Why do people sometimes say these silly phrases?

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I have been just wondering lately why people sometimes say these silly phrases in reference to love as follows:

You'll find someone when you least expect it.
When I met him/her I felt like I've known that person all my life (when you actually haven't in reality, you just FEEL that way).
There's someone out there for everyone.
When someone talks about finding their soulmate.

I mean I am 35 and still single. Just feel that some people (including myself) aren't meant to get married. Does anyone else agree? I just think that people say the above phrases because they're hopeless romantics and if they're in a relationship, they want everyone to be just as happy as they are. As nice as that is, I don't think it's realistic for everyone. That's my opinion and I am sticking to it.

 

[CurtWild]

seems you are angry or upset about something.....


while i consider myself a hopess romantic of sorts,i`ve never said things like that.i fully believe that some people are meant to be alone(not you..just sayin..)

i find it more irritating when people tell you to "move on" or "get over it".

 

[Horatio]

I've been married twice and neither was my soulmate. So, yeah, I'm kind of with you. But I think there is someone (or maybe a few someones) out there for most people provided they are a halfway normal human. And by normal, I don't mean how they look, I mean how they interact with others.

I have a couple of female friends in a similar situations, TJ. Both are (at this point) in relationships and both got there by being active in some type of social group. It makes sense that the pool of prospective mates is larger if you just expose yourself (not literally!) to a variety of places where people gather.

Church, volunteering, online matching services, people outside your current social group at your place of employment. You just might meet one of your "someone's". But, like everything else in life, you have to work for it.

 

[chicago]

You'll find someone when you least expect it.

That's usually how it works.

When I met him/her I felt like I've known that person all my life (when you actually haven't in reality, you just FEEL that way).

When you meet someone that you can be yourself around, that you have a lot in common with, etc, it can feel like you knew them your whole life, at least for some people. I know people that I feel like I've known my entire life, even though I haven't.

There's someone out there for everyone.

Whoever tells you this is just trying to make you feel better about being single.

When someone talks about finding their soulmate.

There's no such thing as soul mates.

 

[Leo tickles]

They say it to convince themselves. Or you.

That's what "friends" are for. To give you bullshit so you feel better.

This is why I don't do friends. I can lie to myself just fine. 😉

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

seems you are angry or upset about something.....


while i consider myself a hopess romantic of sorts,i`ve never said things like that.i fully believe that some people are meant to be alone(not you..just sayin..)

i find it more irritating when people tell you to "move on" or "get over it".

Well I don't know how you can tell but I am kind of angry and upset about the fact that I am still single at 35. I am trying to keep hopeful but it's hard when I haven't had one successful relationship. Although on the positive side, I have learned a lot from my past relationships. Also, ticklishgiggle when you say that you meet a significant other when you least expect it, well I haven't met my Mr. Right yet and I haven't really been exactly been looking but just putting myself in social situations. It's just very frustrating especially being single during the holidays.

 

[BigJim]

I have been just wondering lately why people sometimes say these silly phrases in reference to love as follows:

You'll find someone when you least expect it.
When I met him/her I felt like I've known that person all my life (when you actually haven't in reality, you just FEEL that way).
There's someone out there for everyone.
When someone talks about finding their soulmate.

I mean I am 35 and still single. Just feel that some people (including myself) aren't meant to get married. Does anyone else agree? I just think that people say the above phrases because they're hopeless romantics and if they're in a relationship, they want everyone to be just as happy as they are. As nice as that is, I don't think it's realistic for everyone. That's my opinion and I am sticking to it.

I feel pretty much the same as you. I just think my character has so many quirks and is so different from what we're all told is "normal" that I don't think I'll ever find someone I can mutually "grok" with. I'm pretty much resigned, at the hoary old age of 29, to never finding anyone.

 

[BigJim]

That's usually how it works.



When you meet someone that you can be yourself around, that you have a lot in common with, etc, it can feel like you knew them your whole life, at least for some people. I know people that I feel like I've known my entire life, even though I haven't.



Whoever tells you this is just trying to make you feel better about being single.



There's no such thing as soul mates.

You remind me a lot of the character Luna Lovegood from the Harry Potter novels, in that you just have this way about you of saying the exact truth, no matter how unpalatable or how dressed up society is used to seeing it.

It's a rare talent mate, for God's sake don't ever lose it.

 

[milagros317]

Most people repeat silly phrases like that to fool themselves or to bullshit the person they're speaking with.

Don't put pressure on yourself or let anybody else put pressure on you. Live your life the way you want to, and realize that there's nothing wrong with being single.

 

[Bugman]

That's what "friends" are for. To give you bullshit so you feel better.

This is why I don't do friends. I can lie to myself just fine

I don't mean to hijack here but i find that rather sad.I would hate to go through life feeling that way myself.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

So I guess it's safe to assume that some people are just not meant to get married, that's sad in a way .

 

[chicago]

So I guess it's safe to assume that some people are just not meant to get married, that's sad in a way .

Marriage seems like such an ancient tradition to me. It's just a piece of paper reiterating what two people should already know if they're going to sign it. Weddings are nice and romantic and all, but you can celebrate your undying devotion to someone any day of the week.

Maybe that's just me.

 

[BigJim]

Nope, it's me as well.

 

[subZer0]

Harry Potter

Oi! No Swearing!

Here's another one that people use; 'there's plenty more fish in the sea'. That one grips my shit.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Marriage seems like such an ancient tradition to me. It's just a piece of paper reiterating what two people should already know if they're going to sign it. Weddings are nice and romantic and all, but you can celebrate your undying devotion to someone any day of the week.

Maybe that's just me.

I would agree with that. Thanks for your wonderful insight on what you said.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I feel pretty much the same as you. I just think my character has so many quirks and is so different from what we're all told is "normal" that I don't think I'll ever find someone I can mutually "grok" with. I'm pretty much resigned, at the hoary old age of 29, to never finding anyone.

I think that you're giving up too easy at the thought of never finding anyone at the age of 29. You'll probably get married before I will. Most people have got married before me anyway.

 

[Miss Serendipity]

I have been just wondering lately why people sometimes say these silly phrases in reference to love as follows:

You'll find someone when you least expect it.
When I met him/her I felt like I've known that person all my life (when you actually haven't in reality, you just FEEL that way).
There's someone out there for everyone.
When someone talks about finding their soulmate.

I mean I am 35 and still single. Just feel that some people (including myself) aren't meant to get married. Does anyone else agree? I just think that people say the above phrases because they're hopeless romantics and if they're in a relationship, they want everyone to be just as happy as they are. As nice as that is, I don't think it's realistic for everyone. That's my opinion and I am sticking to it.

Honestly I have no idea why people say the those thing. Feelings lie sometimes. I do agree with you that some people just aren't meant to get married. I don't think its realistic for everyone either. Marriage takes work as with all relationships, things aren't all peachy all the time but that's just my opinion.

 

[BigJim]

I think that you're giving up too easy at the thought of never finding anyone at the age of 29. You'll probably get married before I will. Most people have got married before me anyway.

Hun, my "differentness" doesn't come across online anywhere near as much as it does in real life. I find it physically impossible to be in a crowd of people and not stand out like a dick in a convent.