When Women Say "I'm Very Ticklish" In Conversation, Without Any Actual Tickling Happening

[laffmaker1234]

From time to time some women will discuss their ticklishness with men who are not their significant others. Such as married women telling male friends how ticklish they are when they get a pedicure or similar situations.

When they say "oh I'm VERY ticklish" why do you think they say it? Is it a desire to be teased and tickled? Do they have a secret tickling fetish? Or is it just that those of us who do are making too much of it, and to the women it's simply no big deal, as if they were saying "I hate spicy food." What do you think?

 

[tickle_maniac]

From time to time some women will discuss their ticklishness with men who are not their significant others. Such as married women telling male friends how ticklish they are when they get a pedicure or similar situations.

When they say "oh I'm VERY ticklish" why do you think they say it? Is it a desire to be teased and tickled? Do they have a secret tickling fetish? Or is it just that those of us who do are making too much of it, and to the women it's simply no big deal, as if they were saying "I hate spicy food." What do you think?

Vanilla people don't think about tickling as often and as much as we do. We tend to read too much into random statements such as these.

 

[Jamesplaining]

Last choice.

We tell information about us all the time.
The fact that you notice that is up to you. Perhaps they also say “I like japanese food” without assuming you’d instantly order sushi.

 

[4Pawz]

They are disclosing their experience. 🙂 It’s usually a clarifier, not a hint. Like “I went to the grocery store. People stand in the middle of the aisle!” It’s not welcoming you to stand in the middle of the aisle, it’s expressing an experience with trying to get around the store.

Always exceptions to the rule, but certainly not something to act on either.

 

[laffmaker1234]

What if over the course of let's say three years they've said "I'm very ticklish" about themselves at least three times?

 

[4Pawz]

The number of times doesn’t matter. It’s not an invitation 🙂 I’m saying this as a person who very much enjoys playing and experiencing it. If someone does it to me uninvited or unwanted, it’s mortifying and violating, intentional or not. You have someone engaging in a conversation with you, maybe empathize and discuss? “Oh my, that must be so hard for you!” Or “it must be worth it!”

I know social cues are difficult to interpret. I struggle when it comes to my own experiences sometimes. Err on the side of caution, and don’t do things uninvited. Most people don’t hint or do hidden meanings. If it’s that important, be blunt and ask for clarification with that specific person. 🙂

 

[laffmaker1234]

The number of times doesn’t matter. It’s not an invitation 🙂 I’m saying this as a person who very much enjoys playing and experiencing it. If someone does it to me uninvited or unwanted, it’s mortifying and violating, intentional or not. You have someone engaging in a conversation with you, maybe empathize and discuss? “Oh my, that must be so hard for you!” Or “it must be worth it!”

I know social cues are difficult to interpret. I struggle when it comes to my own experiences sometimes. Err on the side of caution, and don’t do things uninvited. Most people don’t hint or do hidden meanings. If it’s that important, be blunt and ask for clarification with that specific person. 🙂

That's good insight. I think if it's said a few times on different occasions, it may mean something. Not necessarily that the woman wants to be tickled, but that she wants you to know that she is, for whatever reason. I agree that saying it just once is less of a reason to think that.

 

[DebonairDavid]

Maybe she thinks he's cute and admits her ticklishness after he flirted with her about tickling her

 

[laffmaker1234]

That's just it. I mean when someone has said it on at least three different occasions without being prompted by "are you ticklish" more like: "do you go for pedicures" and the answer being. "yes, I do but I'm very ticklish". That sort of thing

 

[Sunriseticklee]

It is 100 % normal for someone to mention pedicures and ticklishness. And it is NOT an invitation for touching without consent no matter how many times tickling is mentioned without prompting.

This has already been stated. However, it shouldn't need to be.

The justification sure sounds like those people who state afterwards, "She was asking for it." when nothing remotely close came out of her mouth. 🙄

 

[laffmaker1234]

It is 100 % normal for someone to mention pedicures and ticklishness. And it is NOT an invitation for touching without consent no matter how many times tickling is mentioned without prompting.

This has already been stated. However, it shouldn't need to be.

The justification sure sounds like those people who state afterwards, "She was asking for it." when nothing remotely close came out of her mouth. 🙄

There is a HUGE gap between suggesting the motives for a woman to volunteer information about her ticklishness and actually tickling that woman. There are tons of steps in between. A response could be: "do you think admitting your ticklishness is a wise thing to do?" as to gauge whether the response is a playful "don't you dare" or a confirmation of lack of interest. And that's only one example.

The point is: questioning a woman's intent for revealing such information is not meant, at least by me, to be an implication that it's ok to move in for a tickle.

 

[Tickleslave83]

I agree I think just because somebody mentioned that doesn't mean that they have a fetish. This comes up on another form that I am part of for omorashi where people automatically think because somebody mentions they have to go to the bathroom often that they have some kind of fetish for that, and it's not the case. When you have a fetish I think you just sort of interpret things differently, but the average person mentioning something like tickling is probably not indicating that they have a tickling fetish, in fact a lot of people who say that they are ticklish do not like the fact that they are ticklish, so it might be an explicit way of saying please do not tickle me.

 

[Seamus_B]

Context is everything, including the dynamics of who's conversing.

 

[U.N.Owen]

That's just it. I mean when someone has said it on at least three different occasions without being prompted by "are you ticklish" more like: "do you go for pedicures" and the answer being. "yes, I do but I'm very ticklish". That sort of thing

As a Neil Simon character says, "This can only mean one thing... and I don't know what it is!"

If someone keeps bringing it up unprompted it probably does mean something. But there's no way of knowing what that "something" is. So unless they decide to tell you why they're bringing it up, it really doesn't matter why - it's just something to file away and forget about.

 

[FFT32]

What if over the course of let's say three years they've said "I'm very ticklish" about themselves at least three times?

I would make the assumption that they are very ticklish...;0)

 

[bluey1]

Well, they're basically confirming to you that they are ticklish, which is great for us to know. But for them, 99% of the time, I would think it's none of those things, it wouldn't be a big deal to them, just an off-hand comment related to the story they are telling. Not a desire to be teased and tickled or that they have a secret tickling fetish.

Having said that, if you know the person well, it does give you a very small opening to introduce tickling into the conversation if you want to without it seeming as weird, as they mentioned it first.

 

[laffmaker1234]

Well, they're basically confirming to you that they are ticklish, which is great for us to know. But for them, 99% of the time, I would think it's none of those things, it wouldn't be a big deal to them, just an off-hand comment related to the story they are telling. Not a desire to be teased and tickled or that they have a secret tickling fetish.

Having said that, if you know the person well, it does give you a very small opening to introduce tickling into the conversation if you want to without it seeming as weird, as they mentioned it first.

Good points. There's a lot of room between it being a big deal or no deal at all. Maybe it's a little deal. Maybe she enjoys being ticklish and even the playful flirtation of being threatened to be tickled, but it's not much more than that. Maybe it's like a "don't you DARE splash me!" comment at the beach, when she secretly wants to be splashed, for the momentary flirtation attention but nothing beyond that.