Where do you draw the line?

[wishfoot88]

so the world of tickling has alot of applications. simple applications like the playful tickling of a friend, and more complex such as full blown tickle torture.
the problem i have is drawing the line between tickling that is and isnt acceptable for someone like me.
the way i see it, tickling is a sexual act for me, from which sexual pleasure is derived. ergo, tickling should not be used out of this context. now im not saying that tickling is ALWAYS erotic for me, but mostly it is.
so following that, i seem to always be thinking and worrying about it, if the oppertunity to tickle or be tickled arrives, should i take it?
obviously i have ruled out any underaged tickling, like if i ever have kids, i will not be tickling them myself, no matter how brief.

but then theres the other end, where i get all paranoid about it and miss out opertunities i should have taken. i once had the socked soles of a girl i liked within my grasp, and only managed a couple of strokes before stopping, the overwhelming sense of shame preventing me from continuing.

but thats all me, my question is;
where do you draw the line?

i have seen some morally questionable material on the interenet, often on the relatively safe Yahoo! Answers. mostly stories of how to tickle kids, or the repetitive story of how a girl is tickled for punishment. its stuff like that that makes me all paranoid.

 

[rhiannon]

To me, tickling elicits sexual feelings immediately. That's why I do not want to be tickled by anybody that I don't consider a potential sex partner. It feels like someone grabbing my boobs!

I know I also wouldn't want anything done to me that turns the other person on and I consider innocent. But that's just me! 🙂

 

[Leo tickles]

It's sexual for me, so I tickle people I am either with or currently dating.

But if I have kids one day, I can tickle them without being turned on because it's a mental thing also and how you view the person you are tickling. It's all just a matter of training your body to see the difference between say a child, and friend, and a partner.

However, not all people can do that, in which case I'd recommend just sticking to dating interests or play partners.

 

[Ohio Girl]

Well, as a lee, I say whenever you hear a safeword.

 

[Mehcookie]

Drawing the line? DRAWING THE LINE?!?!
Tickling is a lifestyle, a form of expression. Not a game.
People should be able to tickle to their heart's content.

 

[wishfoot88]

Drawing the line? DRAWING THE LINE?!?!
Tickling is a lifestyle, a form of expression. Not a game.
People should be able to tickle to their heart's content.

The point I'm trying to make is that if tickling is erotic or sequal the where should you stop? I appreciate the argument for freedom and etc, but im talking about situations and scenarios in which tickling may not be acceptable on a moral level.

 

[goddess_nemesis]

I view tickling as both playful and sexual. I can tickle or be tickled by friends without becoming aroused.

Where you draw the line depends on what you're comfortable with. If tickling is straight up sexual for you and you're uncomfortable with playfully tickling a friend, then it's probably best for you to keep it between you and your sexual partner.

 

[TickleMyFancy]

Tickling is sexual for me, and I do only try to keep it with my partner and me, but there are times where, even for me, tickling can be totally innocent. When I'm teasing my friend and grab her ribs, it's not a turn on. Or in the future when I have kids and I tickle them, it won't be sexual (obviously. gross.)

 

[John J. Rambo]

I probably won't tickle my children or any children at all. The sexual overtones are too strong for me when I tickle someome.
But, like some people before me already said, I can see tickling also as a form of flirting or teasing a (female) friend.

What I will do is tickle the bare feet of a friend if she puts them on my knees or something. I might get aroused a little bit, but I obviously won't tickle her so long that it actually will give me an erection.
I mean, if a girl actually puts her feet on my knees when I sit in front of her she has to at least consider the possibility that I touch her feet and she probably wouldn't do it anyway if she was grossed out by the thought 😉


EDIT: Thinking about it... it's not the actual tickling that turns me on, it's the interaction with the partner, the emotions involved, the feelings and the situation.
So I think if I'm gonna tickle my kid, I will definitely not get aroused. It's just a whole different setting, a whole different situation and a whole differemt reason for tickling.

So, where do I draw the line? I won't tickle someone who's not expecting it, who's not into it and who knows nothing about the fetish for so long that it creeps them out. That's the line.

I mean, I won't get an orgasm from slightly tickling someone for a few seconds. It's not that I use them in that situation.

 

[Mehcookie]

The point I'm trying to make is that if tickling is erotic or sequal the where should you stop? I appreciate the argument for freedom and etc, but im talking about situations and scenarios in which tickling may not be acceptable on a moral level.

Broski, I'm gettin' your point here.
I remember in elementary we had some kind of movie night, I think it was in 5th or 4th grade. And this girl I really liked but I could never speak to grabbed my shoe. Ok strange... She unstrapped my shoe, nobody noticed. So I was getting really nervous. And she stroked my socked feet for a bit, nobody noticed. So I asked her what that was about, and she said I had nice feet 😀 .

 

[ticklemepls]

It's sexual for me, so I tickle people I am either with or currently dating.

But if I have kids one day, I can tickle them without being turned on because it's a mental thing also and how you view the person you are tickling. It's all just a matter of training your body to see the difference between say a child, and friend, and a partner.

However, not all people can do that, in which case I'd recommend just sticking to dating interests or play partners.

Leo makes a good point... i'd have to agree. While it is sexual for me, I'm plenty capable of switching my brain if need be... Theres a difference between playful tickling and sexual tickling for me, cant really explain the ins and outs of it...

Drawing the line? DRAWING THE LINE?!?!
Tickling is a lifestyle, a form of expression. Not a game.
People should be able to tickle to their heart's content.

it was never stated it is a 'game' ... seriously, relax... its a genuine question...

 

[milagros317]

Tickling can be playful or sexual for me.
Any tickling among consenting adults is wonderful. Around that I draw my line and I stay inside that boundary.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

I view tickling as both playful and sexual. I can tickle or be tickled by friends without becoming aroused.

this, except when my parents talk about it. for some reason, that's a strict no-no for me.

 

[FLBowler]

My line is, i only tickle girls and as much as sexual it can be for me, sometimes we playfully tickle just hanging out, I can control when it means something more and when it doesn't. It doesn't control me so if i go a while without don't jump at the next chance and idk if i'd tickle my kids, though studies say it's one of the way parents bond with their kids, no way would it ever be sexual.

 

[3xPIN]

For me, there is no drawn line. I let her 'draw the line'. Her being whoever I am with. It is all about the 'comfort zone'. And respecting that comfort zone. It is about respect and trust.

I will not, however, under any circumstance, allow another man to tickle me. There is no line there either; there is only a fist!

 

[EmbraceSerenity]

Agree with what has been said about it being playful and sexual depending who it's with. Regarding children, I say only with their permission because they are sometimes unable to convey when it hurts or makes them uncomfortable.

I work with kids and when I worked at a nursery a girl would follow me everywhere and ask me to tickle her. I would never do it if she hadnt asked but does it make me a bad person for giving her a quick rib tickle? I stop after a while and tell her no because I'm a professional and it's not right but I wanted to make her smile. Similarly there was a girl who hated being tickled so I promised not to (and never did)

 

[TickleMeP1nK]

If i'm in a relationship and i'm getting tickled by someone else, than I wouldn't want anything sexual to be done to me. It's sexual to me too along with being for fun, but if i'm getting tickled by my boyfriend than i'm obviously going to go all out lol. If you're just a friend or something then nothing sexual should be done to me and I would hope guys would respect that.