Which of these 2 things would be worse?

[fireguardian]

I don't disagree with anything you've said, however I believe the answers that you get are going to depend on personal experience. If someone viewing this thread has a history of having their heart broken, that is likely going to be what is worse in their mind. Likewise, if they frequently find themselves in situations where they have made bad decisions and alienated others, perhaps the guilt of such actions is going to weigh on them more than matters of the heart. So really, there is no right or wrong answer, in my opinion.

I completely agree with you that it is a matter of opinion and personal experience. I'll never say otherwise. I can't say I have actually been in either situation myself. From the few instances where I have it has just seemed like guilt was the heavier burden. Every one wants to help with a broken heart but seems like guilt is treated like it's highly contagious. But oh well it's an opinion for what it's worth.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I think a guilty conscience is worse. It means YOU fucked up.

A broken heart, while also really painful, doesn't necessarily mean that. It could have been caused by anything.

Now, if your heart is broken because of something that you did wrong...well that's probably the worst feeling ever 🙁

 

[Bohemianne]

Naturally, you will encounter challenging circumstances, and hard decisions arise. I have encountered such. You make the best decisions you can at the time, with your knowledge of events, and given the circumstances. If you are certain that they were the best you could do, then guilt is needless. If you have chosen poorly in moral matters, then guilt results. I am at peace with my record, and my record has made being at peace easy.

Ah. I have lived my life accordingly (real life), morally straight. Nope, it is none of this thread's business. I am just saying. 😉

You are saying "the best you could do" based on your pure personal opinion and judgment. It could be wrong to me or to others. Since it is right to you, it best benefits you. We haven't cited examples so these all sound too idealistic.

Guilt is something you inflict within you, self-made, and you have the power to extinguish it. That is my strong opinion on that and it may only be applicable to me and not to you or the rest. No one can ever mindset another opinion to me. A guilt that you haven't acted out but just toying in your mind isn't morally wrong.

I am sure I have a guiltless life too if I base that in the grounds or morality that you are saying. I would more agree with you on your post that we have said our words in all honesty. Thank you for the great debate. 😉

 

[drewskee]

A guilt that you haven't acted out but just toying in your mind isn't morally wrong.

And if it is a guilt that you have acted out?

 

[Bohemianne]

And if it is a guilt that you have acted out?

I am accountable for the things I have done, just in case. Depending on the weight, the solution that I will do is not the business and judgment of others, unless I poked their lives.

There is some point in time that a person who wronged himself too much has the chance to make peace with all his guilt. No one on earth can say that a guilty person always die with it forever and ever. It only happens to those who can't conquer themselves and too weak to forgive their shortcomings.

We live as is, where is and it is not negotiable.