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When stop really means don't stop

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Has anybody else every had this problem?

I remember the first time I had a woman willing to tickle me.

She didn't get that I liked to beg. So when I begged her to stop, she actually stopped.

It was hard to explain to her that she wasn't supposed to stop, no matter how much I begged for mercy.
 
I'd recommend setting up a safeword that isn't "Stop" or "No". Typically, people use "Red", like a stop light, with "Yellow" meaning slow down. My play partner and I use "Potato".

Snail Shell
 
Mine is "Middle Ages". 🙂 It has to be something totally different from the normal reactions you have when you get tickled.
 
What throws me is when I'm begging for it to stop (because a part of me wants it to, but not always), and the 'ler is like, "You want me to stop?"

Well, no. Not really. >.>

Although sometimes I really do. But whenever they ask that and I don't, it makes me falter.
 
CrystalLight said:
What throws me is when I'm begging for it to stop (because a part of me wants it to, but not always), and the 'ler is like, "You want me to stop?"

Well, no. Not really. >.>

Although sometimes I really do. But whenever they ask that and I don't, it makes me falter.
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This drives me nuts. If I really wanted it to stop, I'd just safeword. I hate having to admit that I don't want it to stop.
 
Lee does what she wants to me for as long as she wants to, and she's
always been very good at knowing when it's time to stop. I often think
she should stop long before she actually does, but when it's all over, I
know my limits have been plowed through and the subspace is amazing,
and I'm glad it all happened the way she made it happen. It's good when
you have a top (whether 'ler or otherwise) who doesn't need your safeword.
Not knocking safewords at all, it's just nice to have all responsibility taken
from me. But I guess that's the submissive, not the 'lee, in me. 🙂
 
HA.

No, this happens to me.

I'd say stop, move away, push away, whatever. And then he really stops, and just lets me go... and I'm like..

Ugh.

Oh well. best, what, 20 seconds of my life?
 
kryptonite said:
Has anybody else every had this problem?

I remember the first time I had a woman willing to tickle me.

She didn't get that I liked to beg. So when I begged her to stop, she actually stopped.

It was hard to explain to her that she wasn't supposed to stop, no matter how much I begged for mercy.
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That's the whole point of having a safeword. Mistress Zara knows that if I say "Lavender!" (her choice) that I really am in trouble and really want her to stop.

But if I say, "Mercy! Please stop, I can't stand it. I beg for mercy," then she knows that it really means "Keep on tickling me, I love it! And it's time for you to taunt me and tell me that it will go on for hours and hours with no mercy."
 
Yeah its kinda hard to tell if someone really needs to stop or not. I usually just tell them when they want me to stop just slap me in the face or something, then i'd know exactly when to stop.
 
I remember a few girlfriends that didn't "get it"; that if I begged her to stop etc, that was the point, and she should ignore me!

Once I became more open about my fetish, I never had that problem. 😀
 
I try not to ask for stopping, but I tend to do it right when it feels the best/most intense. I also have a safeword that I can use if I need it.
 
I've never needed to tell my boyfriend to stop tickling me. He seems to always know when it's time. When I tickle him, it's another story! 😛
 
Oh it pisses me RIGHT off I tell thee!

I dont use safewords either so I dont have that theory to fall back on.

The worst tho, is when you dont even say stop and they stop to ask if you want them to anyway. just because I started to laugh and struggle alot...

Having explained that I LIKE being tickled and need to be tied up so I can endure it, why do they stop when I laugh etc? cause thats the whole point of being tickled? reaction, and whats the likely reaction? "har har" perhaps, and then they stop cause they feel mean or something? I wouldnt be lead there tied up if I didnt want them to do it....pure madness, where do people get theyre logic from!

K, rant over 😛
 
Haribish! said:
Having explained that I LIKE being tickled and need to be tied up so I can endure it, why do they stop when I laugh etc? cause thats the whole point of being tickled? reaction, and whats the likely reaction? "har har" perhaps, and then they stop cause they feel mean or something? I wouldnt be lead there tied up if I didnt want them to do it....pure madness, where do people get theyre logic from!
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Pretty much this.

If I say stop, that does NOT mean stop. If I want you to stop - as in, really and genuinely - then I'll make it clear, because in the event I think I might end up with a problem/don't want to be driven utterly insane I'll use a safeword.
 
Begging is so nice. Ultimately, it's my choice if I keep going or not. Heh Heh...
Usually we talk about the scene ahead of time and I try to push them past where they would normally use a safeword.

My favorite ever was "Banana!"

~Ms. Shane
 
Stop never means stop. So don't stop, don't wonder if you should stop, don't ask if you should stop. Kick it up a notch and keep right on going 😀
 
Stop means don't stop. Stop is a natural reactive word that all who are being tickled will say automatically. A special word or "safe word" if one is used or agreed upon is the only word that really means stop but then again, there are times when the victim or ticklee will say that word knowing that it will make the tickler stop even though that tickee really does not want or mean it.
A good tickler will be able to read the ticklee and know when to stop and give a break and if the ticklee has truly had it and wants to be set free, that person will say so then or if it is agreed upon prior to the tickling, that the ticklee wants to be tickled relentlessly no matter what is said....then so be it.
No mercy tickling is more intense anyway both physically and psychologically.
I am all for that style as both the tickler and the ticklee.


Sinisterly,

Boris
 
Like everyone, well mostly has said, I have a safe word for a reason. If I really wanted it to stop I would use it. 🙂
 
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