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Why does this have to happen?

BigJim

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The TMF is the GREATEST place on God's green internet. This place for me encapsulates everything that society should be like generally. It has given me a feeling of normalcy and the sense of not being alone in my proclivities any more. Why then, do some of the more unsavoury aspects of the normal world have to start invading our space?

We come from all backgrounds and walks of life. Rich and poor, thin and fat, ugly and beautiful, black and white, intelligent and stupid, generous and mean, happy and sad, American and European etc etc etc, I think you get the idea. Of late I notice more and more "cliques" and "groups" forming within our ranks. This saddens the hell out of me, because it's becomming divisive and it's making the members of these so-called groups be less sociable to others than they might otherwise be. The same sort of thing used to happen when I belonged to a society that re-enacted the American Civil War. We'd go away for a weekends enjoyment and the people on either side never used to even talk to each other. Why? I have no clue. There's no logic to it when the public wasn't looking and here there is no reason for it ever.

As a friend of mine would say, "No names, no pack drill" but I think the people I'm talking about will know what I mean. Please people, it took us long enough to find and then create from the inside, a place like this and we can't afford to have the air soured now. I'm not asking for anyone to change their personalities or have plastic surgery; just treat everyone else as if they're a friend, even if they ARE an arsehole. That doesn't mean sharing your life with em, it just means be friendly on the surface for the five seconds you're aware of each other.
 
Sorry Jim, I never noticed. Maybe if you elaborated we could understand your plea a little better
 
%'s....

Some valid points, BJim, but try to keep in mind that the # of people who actively disrupt are a very small fraction of our total population. I try to focus on the 98% who are indeed here to enjoy freedom of expression and a feeling of community that doesn't exist elsewhere in their lives. The rest I'm civil towards, until they cross the line and put events into motion they may not care for.....it IS still the best place in the NetWorld to hang in though, isn't it? 🙂 Q
 
talons said:
Sorry Jim, I never noticed. Maybe if you elaborated we could understand your plea a little better

As I said "no names, no pack drill." This post would only have applied to the persons it refered to, so no elaboration would be needed. It's not really about a point you could argue, so the only reason to reply is to agree and join in, or disagree because of a guilty conscience.

If you have no idea what I was talking about, then you obviously belong in the former group and have been extra lucky to avoid anything similar yourself.
 
Well, I have been in a few tussles on this site. Some would say I am a troublemaker. A month ago that might have been a fair assumption. But lately and forever onward, I am a kinder gentler kind of guy. I still quiver at some of the comments posted on this site but I have learned to refrain from verbal explosions. I felt that being allowed to stay a member of the site was a little more important to me than the verbal abuse I was delivering. So if I am one of the people you refer to (because I really don't know if I am) then I apologize mate 😀
 
I use to go into chat room and talk all the time.Now,I just go in and say nothing.There is no reason to nobody would talk to you unless you are in that clique,as BigJim put it.Don't get me wrong I could open my mouth and talk but,what's the use.I like it here and still have a good time looking at all the things on the Forum.I will continue to do my little posts here and there,because this is a great place.I have noticed that alot of people that use to go into the chatroom,don't go in there alot anymore.You really can't do anything,this is a PUBLIC forum and people can talk to who ever they want,but it's a shame that all of us share the same thing.I just wish we could share it together as a group of ticklers in a community.

I use to post at another place alot.Still go there got great foot pics and forums.But,it is very geared to a special group and all the rest of us are dogs waiting for crumbs from the master's table.I have'nt been online in community that long but how about the one place I hear about I think it was AMT,all they do from posts I have read is flame each other.It would be a shame to see this Forum fall this way,being it is so well moderated and run.

Well I guess I could do what my dad told me when,I was 18,"Don't like my rules get your own house".Well,I did and it has worked out fine.Well,so ends the rambling bitch session.I hope we all can get on the same page and make this a great community.So, we don't hear "Man,that TMF was a great site what happened,


Thanks,

Traveler
 
talons said:
Well, I have been in a few tussles on this site. Some would say I am a troublemaker. A month ago that might have been a fair assumption. But lately and forever onward, I am a kinder gentler kind of guy. I still quiver at some of the comments posted on this site but I have learned to refrain from verbal explosions. I felt that being allowed to stay a member of the site was a little more important to me than the verbal abuse I was delivering. So if I am one of the people you refer to (because I really don't know if I am) then I apologize mate 😀

Oh I see. I beg your pardon T, I understand what you mean now. As far as I'm aware you're not a member of a clique or anything and the only "tussle" I ever had with you was about the Northern Ireland thing. That wasn't really a tussle as such, just two people disagreeing with each other about politics. Don't feel you can't disagree with people here, even vehemently! The only rule is that you don't chuck abuse around and flame indiscriminantly. You might remember a heated discussion I had with Omega about religion, in which things got very heated and I stated that I found what he'd said,to be "nonsensical." (Which in England is about as rough as it gets-LOL)As I think Myriads says somewhere, "telling someone their views suck isn't acceptable. Telling them why you think they're wrong is."

You may have been in some other arguments, but I wasn't aware of them. The only one I remember was the NI thing, so no, you were'nt being obliquely refered to in my post. I was aiming more at inter-factional bitchiness and chat room trolls.

Here's a cold one to lots of flame-free diagreements in the future........🙂
 
Traveler said:
I use to go into chat room and talk all the time.Now,I just go in and say nothing.There is no reason to nobody would talk to you unless you are in that clique,as BigJim put it.Don't get me wrong I could open my mouth and talk but,what's the use.I like it here and still have a good time looking at all the things on the Forum.I will continue to do my little posts here and there,because this is a great place.I have noticed that alot of people that use to go into the chatroom,don't go in there alot anymore.You really can't do anything,this is a PUBLIC forum and people can talk to who ever they want,but it's a shame that all of us share the same thing.I just wish we could share it together as a group of ticklers in a community.

I use to post at another place alot.Still go there got great foot pics and forums.But,it is very geared to a special group and all the rest of us are dogs waiting for crumbs from the master's table.I have'nt been online in community that long but how about the one place I hear about I think it was AMT,all they do from posts I have read is flame each other.It would be a shame to see this Forum fall this way,being it is so well moderated and run.

Well I guess I could do what my dad told me when,I was 18,"Don't like my rules get your own house".Well,I did and it has worked out fine.Well,so ends the rambling bitch session.I hope we all can get on the same page and make this a great community.So, we don't hear "Man,that TMF was a great site what happened,


Thanks,

Traveler

Thanks for your comments Trav. What you said made me think of something though.

There is a member of the community (no names, no pack drill) who used to talk all the time in the chat room and thought they were just getting ignored because they were'nt in "the club." This wasn't strictly true, and I spent a lot of time talking to this member about the situation.

What the member hadn't cottoned to at the time was that they were expecting to go in and everything would instantly be roses and ice cream because of the "shared intrest" thing. Of course, it didn't work like that, because at the heart of it the TMF is just another group of diverse people who take the time to get to know each other. What this member mistook for being shunned because they weren't in the "clique", was just a case of not getting to know people properly. This is something I didn't manage to learn until I was about 19 years old damn it, and it was bloody painful! Seeing someone else experience it, gave me the opportunity to pass on some of what was hopefully, helpful advice.

(By the way Traveler, I am not saying this because I think you're in the same bracket. I'm just mentioning it because what you said reminded me of it. Next time you're in the chat room when I am, give me a shout okay? I'm a God Damn Individual all the way and make a point of talking to people who aren't in cliques.🙂 )
 
Clique...

I always like to think of myself as a clique of "one"...lol...perhaps not by choice, but rather necessity. I don't visit the ChatRooms much, but perhaps it's time to start dropping in and saying woohoo to BJim . 😉 Q
 
Re: Clique...

qjakal said:
I always like to think of myself as a clique of "one"...lol...perhaps not by choice, but rather necessity. I don't visit the ChatRooms much, but perhaps it's time to start dropping in and saying woohoo to BJim . 😉 Q

LOL Q, if the TMF contained 4,300 or so cliques of 1, it'd be a lot happier place. Feel free to drop in anytime mate, I'll be happy to see you.
 
Hiya Jim..I think that the problem with chat rooms in general is that people go there to "play" rather than talk. It's just the chat room mentality. There are more private chats going on than public ones there. People who basically want to play. Just sign in sometime with an obviously female name and you will be hit by 3 males on pms and at least one F/F all wanting to talk privately or play cybertickle.

I generally avoid the chatrooms altogether, unless I have something I'd really like to talk about. Anyways mate, feel free to drop me an email any time you like, and if you'd like to take it to the chatroom after I'd love to talk with ya. I love your posts here in the forum and consider you a friend.


Ray
 
venray1 said:
Hiya Jim..I think that the problem with chat rooms in general is that people go there to "play" rather than talk. It's just the chat room mentality. There are more private chats going on than public ones there. People who basically want to play. Just sign in sometime with an obviously female name and you will be hit by 3 males on pms and at least one F/F all wanting to talk privately or play cybertickle.

I generally avoid the chatrooms altogether, unless I have something I'd really like to talk about. Anyways mate, feel free to drop me an email any time you like, and if you'd like to take it to the chatroom after I'd love to talk with ya. I love your posts here in the forum and consider you a friend.


Ray


I know what you mean Ray, but I didn't really mean that. That's just people doing their own thing and that's fine. I "play" occasionally myself, but just as a tool to get to know people better. (Right Mimi?:devil: ) Believe it or not, I don't have to use a female name. I get hit with PM's all the damn time.LOL Usually by someone wanting kick the shite out of me for something I said here.:blaugh: It's the bitchiness between people that gets me, and some of the other people I know down. 🙁

Thank you for your other comments, I'll look forward to chewing the fat with you my friend. 😀

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Euripedes trousers, you menda these trousers. :blaugh: :blaugh: :Grrr: :sowrong: :disgust: :idontwann

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