy world then I wish everyone on here the best of luck.

I think Tamia had it right. It's hard to tell the difference between people who are serious and those who just like to flirt with everyone.

Dating sucks! I think most single people will agree. I think the ruckus is from people actually seeing people meeting and dating through this site. They think Wow! "If it worked for them, it could work for me!"

So to all my forum brothers and sisters out there. I say GO FOR IT!!

 

[Marquis De Sade]

As a guy you always have to:
1. Prove your not a stalker or some crazy serial killer
2. Prove that your worth talking to.
3. Prove that you are who you say you are.

These three things are not easy in any way.

Why are they not easy to prove? 😕

 

[wishful1234]

My A's to fordtech's Q's

3. Easy, I don't pretend to be someone else
2. Easy, cause I AM worth talking to (usually, except when the silly side takes over)
1. Tricky....

Why is it so tricky to prove I'm not a maniac? Well... for one I'm eccentric (as is nearly anyone on this site I'd guess) but not a rich eccentric (which means I'm some nutcase in a trailer out in the swamp somewhere)

and... one of my older fantasies is to be like Freddy, lure victims to my boiler room/basement, chase em around a bit and then tickle the daylights outta them (instead of slicing and dicing)

... guess I'm the "serial/crazy" without the "killer" 🙂

Plus I'm shy, which means I'm a little nervous, which can send the wrong message...

 

[fordtech30]

Well I wasn't actually asking questions. These are just things that girls online have told me.

As far as it being hard to prove those things I said. It's really not. It depends on the person. some people are just more guarded than others.

 

[Morpheus72]

Another consideration is that once one thread on a particular topic is started, people may start to think about it and then start similar related threads as off-shoots. That's what I think has happened here.

 

[Mz Chaos]

As a guy you always have to:
1. Prove your not a stalker or some crazy serial killer
2. Prove that your worth talking to.
3. Prove that you are who you say you are.

These three things are not easy in any way.

Actually... not that I'm an expert, because I'm far from it... but my advice is to:

Post, post, post... I can't speak for other's here, but when I start talking to someone (even female) I hit their profile and read it. I read their back posts. I want to see what kind of personality they have. Do the back posts show a sense of humor? Does it show intellect? Are all the answers short or are there some that are longer, well thought out, more involved? How do they talk or respond to other posters?

DON'T sound desperate in PM's and for God sakes DON'T start the very first PM with something like "OMG! U R feets so purty. I could tickle them til you scream for mercy." Take things slow and easy. You'll get more responses from "Saw your post in the _________ thread. I thought it was _________." at the very least you'll get a thank you and that's all you need to start a conversation.

Edit your profile to show more than just your name and if you are a ler or a lee. So many times I have gone to a man's profile and they don't even give their age. How in the world do I know if we're close in age or even within a decade of each other? Some of those profiles are pretty uninformative and lame. What do you think that makes us think about you?

 

[waitin2btkled]

I agree that lately there have been a lot of dating type threads. I gave my 2 cents to some of them.

Like everyone is saying, there are a lot more young people here who are or want to be actively dating.

I also agree about taking things slow. Its hard to create a relationship out of thin air or hitting up a girl 50 times.

 

[fordtech30]

Actually... not that I'm an expert, because I'm far from it... but my advice is to:

Post, post, post... I can't speak for other's here, but when I start talking to someone (even female) I hit their profile and read it. I read their back posts. I want to see what kind of personality they have. Do the back posts show a sense of humor? Does it show intellect? Are all the answers short or are there some that are longer, well thought out, more involved? How do they talk or respond to other posters?

DON'T sound desperate in PM's and for God sakes DON'T start the very first PM with something like "OMG! U R feets so purty. I could tickle them til you scream for mercy." Take things slow and easy. You'll get more responses from "Saw your post in the _________ thread. I thought it was _________." at the very least you'll get a thank you and that's all you need to start a conversation.

Edit your profile to show more than just your name and if you are a ler or a lee. So many times I have gone to a man's profile and they don't even give their age. How in the world do I know if we're close in age or even within a decade of each other? Some of those profiles are pretty uninformative and lame. What do you think that makes us think about you?

Ok. Lets take this further. This is a good point. To comment on someone's thread or post.

But what people act like on the computer and the way they are in real life are sometimes two different things. Even if they have pics, it may not be them.

And even if they comment to a post. It still may be a tactic to get what they want.

The whole reason behind this thread was because people on here didn't seem to be serious abt anything. They know how to get people's attention and play the game so to speak.

 

[Tamia78]

My A's to fordtech's Q's

3. Easy, I don't pretend to be someone else
2. Easy, cause I AM worth talking to (usually, except when the silly side takes over)
1. Tricky....

So..............females are just supposed to like you becuase you're YOU? In a perfect world, that would be great, wouldn't it?

People are misunderstanding what Ford's trying to say here. We all know that females get ALOT more (unwanted) attention here than males on this forum. So it isn't a stretch to say that males have to kind of "prove" themselves to be a somewhat normal, decent human being other than the "OMG UR HAWT CN I TKL UR FEETZ?" guy. Now that I think about it, that works on the internet in general, not just this forum.

Well, we're getting off on a tangent anyways from the original thread topic, but what the hell, lol.

--T

 

[tkpatience]

I would love to see this place as a more social environment capable of handling dating and the like. Between the wonderful girl to guy ratio and let's call it gender/culture clash, TMF is a little less than desirable place to find a date. At least it's better than adult friend finder and eharmony.

The ruckus is that the world is a lonely place. It can be heaven to not have a bunch of rugrats running around and gumming things up or it can be hell waking up in a cold empty bed. The water is poisoned. Or rather just noxious enough to repel. The western society has a culture that tends to favor females being prizes to be won over and treated like goddesses.

In less fortunate parts of the world, freedom means not be sold for sex as a slave. In the animal kingdom other animals outside of our species copulate with suitable mates. So perhaps it's a human issue. little boys and girls seem to get along so maybe it just happens when puberty blooms.

"Most of you will *never* fall in love, but will marry out of fear of dying alone!" Edna Krabappel's words of wisdom in The Simpsons

http://www.dailymotion. com/video/x7mjmx_the-simpsons-sex-eductation-film_shortfilms

 

[Aimee]

I agree that lately there have been a lot of dating type threads. I gave my 2 cents to some of them.

Like everyone is saying, there are a lot more young people here who are or want to be actively dating.

I also agree about taking things slow. Its hard to create a relationship out of thin air or hitting up a girl 50 times.

I don't WHY guys think it is a smart idea to try to talk to every girl on this forum and leave SAME EXACT wall post on mine along with 50 other girls.

Even with PMs...I'm like they must have copied and pasted this exact thing to a bunch of other girls... it's like COME ONNN!

I guess this is just bugging me a lot because it's been happening to me recently.

EDIT: I kid you not as I was posting this I got one.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

But what people act like on the computer and the way they are in real life are sometimes two different things. Even if they have pics, it may not be them. And even if they comment to a post. It still may be a tactic to get what they want.

The whole reason behind this thread was because people on here didn't seem to be serious abt anything. They know how to get people's attention and play the game so to speak.

True. So, if you really wanna be friends with someone here then get to know that person first, wait until you're both comfortable enough and then take it outside. Anywhere - phone, AIM, social networking sites, whatever, then...I dunno. Maybe meet up sometime maybe at a gathering or something. That goes for any kind of relationship whether it be friendship or more. There is no way to really know someone online. You can be whoever the hell you wanna be.

And Aimee brings up a great point. In fact, this has been going on for so long is there any way to put this up somewhere in the forum? Like in the Welcome To the TMF section or something? A please No Stoopid Feetz Plz or I Can Haz Ur Phone Number Cutie Winky Wink notice?

 

[lemoncake]

I don't WHY guys think it is a smart idea to try to talk to every girl on this forum and leave SAME EXACT wall post on mine along with 50 other girls.

Even with PMs...I'm like they must have copied and pasted this exact thing to a bunch of other girls... it's like COME ONNN!

I guess this is just bugging me a lot because it's been happening to me recently.

EDIT: I kid you not as I was posting this I got one.

I've gotten Pms that were copied and pasted with questions that were for another female member with her name on it. Then the person messaged me back saying, whoops, sorry, I got you confused with someone else. Sure you did.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

I've gotten Pms that were copied and pasted with questions that were for another female member with her name on it. Then the person messaged me back saying, whoops, sorry, I got you confused with someone else. Sure you did.

Awwww...sad.

 

[Adam]

Awwww...sad.

Sad and lazy, really. Jeez, it's just too much effort to send a personalized message. 😛

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Sad and lazy, really. Jeez, it's just too much effort to send a personalized message. 😛

At the very LEAST change the name. 😛

 

[Mephistopheles]

I've gotten Pms that were copied and pasted with questions that were for another female member with her name on it. Then the person messaged me back saying, whoops, sorry, I got you confused with someone else. Sure you did.

Every time I see a women write PMS I think about premenstrual syndrome. 🙁

 

[Goodieluver]

Actually... not that I'm an expert, because I'm far from it... but my advice is to:

Post, post, post... I can't speak for other's here, but when I start talking to someone (even female) I hit their profile and read it. I read their back posts. I want to see what kind of personality they have. Do the back posts show a sense of humor? Does it show intellect? Are all the answers short or are there some that are longer, well thought out, more involved? How do they talk or respond to other posters?

DON'T sound desperate in PM's and for God sakes DON'T start the very first PM with something like "OMG! U R feets so purty. I could tickle them til you scream for mercy." Take things slow and easy. You'll get more responses from "Saw your post in the _________ thread. I thought it was _________." at the very least you'll get a thank you and that's all you need to start a conversation.

Edit your profile to show more than just your name and if you are a ler or a lee. So many times I have gone to a man's profile and they don't even give their age. How in the world do I know if we're close in age or even within a decade of each other? Some of those profiles are pretty uninformative and lame. What do you think that makes us think about you?

A\S\L please?

 

[waitin2btkled]

I don't WHY guys think it is a smart idea to try to talk to every girl on this forum and leave SAME EXACT wall post on mine along with 50 other girls.

Even with PMs...I'm like they must have copied and pasted this exact thing to a bunch of other girls... it's like COME ONNN!

I guess this is just bugging me a lot because it's been happening to me recently.

EDIT: I kid you not as I was posting this I got one.

LOL....Nothing but love honey.....I find that most girls on here are very turned off because of that which makes it difficult especially for someone who is new.

 

[Aimee]

Every time I see a women write PMS I think about premenstrual syndrome. 🙁

Sounds like a personal problem there, buddy!

 

[Jackalx33]

Yeah umm I honestly do not care for a tickle session or whatever. I myself would like to have someone as my other half. I also think I am a guy worthy of dating. And it sucks to be alone. Luckily I do not rely on this too much.

 

[Tinkerhead414]

Even with PMs...I'm like they must have copied and pasted this exact thing to a bunch of other girls... it's like COME ONNN!

I guess this is just bugging me a lot because it's been happening to me recently.

EDIT: I kid you not as I was posting this I got one.

Well, that's what you get for being hot!

But to seriously respond to this: I certainly don't copy and paste when I message girls, but especially on a forum like this where you don't have much to go on, it is hard to come up with an insightful interesting message right off the bat.

At the very least, I try to be friendly, and initiate some sort of conversation, in hopes of finding some connection. The problem is that I tend to get shut down before that can happen. I either don't get a response, or it's a cold, "not interested" type of deal. I'm not complaining, just relating my experience.

 

[Goodieluver]

I use PM's 99% of the time to just converse with whomever wants to hear the nonsensical rambling of a loud mouthed malcontent

I peruse the personals and if a philly from illinois is advertising, I may shoot a message

Just for tickles? Cool
Something more? Cool

 

[fordtech30]

Well, that's what you get for being hot!

But to seriously respond to this: I certainly don't copy and paste when I message girls, but especially on a forum like this where you don't have much to go on, it is hard to come up with an insightful interesting message right off the bat.

At the very least, I try to be friendly, and initiate some sort of conversation, in hopes of finding some connection. The problem is that I tend to get shut down before that can happen. I either don't get a response, or it's a cold, "not interested" type of deal. I'm not complaining, just relating my experience.

Perfect example!

I don't know this person, but he is reinforcing my point. He sends a message to a girl and gets shot down right off the bat. Because the women on this forum probably get lots of messages. They get a little paranoid and who wouldn't.

So you do have to prove that your a normal guy and someone worth talking to.

We all know you girls don't like the OMG UR FEET R SO HOT! CN I TICKLE U? guy.

But he does tend to ruin it for allot of us.

 

[Aimee]

Perfect example!

I don't know this person, but he is reinforcing my point. He sends a message to a girl and gets shot down right off the bat. Because the women on this forum probably get lots of messages. They get a little paranoid and who wouldn't.

So you do have to prove that your a normal guy and someone worth talking to.

We all know you girls don't like the OMG UR FEET R SO HOT! CN I TICKLE U? guy.

But he does tend to ruin it for allot of us.

Well I'm not saying this goes for EVERY girl on the forum...
But I usually respond to messages that say something like
this...

"Hey how are you?
I've seen you posting a lot on the forum and you seem like a
cool girl. I'm new around here and am just trying to make
some friends ... if you ever want to talk let me know!"

Messages like that aren't creepy, it shows they notice you as more
than a girl on the forum, and it looks like they actually care.
Dunno. But that's usually how it works for me.
I don't respond to "hey you're cute... can we talk about tickling
sometime?"
That's just me though.
I mean when I message a guy on the forum [because it's not
just guys who send PMs!] I try to say something a little more
than just "hey!"