when does tickling go to far?

[janis]

does tickling ever cross that line when the ler(s) have gone to far?
for instance, when it becomes embarrassing to the lee.
tickling in public were it draws attention from strangers.that would be one for me.it can be embarrassing enough when tickled by family or friends in a group.
being tickled until you wet your pants would be another.
this happened to me once.
would you agree that these would be going to far?
would like to here your opinions on this.

ps,hope i'm not sounding like an old fuddy duddy.

 

[TicklesFemales]

Janis, your not sounding like an old fuddy duddy at all. I can see it being embarrassing for the lee in public if it draws attention to yourself and the person tickling you, I could also see where it would be embarrassing for you if you were tickled until you wet your pants. This is why you would have to set limits with your tickler to make sure you don't have any embarrassment whatsoever. I know from your posts that you have extremely horribly ticklish feet which I personally love to tickle feet most on women. I could tickle a pair of feet like yours for hours but of course with the use of a safeword and breaks so you would not wet yourself. I would also do this not in public to where it drew attention to you or myself. I do however enjoy tickle teasing light tickling in public places such as in a movie theatre but not intense tickling to where the people in the movie theatre would turn their heads to look at us if you know what I mean. Anyway just wanted to give you my opinion.

TicklesFemales

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I think it can go too far. But, how and when that would happen is as individual as the person is. What's fine for one may be totally over the top for another. This is another good reason for knowing as much as possible about the person, following any agreed upon boundaries, etc.

Personally, I won't play with anyone who thinks these things are not important. The only exception to that are the VERY few people who really do know me well enough to know what not to do and when not to push...as opposed to some out there who think their "experience" precludes any need for input from their potential victims. If they aren't open to at least gaining the knowledge of the things that could be a problem, they aren't touching me.

 

[Tckleme]

It definitely goes too far if the victim/lee doesn´t want to be tickled. That would be like raping, imo.

 

[milagros317]

I am talking about tickling between two consenting adults.

First, in private: If both the ler and the lee had fun, then it didn't go too far. Have fun. 😀

Second, in public: If the two of you caused embarrassment to the random passers-by, then you should have played in private.

 

[daryl]

any time it is noncensual, or moves from being consensual to nonconsensual, it is too much and wrong.

 

[-Hari-]

it goes to far the second that the person being tickled genuinely wants it to stop, wether that be after 5 seconds or 5 hours

 

[chrisheaven]

when there is genuine distress

 

[Redmage]

Tickling that is non-consensual, or in any way discourteous goes to far. It's just like anything else that is non-consensual or discourteous.

I'm wondering if I missed some aspect of the question, because that just seems obvious.

 

[nylonsnfeet]

As a ler myself, it is important for me to understand what my lee DOES NOT like. To ignore this is going too far.

 

[chicago]

Everyone's boundaries are different, unless you're psychic or willing to deal with the repercussions, ask.

 

[ShadowTklr]

I assume you're not asking this question because you don't know the answer, right?

anyway, yeah. what everyone else said. And for those who really and truly don't know when enough is enough, then please keep your hands to yourself. You can't be trusted to use common sense.

And now for the infamous BANANA DANCE!!!!!

 

[sean901]

It definitely goes too far if the victim/lee doesn´t want to be tickled. That would be like raping, imo.

Ermm, i think theres a slight difference between the two, just maybe.

 

[Redmage]

Ermm, i think theres a slight difference between the two, just maybe.

One doesn't require the removal of clothing, while the other does. Were you thinking of something else?

 

[sean901]

One doesn't require the removal of clothing, while the other does. Were you thinking of something else?

So thats the only difference between nonconsensual sex and nonconsensual tickling!!!
I beg to differ

 

[Redmage]

So thats the only difference between nonconsensual sex and nonconsensual tickling!!!
I beg to differ

Sexual assault is sexual assault. As I said before, are you thinking of some other difference?

 

[GC4AH]

Tickling can go too far I agree- like the wetting pants thing- that is just too far- unless its consensual of course then its fine.

However I think tickling in public is quite fun. I always do it to my gf and she does it to me. Just leads to a large tickle session when we get home. It's awesome.