why do people go out of their way to hurt you?

[isabeau]

something happened today. someone went out of their way to hurt me. why do people like to do that? any thoughts? has this happened to you? i mean of course people get hurt but to deliberately do something when all you have done is be nice to them really really hits hard...

isabeau

 

[General Zod]

Isabeau

Sorry that happened to you I think the only way some people can go through life is by being mean to others Why they feel that way I have no idea I used to hate people like that Nowdays it's more like pity

Kharma will get them sooner or later I hope the rest of your day as better

 

[isabeau]

thank you General i dont mean to vent but what this person did has really hurt me... i'll get over it however i am a big girl, figuratively speaking of course lolol

isabeau

 

[Butterfly wings]

knowing about this all to well *punches my hand through a wall* 😡
Some people just can't take you being overally nice to them. It bothers them. So they do something about it. Being hurt by a person on purpose is not good and not being mature at all. It hurts like no other.

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

I'm guessing its a private matter, so its hard to give you a definite answer without knowing what happened.

But people do this to other people all the time. When we hurt we want others to hurt. In relationships, this can be especially true. Consciously we'd never want to do anything to hurt the other (or at least we shouldn't), but subconsciously if we've been hurt in some way, even if it was just a few words, theres a dark part of us that wants appeasement and payback. Usually, this paypack is no greater or less than the pain you felt, but some people get out of hand and lose their senses and better judgement and go overboard.

Either way, its no good and people should talk their problems out. If they did, maybe they could understand why they are both hurting and how they can work through it. If they don't say anything because they're too proud to, but still want to take vindictive actions and behaviors, then it only complicates things. It makes it much more harder to get through to these people, as it requires them to swallow their pride, put themselves in your shoes for a moment, and try and understand.

If they can't do that, then perhaps an intervention is necessary. Or, maybe its just better to walk away from this person, if you can, and move on.

 

[milagros317]

Some people are just spiteful and mean. It will do them no good in the long run. Ignore them if you can.

 

[kurchatovium]

Sorry isabeau. I dont see why anyone would want to hurt you. You are a very sweet and compassionate person. Obviously this person does not know how lucky they were to have you as a friend. Hope you feel better.

 

[isabeau]

you guys are the best. i'm not asking for sympathy, just venting because this action really hurt me..... i really dont mean to be a whiney butt lolol

isabeau

 

[Butterfly wings]

you guys are the best. i'm not asking for sympathy, just venting because this action really hurt me..... i really dont mean to be a whiney butt lolol
isabeau

Nothing wrong with venting and being whiny on here isabeau........ I do it all the time 😀

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

you guys are the best. i'm not asking for sympathy, just venting because this action really hurt me..... i really dont mean to be a whiney butt lolol

isabeau

"Dave, there are two types of people- explosive and implosive.

The explosive person is the one who rants and screams at the register because the store refuses to take their coupons.

The implosive person is the cashier, who stays quiet day after day and then finally shoots everyone in the store.

You're the cashier."- Buddy (as played by Jack Nicholson)

"No! I'm the guy hiding in the frozen food section dialing 911, I swear!"- David (as played by Adam Sandler)

(from the movie Anger Management)

😀

 

[isabeau]

"Dave, there are two types of people- explosive and implosive.

The explosive person is the one who rants and screams at the register because the store refuses to take their coupons.

The implosive person is the cashier, who stays quiet day after day and then finally shoots everyone in the store.

You're the cashier."- Buddy (as played by Jack Nicholson

"No! I'm the guy in the frozen food section dialing 911, I swear!"- David (as played by Adam Sandler)

(from the movie Anger Management)

😀

lolol that made me laugh..... and Butters hon its ok to vent at times. so vent away hehe

isabeau

 

[german]

I know all to well, like last week for example like I said in another thread while playing a friendly game of football with some people I knew from school a guy I knew like did a 'cut block' on my bad knee and it was no accident. I had nothing to do with this person for like 2 years and he comes out and does that. I think it comes down to their problems with themselves also buying 4 new tires after my friends slashed them after the game lol.

But seriously just think your a better person then them.

Kust

 

[nowayjose]

Hi, isabeau

something happened today. someone went out of their way to hurt me. why do people like to do that?

maybe the person was just in a really foul mood and had to let off some steam and didn't have the social competence to just kick a wall or sth. instead of annoying other people. Don't think too much of it; only if it happens repeatedly, I'd distance myself from that person (or at least tell him/her that you do not accept such behaviour).

 

[MrMacphisto]

Depending on what happened, a little revenge isn't such a bad thing to implement. You just have to be careful in how you do it.

Granted, it all comes down to what makes you satisfied. If you have the willpower to shrug off whatever the harm was, then you can simply distance yourself from the offending person.

Anyway, I hope you're ok.

 

[isabeau]

thank you all..i plan on trying to ignore the situation but when i posted this thread i was really hurting. but not any longer . i am ok now Mac thank you

isabeau

 

[Ticklee1973]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that Isabeau, some people can be just mean, although I think for most of them it's a way to make themselves seem superior or better. It looks like you've moved on though, good for you and like maybe someone else said karma can be a bitch.

Sandee

 

[ViperGTS]

Don't take this the wrong way, Isabeau, becasue I do NOT mean this to be a flame in any way.

Consider yourself lucky. The way you put this, it seems like this is the first time anyone has ever gone out of their way to harm you. I've got news for you. The majority of us have been intentionally harmed by another for no reason at all more times than we can count. It's become a normal thing in every day society. There are assholes out there, like me, that will say something to hurt you or upset you just because they dont like you. I differ from them in that I se the error of my ways and apologize, knowing that I hurt someone, and genuinely feeling bad for them afterwards.

Don't get so upset about it. It happens to all of us, and almost every other day sometimes. Get over it and get used to it.

 

[isabeau]

Don't take this the wrong way, Isabeau, becasue I do NOT mean this to be a flame in any way.

Consider yourself lucky. The way you put this, it seems like this is the first time anyone has ever gone out of their way to harm you. I've got news for you. The majority of us have been intentionally harmed by another for no reason at all more times than we can count. It's become a normal thing in every day society. There are assholes out there, like me, that will say something to hurt you or upset you just because they dont like you. I differ from them in that I se the error of my ways and apologize, knowing that I hurt someone, and genuinely feeling bad for them afterwards.

Don't get so upset about it. It happens to all of us, and almost every other day sometimes. Get over it and get used to it.

o i do Vipers believe me i do.... but this for some stupid reason hurt me more than usual.... but you bet i'll get over it. unlike that person i am not petty. and i also apologize when i accidentally or unintentionally hurt someone. its the last thing i want to do..... being so super sensitive myself. grrr i need some thick skin and i need it now. lol sorry

Ticklee1973 thank you hon i'm mucho better. sometimes i post a thread in the heat of the moment.

isabeau

 

[Mastertank1]

You're too sweet sometimes

o i do Vipers believe me i do.... but this for some stupid reason hurt me more than usual.... but you bet i'll get over it. unlike that person i am not petty. and i also apologize when i accidentally or unintentionally hurt someone. its the last thing i want to do..... being so super sensitive myself. grrr i need some thick skin and i need it now. lol sorry

Ticklee1973 thank you hon i'm mucho better. sometimes i post a thread in the heat of the moment.

isabeau

Darling Isabeau;
There is a certain type of person out there in the world who automatically hates good, sweet people like you because your existance shows them that they could be better than they are, and rather than admit to themselves that they're too lazy to make any effort to improve, they find it easier to hate anyone who is better than they are. Gives them a LOT of people to hate!
PM me who they are and what they did and I'll cast a healing spell to try to cure their emotional injury and mental illness. That'll teach 'em.

Love
Mastertank1

 

[unclebill]

Melanie, what did this person say that made you so upset???

 

[isabeau]

Melanie, what did this person say that made you so upset???

um i will pm you tomorrow if you really want to know. i dont bash in open forum.....

isabeau

 

[unclebill]

I just hate to see someone being mean to you. If it becomes too big a problem we can contact the Whitehouse and have Dick Cheney take him out. His aim isn`t very good, but he will get the message across.

 

[isabeau]

I just hate to see someone being mean to you. If it becomes too big a problem we can contact the Whitehouse and have Dick Cheney take him out. His aim isn`t very good, but he will get the message across.

or he could adopt a puppy lololololololol

isabeau and thank you uncle xoxo

also Mastertank xoxo

 

[tiklusilly]

So sorry to hear that someone's been mean to you. Let us know if there's anything we can do to help.

 

[unclebill]

or he could adopt a puppy lololololololol

isabeau and thank you uncle xoxo

also Mastertank xoxo

My "get a puppy" advice is quite good. Thankyou for noticing.