When do you tell her/him

[MeleeDuck_9]

I'm a lurker and I would normally never start a thread.However this issue has been puzzling me.When is the right time to tell your date or partner or whatever about your fetish.My sexuality is heavily based off tickling.I'm not going to be able to have a healthy sex life without it.So what If I'm dating this great girl that I love for like 5 months and when we finally do it,I find out shes not ticklish at all or she hates it and won't let me tickle her.Or worse she just thinks I'm a freak.I know you probably shouldn't blurt it out on the first date,but not wait till sex to tell them.Then again,I don't get many dates.

 

[Ticklee1973]

Based on past threads about this, I think you're going to get answers ranging from immediately to several months down the line and everyone has their reasons for their answer. When I was dating I tended to put it out there right away even before I met them or on the first date or in the first phone conversation. My reason why is exactly the reason you asked about dating someone for 5 months and then finding out they're not ticklish or vice versa if you're a lee. I want to know right off the bat before I have feelings for someone if they are even remotely open to the possibility of this lifestyle. Doesn't mean they won't have questions or whatnot but at last be a but intriguedand open minded is what I looked for. Now I wouldn't go gung ho into the extreme bondage, gags and all of that but I would certainly mention it in terms of say I enjoy this and it's a big part of me type deal to see what their reaction is.

Just my .02 for what it's worth.

Sande

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Thing with me is I never really had to tell. I played around enough and most of them just kind of figured it out. So long as I keep doing it playfully, none of them though I was weird, though some thought the fetish in itself was weird, but never me personally.

Just my experiences, maybe that can help you out some.

 

[Krekan]

I honestly don't know when the "right time" is, mainly because the girls I'm with were the ones who sprung it on me, with no lead up or even prior conversation. We were just kinda hanging out around my room after a big school project, and this is basically how the conversation went (I've changed the names simply because I don't like telling people my name until I meet them face to face):

"Krekan, we like to be tickled"
"...what?"
"I said we like to be tickled. We meet ever other week or so, tie each other to beds, and tickle each other for hours on end."
*long pause* "And this has what to do with me?"
"We want you to join."
"Sure."

And then the conversation stopped. It was very awkward for all of us and I'm still asking myself why they chose me specifically chose me or what they would have said or done if I had turned them down. Granted I'm very grateful for it. I don't really expect this to help, but please remember that no matter how you do it, telling someone to their face that you have a tickling fetish is going to be extremely awkward and will take A LOT of guts on your part.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

I honestly don't know when the "right time" is, mainly because the girls I'm with were the ones who sprung it on me, with no lead up or even prior conversation. We were just kinda hanging out around my room after a big school project, and this is basically how the conversation went (I've changed the names simply because I don't like telling people my name until I meet them face to face):

"Krekan, we like to be tickled"
"...what?"
"I said we like to be tickled. We meet ever other week or so, tie each other to beds, and tickle each other for hours on end."
*long pause* "And this has what to do with me?"
"We want you to join."
"Sure."

And then the conversation stopped. It was very awkward for all of us and I'm still asking myself why they chose me specifically chose me or what they would have said or done if I had turned them down. Granted I'm very grateful for it. I don't really expect this to help, but please remember that no matter how you do it, telling someone to their face that you have a tickling fetish is going to be extremely awkward and will take A LOT of guts on your part.

...WOW...

 

[unclebill]

My advice is if she doesn`t accept your fetish, dump her and get a puppy.

 

[nylonsnfeet]

When?

I have 2 say ASAP. What ticklee said. It is a part of who u r & they should know straight -up. Maybe not their cup o' tea, & "they" may not b interested in continuing the relationship.🙁

 

[Brutus]

I personally think a good rule of thumb would be at the two month mark of the relationship. I would think after that amount of time you should have a pretty good idea if you want to have a long term relationship with this person or not and vice versa. So if you do, broach the subject with her. If she's averse to it, then you can both make your break without wasting anymore of each other's time. As far as ticklishness is concerned, you should find that out to some degree by the second date at the latest. Just my two cents...