Why don't more people like to tickle guys?

[arachnid95]

Maybe it's just me, but I've always noticed that when it comes to tickling, there are far fewer people who like to see guys tickled than girls. That always kind of struck me as odd. At first, I wondered if maybe it was a homophobia thing--that if a guy liked seeing other guys tickled, people would consider that gay (which couldn't be further from the truth). But even if that were the case, there are plenty of girls in the tickling fetish community, and even they always seem to like seeing girls tickled more than guys. I know that it's really not true, and that there are plenty of people out there who love /M tickling, but the vast majority still seem to prefer /F tickling. Why is that, do you think? Is there some intrinsic quality of ticklability that only girls have? Do people just find the laughter of guys to be less sexy than that of women? What is it that makes us guys less of an ideal tickle-target than our female counterparts?

 

[TKLVR181]

Because the majority of dudes find it gay. Girls like guy lees but the majority of girls I can think of personally are at least switches (like myself) if not lees. There's just less demand for it.

Plus like I said, yeah the gay thing comes into it. I think a lot of guys are afraid of being made fun of for liking tbr idea of /m tickling, which imo is beyond silly for a group of supposed adults. Nobody should be ridiculed for a fetish in a fetish community ffs.


Edit: I hope by now I don't need to say this to you guys, but I don't think that "gay" a bad thing. I'm bi 😛 Just sayin.
~K

 

[arachnid95]

Because the majority of dudes find it gay. Girls like guy lees but the majority of girls I can think of personally are at least switches (like myself) if not lees. There's just less demand for it.

Plus like I said, yeah the gay thing comes into it. I think a lot of guys are afraid of being made fun of for liking tbr idea of /m tickling, which imo is beyond silly for a group of supposed adults. Nobody should be ridiculed for a fetish in a fetish community ffs.

~K

I agree, it saddens me that people are made to feel that way. We all ought to be safe here!

 

[Critical Kai]

So I like f/m tickling content because, when my lee mood kicks in, I fantasize about being in that situation. As I am more submissive by nature, this kind of content clicks with me much easier and more often. I imagine the same thing goes for females in the community who would then prefer /F content.

It all comes down to preference.

 

[arachnid95]

So I like f/m tickling content because, when my lee mood kicks in, I fantasize about being in that situation. As I am more submissive by nature, this kind of content clicks with me much easier and more often. I imagine the same thing goes for females in the community who would then prefer /F content.

It all comes down to preference.

Oh yeah, I love to be a 'lee. Maybe that's why I'm so indignant about it. XD

 

[dalekfire]

Dalekfire welcome any and all to come and tickle him. :cool






Also, I believe as Kai said, it's mostly a preference thing, but I have a suspicion that the actual statistic is more even than it appears. At this point in time, I don't think it goes so far as an actual "tickling males is icky" thing as it is simply an insecurity of those liking male tickling not coming out and actively championing it as much as the /f stuff, perhaps due to conflict with it in the past (it's only takes a few jerkfaces touting their prejudices to ruin it for everyone). But for the most part, at least here at the Theater and over at dA, f/m and m/m material is received with neutral to positive reaction, and unconstructive negative reaction is targetted as a no-no (at least we try!). It simply takes more people willing and wanting to post said material to get things rolling.

Anyway, it's one thing to theorize about these things, but we'll know for sure if more people post more male tickling material! Not just clips, stories and artwork, but experiences as well!

 

[arachnid95]

Dalekfire welcome any and all to come and tickle him. :cool






Also, I believe as Kai said, it's mostly a preference thing, but I have a suspicion that the actual statistic is more even than it appears. At this point in time, I don't think it goes so far as an actual "tickling males is icky" thing as it is simply an insecurity of those liking male tickling not coming out and actively championing it as much as the /f stuff, perhaps due to conflict with it in the past (it's only takes a few jerkfaces touting their prejudices to ruin it for everyone). But for the most part, at least here at the Theater and over at dA, f/m and m/m material is received with neutral to positive reaction, and unconstructive negative reaction is targetted as a no-no (at least we try!). It simply takes more people willing and wanting to post said material to get things rolling.

Anyway, it's one thing to theorize about these things, but we'll know for sure if more people post more male tickling material! Not just clips, stories and artwork, but experiences as well!

Firstly: I would love to tickle you. XD

Secondly, that is entirely possible. After all, ours is a legendarily insecure gender, and it makes me sad that such prejudiced jackasses have to ruin it for the rest of us... But ah well, I know what I like, and I shall always be counted upon to provide more mirth-filled males to the community! XD

 

[Deadly Ticklish1]

So while tickling a guy isn't inherently gay nor sexual, it's good to keep in mind that, for people with fetish, ticking can be a sexual thing. On a site like this your gonna meet a lot of people that get turned on by tickling or being tickled and if that person would be uncomfortable with someone in a sexual situation they may have the same feeling towards tickling. Now when it comes to females, you start getting into social trends. Now this is in no way saying that either sex has to be this way or that they all are this way, but men tend to be perceived as assertive and agressive more so than women. Women tend to be more submissive in nature. Just look how we have sex and you can see where the lee to ler relationship comes from. Another thing is that while a woman may be okay with a guy chasing her, she might not be so welcoming to the idea of a guy asking her to go after him because it doesn't follow her instinct to chase after something that's asking for it. A woman may also be into tickling guys but would rather go after someone who's gonna beg them to stop rather than beg them to keep going.

 

[MistressValerie1]

For my part, I have always been disappointed by the lack of F/M tickling material available online and even in magazines and videos before the Internet.

 

[arachnid95]

So while tickling a guy isn't inherently gay nor sexual, it's good to keep in mind that, for people with fetish, ticking can be a sexual thing. On a site like this your gonna meet a lot of people that get turned on by tickling or being tickled and if that person would be uncomfortable with someone in a sexual situation they may have the same feeling towards tickling. Now when it comes to females, you start getting into social trends. Now this is in no way saying that either sex has to be this way or that they all are this way, but men tend to be perceived as assertive and agressive more so than women. Women tend to be more submissive in nature. Just look how we have sex and you can see where the lee to ler relationship comes from. Another thing is that while a woman may be okay with a guy chasing her, she might not be so welcoming to the idea of a guy asking her to go after him because it doesn't follow her instinct to chase after something that's asking for it. A woman may also be into tickling guys but would rather go after someone who's gonna beg them to stop rather than beg them to keep going.

Hmm, I suppose that's true... Gender roles ruin everything. XD

But then, even with all these varied sexual preferences, there's still something that doesn't quite add up. I don't know about you, but I've seen plenty of BDSM fetish-type stuff involving male subs being dominated by women. And in a lot of cases, the guy is begging for it (and not just because the dom is making him, either). Why is it acceptable for a guy to submit to a paddle or a whip, but not a feather?

 

[arachnid95]

For my part, I have always been disappointed by the lack of F/M tickling material available online and even in magazines and videos before the Internet.

I concur, milady! Let us break down the taboos and arbitrary social conventions, that we too may feel the sensual kiss of a feather upon our feet! XD

 

[Violetta]

Hmm, I suppose that's true... Gender roles ruin everything. XD

But then, even with all these varied sexual preferences, there's still something that doesn't quite add up. I don't know about you, but I've seen plenty of BDSM fetish-type stuff involving male subs being dominated by women. And in a lot of cases, the guy is begging for it (and not just because the dom is making him, either). Why is it acceptable for a guy to submit to a paddle or a whip, but not a feather?

It isn't necessarily acceptable. I'm just as big in the S&M community as the tickling one, and I can say it's just as much of a turn off if a guy is too into what's happening. It destroys the feeling that you're in control if you're whipping or tickling someone and he tells you to do it more. Then what can you do? If you stop you're not having the fun you wanted, but if you do what he's asking then he's calling the shots suddenly.

And, frankly, in this community in particular, guys can be very vocal and very pushy about what they want. They're not coy or flirty, there's very little sense of discovery. They just want to be tickled, and they grow vocally despondent if it doesn't happen. And if you agree? You can probably expect he'll have a very precise list of things he wants to experience which robs the experience of any feeling of mutual enjoyment.

Basically, guys have a bad rep. A long history of not getting enough time in the ticklish spotlight has made a lot of them pushy, and that kinda hurts all your chances as a whole.

 

[arachnid95]

It isn't necessarily acceptable. I'm just as big in the S&M community as the tickling one, and I can say it's just as much of a turn off if a guy is too into what's happening. It destroys the feeling that you're in control if you're whipping or tickling someone and he tells you to do it more. Then what can you do? If you stop you're not having the fun you wanted, but if you do what he's asking then he's calling the shots suddenly.

And, frankly, in this community in particular, guys can be very vocal and very pushy about what they want. They're not coy or flirty, there's very little sense of discovery. They just want to be tickled, and they grow vocally despondent if it doesn't happen. And if you agree? You can probably expect he'll have a very precise list of things he wants to experience which robs the experience of any feeling of mutual enjoyment.

Basically, guys have a bad rep. A long history of not getting enough time in the ticklish spotlight has made a lot of them pushy, and that kinda hurts all your chances as a whole.

Hmm... So you're saying that guys ruin the fun of being in control of them by trying to be in control themselves? I can sort of see that... I'll admit that I myself hate not being in control in non-tickling situations, so I could potentially see myself not wanting to completely relinquish control to a tickler, no matter how much I wanted to be controlled. Maybe we're just bad at being submissive?

By the way, I promise we don't mean to be vocal and pushy and despondent... Well, at least I don't... XD

 

[ZerbertBoy1983]

I don't mind watching f/m tickling video clips online or looking at f/m Images. I also don't mind being tickled by females. It doesn't get to happen to me that often. It's been a while sense It actually has really. But I don't mind It. It's enjoyable. I'm naturally a tickler. But switching and being a ticklee Is great great as well. Nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with either one 😀

As far as the whole m/m scene within the tickling community as a whole goes. That's not my thing and not a preference. If that's some peoples preference within the community then I guess go for It

 

[Ticklishz]

i wish there more F lers to chat with--i love being tickled f/m and even have a strange fascination with F lers who like to watch m/m

 

[BlackDragonScar]

I am actually saddened now that less and less at least females are into tickling men. I don't know why, I think some have just bad experiences but soon it becomes almost selfish cuz I want more girls to actually ler guys like there use to be, but even now a lot of my friends have turned f/f and never look back to tickle guys again. I don't know why, I know everyone has there preference, but it becomes sad that now more guys miss out on tickling fun and more girls have it. just my opinion and observation.

 

[ZerbertBoy1983]

I am actually saddened now that less and less at least females are into tickling men. I don't know why, I think some have just bad experiences but soon it becomes almost selfish cuz I want more girls to actually ler guys like there use to be, but even now a lot of my friends have turned f/f and never look back to tickle guys again. I don't know why, I know everyone has there preference, but it becomes sad that now more guys miss out on tickling fun and more girls have it. just my opinion and observation.

It possibly could be because the whole culture as a whole Is changing (more females are Into other females In an attraction way etc.) So less and less guys have the chance to be tickled by a female or females. or You also got some girls who think that all guys are dogs and liers etc. So they wouldn't dare want to tickle a guy

With tickling It Is kind of sad In a way. Some females have one or two bad experiences with It In real life and from then on they swear off tickling for a long time. And then start becoming all I hate tickling with a passion etc.

 

[Critical Kai]

It isn't necessarily acceptable. I'm just as big in the S&M community as the tickling one, and I can say it's just as much of a turn off if a guy is too into what's happening. It destroys the feeling that you're in control if you're whipping or tickling someone and he tells you to do it more. Then what can you do? If you stop you're not having the fun you wanted, but if you do what he's asking then he's calling the shots suddenly.

And, frankly, in this community in particular, guys can be very vocal and very pushy about what they want. They're not coy or flirty, there's very little sense of discovery. They just want to be tickled, and they grow vocally despondent if it doesn't happen. And if you agree? You can probably expect he'll have a very precise list of things he wants to experience which robs the experience of any feeling of mutual enjoyment.

Basically, guys have a bad rep. A long history of not getting enough time in the ticklish spotlight has made a lot of them pushy, and that kinda hurts all your chances as a whole.

This is probably the truest thing I've read on this site.

It's kinda sad actually.

 

[TKLVR181]

I'll ler my guy friends online in a particular set of circumstances. I'm married, I don't get sexual with guys. I'll tie them up and I don't exactly expect them to not get turned on, but I'm not gonna strip them or myself and the arousal isn't going to be the focus, aside from maybe briefly, playfully teasing them about. A lot of guys are cool with that so it's fun. Some guys get put off by that and either lose interest or just plain start trying to bargain with me to do things that frankly feel like cheating. Not gonna happen and a big turn off.

Also gonna echo what Vi said about some guys being too pushy--but I find some girls are the same. The big thing for me is, I'm a switch. I like being on both sides. Pretty much all the guys I ler I also lee with-if all someone wants to do is lee when the other party is a switch it feels like a chore and not enjoyable. That being said, some of my favorite rp partners are guys who prefer lee but are willing to switch! Little give and take goes a long way.

~K

 

[Deadly Ticklish1]

Hmm, I suppose that's true... Gender roles ruin everything. XD

But then, even with all these varied sexual preferences, there's still something that doesn't quite add up. I don't know about you, but I've seen plenty of BDSM fetish-type stuff involving male subs being dominated by women. And in a lot of cases, the guy is begging for it (and not just because the dom is making him, either). Why is it acceptable for a guy to submit to a paddle or a whip, but not a feather?

Some women are more dominant than others. There are women into tickling that are into seeing a guy beg for it, but you should keep in mind that we're talking about the majority and not the minority.

 

[BlackDragonScar]

That may be true but there also many dominate guys out there as well who want to some action, or like me a switch who goes both ways. In which some people tend to dislike

 

[Senshi1]

For me, it's simply because I see tickling as a sexual thing. As a lee myself, I'm picky. I like female 'lers, and even then it has to be someone I'm comfortable with, otherwise I can't untense enough to enjoy myself.

When I'm in any role other than the lee ('ler, spectator, etc), the lee is the focus, and the situation is sexual. For that reason, I prefer female 'lees. The situation of power over the 'lee is as big a turn on - often moreso - than the physical act of tickling, and it's a very sexual exchange to me.

I know it's possible to be a male who likes f/m tickling in a sexual way WITHOUT it being awkward (somebody mentioned imagining themselves in that situation), but my mind doesn't quite go that way. Nothing personal, it just isn't something I enjoy. And if I don't enjoy it, I don't bother pursuing it. 😛

 

[chicag0]

Maybe it's just me, but I've always noticed that when it comes to tickling, there are far fewer people who like to see guys tickled than girls. That always kind of struck me as odd. At first, I wondered if maybe it was a homophobia thing--that if a guy liked seeing other guys tickled, people would consider that gay (which couldn't be further from the truth). But even if that were the case, there are plenty of girls in the tickling fetish community, and even they always seem to like seeing girls tickled more than guys. I know that it's really not true, and that there are plenty of people out there who love /M tickling, but the vast majority still seem to prefer /F tickling. Why is that, do you think? Is there some intrinsic quality of ticklability that only girls have? Do people just find the laughter of guys to be less sexy than that of women? What is it that makes us guys less of an ideal tickle-target than our female counterparts?

I think there may be some truth to the idea that there might be those who do find */m tickling hot, but are not vocal about it because they're ashamed of being labelled some type of way.

Overall, though, I think that most guys are mainly attracted to females, most females mainly attracted to males and it seems that most males are more dominant and most females more submissive. That is my personal opinion based on a decade and change in the community and what I've seen. I'm not saying it's wrong to like */m content at all, just saying what I've noticed.

Personally, I'm attracted to what would probably be considered pretty traditional male attributes. Tall, muscular, and dominant (without being domineering). I'm submissive when it comes to tickling and the bedroom and I do not switch at all. The idea of tickling another person (male or female) squicks me, however I enjoy being tickled by both genders. I might watch f/f material because I can relate to the 'lee as a female. I find male lees personally unattractive because I find submissive traits in a partner unappealing. That is only my opinion, preference, etc. This does not mean I cannot be friends with someone who is a male lee. It just means I do not find them attractive, would not want to play with them, etc. Just as someone may not find bbws attractive. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes.

Hopefully no one is offended by my post as it was meant to explain and not hurt feelings.

 

[BlackDragonScar]

I don't know I think its more then that now a days. I mean I know people have preference and preferences change, but to just kinda take guys almost out of the picture now really sucks. I mean all us guys are not alike, yet idk seems like not given a chance hurts

 

[MrUselessBeing]

I am clearly going to look like a mean person here but i will write how i see things myself, feel free to correct me or disagree, i won't blame you.

When it comes to male ticklees...i actually prefer guys over females, because females are so common and popular, meanwhile the guys are not.
I have also had a terrible experience with girls in school, if there is something that involves doing something with them, they would judge me right off the bat, calling me a sick pervert and so on...it was awful and i have developed traumas because of all this...as stupid as it sounds.

I don't want to dislike girls but because of my past, it's rather difficult.
I know i shouldn't take it too seriously because the girls were teenagers, but
some people never change.

And there are certain types of guys out there, and personally i love pretty (aka bishies) over the masculine macho men. In short, i prefer girly guys with long/medium hair who have a smooth skin and are around at the age of 18-25 and so on. I am not saying the other types of guys are bad looking, it's basically a taste of opinion and that makes the world go round...or something.

This will come out really mean but i am being completely honest here:
I don't see much of a personality in male/male ticklees who are very simple;
Really short hair, masculine body...and that's about it. That type of guys are also super common, it's almost impossible for me to find a real looking guy with a longer/medium hair that doesn't go to the gym.
I like "rare" looking guys who take care of their looks, almost like girls.
Let's just say...that there are 20 green papers and 2 blue ones...i want the blue, because it's more rare which makes me feel some satisfaction.
This is not always the case but most of the times it is.

Some people love guys like that and i am fine with it, but i prefer the bishies over the masculine ones, a personal opinion. And when it comes to way of dressing, i love the unique and "original" clothing over the boring common ones. Don't get me wrong, i won't blame guys for this at all, it is troublesome to find new and special clothing, definitely when shops and stores aren't selling anything too special. I am also having this problem, there are some really good looking clothes out there but they are mainly meant for females...which is a shame.

And finally, the demands.
You can clearly see how majority of people (in deviantart for example),
are asking for female drawings and say "eww, gross, disgusting, wtf", when there's a male drawing. The female drawings get easily way WAY more favorites, views and support than the male ones. I believe it works the same way when it comes to videos, stories, pictures and so on. Basically, people can earn money easier if they draw females.
"Why make males ones when the female ones sell better and are very liked?"
:rolleyes Yeah...that's pretty much it, i will still try and draw some males because i don't care about the fame and money too much.


If i understood this whole subject wrong then my apologies, i can be rather idiotic at times.