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F.U.B.A.R. {FOILED UP BEYOND ALL RECOGNITION}
I pasted the article as is; however, after his brilliant political correct views, I will post my interpretation of his statement without further delay Mr. Zinczenko
Men’s Health Dave Zinczenko's Mysteries of the Sexes Explained
http://health.yahoo.com/experts/menlovesex/73762/why-men-don-t-talk/
As the editor of the biggest men's magazine in the world, I am privy to something many women rarely hear - straightforward, uninhibited guy talk.
Don't be so shocked - guys do actually talk, and not just about Tom Brady's quarterback rating. Most women think their man is the strong, silent type (or maybe the oblivious, silent type), and they wonder why he doesn't share his feelings.
But here's the truth: Men do want to open up, about their hopes, their fears, and their passions. Yet put him alone in a room with you, and he often turns into a Sphinx. Why can't he take his eyes off the TV and talk about the state of the relationship, or the finances, or, heck, the backyard landscaping? Why in the world can't he just summarize his day for 10 minutes?
In fact, one in five women say that they typically fight about a man's lack of verbal interaction, and 30 percent of men say their failure to communicate is the source of major conflict in the relationship. Why is it this way?
Here's one answer: Because even men who have feelings to share don't always feel comfortable sharing them with their partner. These are some of the reasons why some men often prefer to zip it, rather than delivering the goods:
Guys Are A Little Intimidated
No question, women are expert communicators. They throw questions like Oprah after her third cup of coffee; they're connecting on all cylinders. And like the divine Ms. W, women bring a lot of skill to their game: A special awareness of the people-scape around them, a keen set of emotions keyed to that awareness, and a rich vocabulary they use to talk about anything at anytime.
And they're always practicing their Q&A skills on their many friends, so they're in top talk mode all the time. Men know this. And they also know that more than one-third of women say that men simply can't relate and don't understand women. The result: Men are afraid of saying too much, because saying the wrong thing may get them into more trouble than Lindsay Lohan as a designated driver.
Interpretation – Women spend more time talking about stuff that males find trivial; Women spend days, weeks, months, even years pondering every possible answers to their questions. They huddle up as a study group bouncing questions and likely answers off each other. Each one brings their own laptop so they can search Google for articles like this that will give them insight on males most likely response.
After they feel they have all the answers, they go to the male and like a skilled attorney; they construct the conversation in a way, which would trap the male into answering in one of two ways.
1. Giving them what they want (control)
2. Confuse them in a way where once a conversation, will ultimately turn into an argument (by her design); when the fight is over they still will have control.
But, to be completely honest; men will not say what is truly on their minds because they know they will not get any more special attention unless they bring a bottle of baby oil and have a strong left or right hand.
We might act as if we are stupid but self-relief only goes so far when your 14 – 38. Thank God, I am 45, and grown beyond that foolishness
Guys Need To Decompress
Woman's view: When a man walks in the door, he ought to cough up some of the details about his day. After all, it's been 10 hours since they've communicated, not counting the two IMs, three voice mails, and one actual mid-day conversation.
Man's view: Can I please make a beeline to the bathroom? When men reach home, it's like those ultra-marathoners staggering across the finish line in Death Valley. The last thing they want to do is discuss how bright the sunlight was, and how scarce the water stops were.
Further up on his want-to-do list after arriving home: 14 percent of men want to check email, 12 percent are looking for a little private time in the bathroom, and 10 percent simply want to eat dinner. The common theme here: After they've spent a day serving the needs of others, they want to take care of themselves a little.
So when a man is hit with a demand for conversation so closely after returning from the stressful environment of work, he has only one gear left to shift into, and sometimes it's reverse. He's retreat, retreat, retreat.
Interpretation – The last thing a male want to do is re-live some of the worst hours of his life for your amusement. Hell he already told you how is day was going when you txt him on his phone; e-mail him at work, called him on his cell and company phone, IM him while he is trying to eat lunch, or in the middle of an important meeting. In addition, he had to deal with other females and their hang-ups while at the office.
NOT TO MENTION,
His continuous struggle to suppress his desire to tell a female co-workers she look very sexy in a dress she should have worn to a nightclub not to the office. You know the woman who walks in with a very sexy dress, her boobs sticking out as if they were placed on a platter and served up to him. With high heels that make her calves look like two big turkey legs.
However, if he say you look nice in that dress he ends up in HR trying to explain to another woman how boob is hanging down to floor when she walks, why he even notice a co-worker who dress make her look like a overstuff lamp chop and you’re the hungry dog she want to serve it to.
By the time he get home all the man want to do is come home, get something to drink, turn on anything that shows someone being blown up, beat up, driven over, or someone who life is worst than his. (AL BUNDY; FROM MARRY WITH CHILDREN)
Guys Are More Comfortable With Actions Than Feelings
Rather than talking about how he "feels," often a man would rather express his love by changing her oil, or bringing home a flower, or relinquishing control of the remote.
And when men do talk, they'd prefer to talk about actions rather than emotions. For instance, a lot of guys would choose to express their long-range faith in a relationship by talking about next summer's vacation plans, not by launching into a soliloquy about undying love.
Both conversations can mean the same thing (that he plans on sticking around); he just prefers to say it with plane tickets, rather than poetry. It's one of the reasons men are more comfortable talking at work (the practical universe) than they are at home (the castle that emotion built). But you can bring out his great communicator by making him feel more like he's operating in work mode, even when the topic at hand is your love life. Here's an incredible article, "The Home Office," that shows how he can use his best office skills for great success at home.
Interpretation – Women you are not listening, males do not believe in talking about something for the next decade. He prefer get it over and done with a.s.a.p. he do not want to discuss in detail how to change a light bulb. Specially when he knows once he spend all that time trying to explain it to you, you still will not understand it or forget what he said within a day. (I used the light bulb as an example)
Guys Don't Want To Be Put On The Spot
When men talk less and women want more, the scenario can escalate. Like when the bad cop is pummeling the reluctant witness, more silence equals more questions. A full 65 percent of men we surveyed recently told us they don't want their partners to ask them more questions about themselves.
It's clear that some men are just plain tired of feeling like they're on the witness stand. They're not necessarily hiding anything; many guys simply prefer not to have to relate confusing feelings that they may not even understand themselves.
Interpretation – refer to my first interpretation
F.U.B.A.R. {FOILED UP BEYOND ALL RECOGNITION}
I pasted the article as is; however, after his brilliant political correct views, I will post my interpretation of his statement without further delay Mr. Zinczenko
Men’s Health Dave Zinczenko's Mysteries of the Sexes Explained
http://health.yahoo.com/experts/menlovesex/73762/why-men-don-t-talk/
As the editor of the biggest men's magazine in the world, I am privy to something many women rarely hear - straightforward, uninhibited guy talk.
Don't be so shocked - guys do actually talk, and not just about Tom Brady's quarterback rating. Most women think their man is the strong, silent type (or maybe the oblivious, silent type), and they wonder why he doesn't share his feelings.
But here's the truth: Men do want to open up, about their hopes, their fears, and their passions. Yet put him alone in a room with you, and he often turns into a Sphinx. Why can't he take his eyes off the TV and talk about the state of the relationship, or the finances, or, heck, the backyard landscaping? Why in the world can't he just summarize his day for 10 minutes?
In fact, one in five women say that they typically fight about a man's lack of verbal interaction, and 30 percent of men say their failure to communicate is the source of major conflict in the relationship. Why is it this way?
Here's one answer: Because even men who have feelings to share don't always feel comfortable sharing them with their partner. These are some of the reasons why some men often prefer to zip it, rather than delivering the goods:
Guys Are A Little Intimidated
No question, women are expert communicators. They throw questions like Oprah after her third cup of coffee; they're connecting on all cylinders. And like the divine Ms. W, women bring a lot of skill to their game: A special awareness of the people-scape around them, a keen set of emotions keyed to that awareness, and a rich vocabulary they use to talk about anything at anytime.
And they're always practicing their Q&A skills on their many friends, so they're in top talk mode all the time. Men know this. And they also know that more than one-third of women say that men simply can't relate and don't understand women. The result: Men are afraid of saying too much, because saying the wrong thing may get them into more trouble than Lindsay Lohan as a designated driver.
Interpretation – Women spend more time talking about stuff that males find trivial; Women spend days, weeks, months, even years pondering every possible answers to their questions. They huddle up as a study group bouncing questions and likely answers off each other. Each one brings their own laptop so they can search Google for articles like this that will give them insight on males most likely response.
After they feel they have all the answers, they go to the male and like a skilled attorney; they construct the conversation in a way, which would trap the male into answering in one of two ways.
1. Giving them what they want (control)
2. Confuse them in a way where once a conversation, will ultimately turn into an argument (by her design); when the fight is over they still will have control.
But, to be completely honest; men will not say what is truly on their minds because they know they will not get any more special attention unless they bring a bottle of baby oil and have a strong left or right hand.
We might act as if we are stupid but self-relief only goes so far when your 14 – 38. Thank God, I am 45, and grown beyond that foolishness
Guys Need To Decompress
Woman's view: When a man walks in the door, he ought to cough up some of the details about his day. After all, it's been 10 hours since they've communicated, not counting the two IMs, three voice mails, and one actual mid-day conversation.
Man's view: Can I please make a beeline to the bathroom? When men reach home, it's like those ultra-marathoners staggering across the finish line in Death Valley. The last thing they want to do is discuss how bright the sunlight was, and how scarce the water stops were.
Further up on his want-to-do list after arriving home: 14 percent of men want to check email, 12 percent are looking for a little private time in the bathroom, and 10 percent simply want to eat dinner. The common theme here: After they've spent a day serving the needs of others, they want to take care of themselves a little.
So when a man is hit with a demand for conversation so closely after returning from the stressful environment of work, he has only one gear left to shift into, and sometimes it's reverse. He's retreat, retreat, retreat.
Interpretation – The last thing a male want to do is re-live some of the worst hours of his life for your amusement. Hell he already told you how is day was going when you txt him on his phone; e-mail him at work, called him on his cell and company phone, IM him while he is trying to eat lunch, or in the middle of an important meeting. In addition, he had to deal with other females and their hang-ups while at the office.
NOT TO MENTION,
His continuous struggle to suppress his desire to tell a female co-workers she look very sexy in a dress she should have worn to a nightclub not to the office. You know the woman who walks in with a very sexy dress, her boobs sticking out as if they were placed on a platter and served up to him. With high heels that make her calves look like two big turkey legs.
However, if he say you look nice in that dress he ends up in HR trying to explain to another woman how boob is hanging down to floor when she walks, why he even notice a co-worker who dress make her look like a overstuff lamp chop and you’re the hungry dog she want to serve it to.
By the time he get home all the man want to do is come home, get something to drink, turn on anything that shows someone being blown up, beat up, driven over, or someone who life is worst than his. (AL BUNDY; FROM MARRY WITH CHILDREN)
Guys Are More Comfortable With Actions Than Feelings
Rather than talking about how he "feels," often a man would rather express his love by changing her oil, or bringing home a flower, or relinquishing control of the remote.
And when men do talk, they'd prefer to talk about actions rather than emotions. For instance, a lot of guys would choose to express their long-range faith in a relationship by talking about next summer's vacation plans, not by launching into a soliloquy about undying love.
Both conversations can mean the same thing (that he plans on sticking around); he just prefers to say it with plane tickets, rather than poetry. It's one of the reasons men are more comfortable talking at work (the practical universe) than they are at home (the castle that emotion built). But you can bring out his great communicator by making him feel more like he's operating in work mode, even when the topic at hand is your love life. Here's an incredible article, "The Home Office," that shows how he can use his best office skills for great success at home.
Interpretation – Women you are not listening, males do not believe in talking about something for the next decade. He prefer get it over and done with a.s.a.p. he do not want to discuss in detail how to change a light bulb. Specially when he knows once he spend all that time trying to explain it to you, you still will not understand it or forget what he said within a day. (I used the light bulb as an example)
Guys Don't Want To Be Put On The Spot
When men talk less and women want more, the scenario can escalate. Like when the bad cop is pummeling the reluctant witness, more silence equals more questions. A full 65 percent of men we surveyed recently told us they don't want their partners to ask them more questions about themselves.
It's clear that some men are just plain tired of feeling like they're on the witness stand. They're not necessarily hiding anything; many guys simply prefer not to have to relate confusing feelings that they may not even understand themselves.
Interpretation – refer to my first interpretation
I just get frustrated with the "men are from Mars, women are from Venus" stuff.
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