Why seek others when your committed?

[kis123]

Re: Ah! The King James Version!

1st off young lady if you believe in some lawyers book Helter Skelter about a poor Kentucky hillbilly who couldnt even get a good lunch taking over the minds of college students and convincing them to start a "race war" (whatever that means!!!!) then ive got a bridge to sell you. Go to www.atwa.info for the true story, it just might shock you. Now as for me cheating on my wife, being a disciple of Charles Manson, etc. let me bypass those allegations to answer another one of your questions...why am I on this board? I am on this board TO HAVE FUN. Nothing more,nothing less. I dont care whos vice-president of the U.S., I dont care about the Palestinians and I sure dont care what people think of me! I am married yes and have been since 2000, now let me ask you a question woman, if im such a bad husband how could I stay married for this long? I have previously said on those "other threads" youve read that my wife is a catholic school teacher, hint:education,intelligence. Now if im screwing everything in sight dont you think this educated 33 year old woman might kind of (oh I dont know) HAVE A CLUE???? Dont take everything you read on the "Tickling Media Forum" so seriously kis123, on my birthcertifcate it doesnt read ElectricEye72. 🙄

Give me a break!!! As far as me being a young lady, I'm young at heart, but I'm a lot older than you think and a hell of a lot older than 33! Referring to me as "woman" is no more than some sort of neanderthal knee jerk reaction--obviously the best you can do. Like I said before, you're obviously someone who needs attention or likes to say things for shock value. You throw it out there then get upset because someone comments on it. I don't think you know if you're coming or going! Aren't you the one who mentioned on a previous thread that you were on medication? But then again, a lot of your posts are deleted by the mods--why is that???

If you think four years is a long time to be married, think again! You haven't even begun to know what marriage is about. But, my job is not to educate you because ignorance cannot be changed in a few words.

If that's the best you have, you got a long way ahead of you. Your rants wouldn't even impress my fiteen year old. Why write this stuff if it's void of truth? Why be bothered with the forum if you're not going to contribute something of substance? Why get an attitude when someone calls you on it? You throw down the gauntlet enough times, someone will eventually pick it up--don't sweat yourself about that because it's obviously what you wanted.

If you screwed one woman outside of your marriage, you've screwed too many. But I personally could care less about whether you're faithful or not. That's between you and your wife. She's a catholic schoolteacher, huh? She probably needs to be inducted into sainthood for reasons that are blatantly obvious!!!!

As opposed to taking away from the spirit of the thread, I encourage posters that have something intelligent and insightful to contribute to this thread regarding committed couples and their reasons behind their decisions to tickle others. That is after all, what this thread is supposed to be for.

 

[ElectricEye72]

I Am Genius!!!!!

I am not immature! And the mods delete many of my posts at my request for they know that they would blow apart the average mind for their sheer complexity! Now as for your other comments about my wife,my meds,saying things for shock value, let me just say this kis123: NYAH!! NYAH!! NYAH!! NYAH!! BOO!! BOO!!😛

 

[kis123]

Re: I Am Genius!!!!!

I am not immature! And the mods delete many of my posts at my request for they know that they would blow apart the average mind for their sheer complexity! Now as for your other comments about my wife,my meds,saying things for shock value, let me just say this kis123: NYAH!! NYAH!! NYAH!! NYAH!! BOO!! BOO!!😛

Point proven. 😱 😕 What could I possibly say behind such eloquence?

No one said anything derogotory about your wife either. I personally think she's a saint--she simply has to be. Blowing apart the average mind huh??

 

[vampirecult]

*Sits back in my easy chair munching on some pop corn watching Kis and ElectricEye go out in there brawl*

enjoying the show might i add!

 

[kis123]

*Sits back in my easy chair munching on some pop corn watching Kis and ElectricEye go out in there brawl*

enjoying the show might i add!

You may find this entertaining, but I find it pretty messed up. Besides, it's gotten very old now and it's time to move on to more pressing issues.

I'd rather continue the thread from the last post involving couples and the reasons they tickle other people. I actually wanted some answers for this because it's difficult for me to understand how they would even want to touch anyone else or have their mate touching/tickling someone else other than them.

I hope we can get back on point.

 

[vampirecult]

You may find this entertaining, but I find it pretty messed up. Besides, it's gotten very old now and it's time to move on to more pressing issues.

I'd rather continue the thread from the last post involving couples and the reasons they tickle other people. I actually wanted some answers for this because it's difficult for me to understand how they would even want to touch anyone else or have their mate touching/tickling someone else other than them.

I hope we can get back on point.

why do they?

because that want to be UN FAITHFUL to thier wifes/husbands. it simple as that. and being married or a couple is NOT being about UN FAITHFUL it's about being Truthful and Honest and trust worthy and Faithful with each other.... that's really what it should be about for ALL couples and married people. but sadly it's not in this world of ours

 

[kis123]

I'm not talking about the unfaithful. I'm talking about couples (married and unmarried) who decide together and sometimes even tickle others together. There is a different dynamic in that scenario and I'm curious to hear their perspectives.

 

[vampirecult]

why does it matter?

i mean if your not doing any of thoses things touching and tickling other married or un married lover's bodys. then it should not concern you really. i mean you know? not trying to be rude here. but i'm just saying it shouldn't be a issue or problem with you.

 

[kis123]

And who said it was an issue or problem with me other than you? I said I wanted to know their perspective, not to judge what they decide is okay in their relationship.

 

[vampirecult]

Calm down. i never said it was a problem or issue with you. you didn't get what i meant by my post i'm assuming.

 

[kis123]

Calm down. i never said it was a problem or issue with you. you didn't get what i meant by my post i'm assuming.

No one's upset. Did you read what you previously posted? Although you said you weren't trying to be rude, it was a pretty good lob from here. I merely asked for a perspective from someone who is living in the situation I described.

This is obviously not a good posting night for me because some of you folks are just a little too touchy and jumpy when I write things. I didn't say anything wrong. I asked a question and would like a response to it from people who have these kinds of things going on. If they choose not to respond, that's certainly their choice and fine with me.

Maybe I'll take electric eye's advise and unsubscribe and find something better to do. Then again, I'm not the type who does that so I'll see where this leads and take it from there.

 

[AquaFeline]

Perhaps this should be in the politics or religion forum?

Why do men look at porn when they have girlfriends or wives? Why are there swingers? Why do people play the field?

It has always been and probably always will be that some people will desire others outside of their current relationship, if only because of the novelty.

As for morality in relation to the bible, I can't say much except that I note that many men seemed to have more than one wife but women never had more than one husband, which makes sense from a viewpoint of how to produce the most children (or just a guardianship issue since women were considered purely dependent then I believe.) I never got as far as the new testament, maybe that says something different. However I think it also says in the bible that the brother-in-law of a widow who has no children must marry the widow and the first child (or son maybe I can't remember) takes the name of the dead husband. I'm pretty sure it does say you aren't supposed to covet someone else's spouse though.

 

[BellaRisa]

I'll try

Now I know that they're several couples on the forum that seem able to keep arrangements. I'm glad this has worked for them. As for me, I wouldn't want my man touching anyone else but me at any level!! I guess it's a matter of what the couple works out between themselves. I just don't understand why couples would even want tickle anyone else other than each other? I hope my comment opens the door for some of these couples' contributions to this thread.

Hi Kis, I'll take a shot at this from the POV of my marriage.

Why would we want to tickle anyone else? Because different people feel and react differently, and while our spouses are first and foremost, that variety is fun and interesting on occasion. And it's just plain entertaining-watching my significant other tickle the living daylights outta my best friend is absolutely hysterical, and I get to *see* how he tickles for a change. And watching him tickle her 'til she begs to be spanked instead is a level of funny I can't even talk about...but I digress:

As I've written before, we're not monogamous. The term for us is polyfidelitous, meaning we DO NOT swing (um, no offense to swingers 😎 ); rather, we have a very, very small circle of people we care deeply for, and have for several years, with whom we're physically free. The circle can expand, but it's *very* rare and that person almost always ends up being a close friend for life. For us and others with similar marriages, it's pretty simple: tickling, and sharing other forms of touch with other people we care for, is fun and pleasurable. Seriously, there's not much more to it than that. Jealousy and possessiveness don't enter the equation. We know exactly where we stand with each other, and our love and devotion are deep enough that who we tickle (or spank or what have you) just doesn't matter as long as everyone involved feels comfortable and safe and cared for, and we make sure that's always the case through communication and constant dialogue.

A good example of all this is my relationship with JZ, my partner in my video business. We've been play partners since we met in '99, and no one tops me the way he does-the man's an evil genius. Every so often I'll spend the night at his place; we work on BellaRisa.com, watch a movie and eat bad food, and eventually I'll be tied up and tickled half to death for a few hours . Next morning we have breakfast and I go home. My husband, who was either having his own fun with a mutual friend or becoming one with his beloved X-Box, will ask how JZ's doing and if I had a good time. And that's it. No issues, no 'faithful' discussions...we had fun and life goes on. It's a really mellow, casual thing when you're actually involved, you don't think about it-that's just the way it is. Not for everyone but we like it 😉

Hope I helped and didn't ramble much,

Bella

 

[kis123]

Well, I asked a question and got quite and answer. Bella and I have already expressed our viewpoints on monogomy vs. other marital arrangements. I don't agree with them, but if it is something that both husband and wife participate and there's no animosity or jealousy that takes place, and everyone remains healthy, I'm not in position to judge anyone. That's their personal and spiritual choice to make. Some things are never black and white and the shades of gray can be very interesting.

Are there any other couples on the forum who have arrangements that would like to discuss tickling others outside of their relationship?

 

[Knox The Hatter]

What goes on inside or outside your relationship is NOBODY'S fucking business, unless someone outside said relationship gets hurt. Offended? I couldn't care less.

 

[ElectricEye72]

Knox Said It!

Thank you Knox! I wish I had said that! A persons marriage or relationship is his or her own buisness period. Whether it be cheating,faithful,open whatever its really not up for discussion for everyones different and what works for some might not work for others. As long as you dont do anything illegal(such as statutory rape) theres nothing anyone can do and spare me the "sanctity of marriage" bullshit, that was meant for people who lived in the 1800s who had a life span of 40, it is outdated today for a society that places having fun as the most important pursuit in life.😎

 

[kcantankerous]

so your telling me non of you get turned on, even alittle from tickling people? You think about it so much but its not at all something that arouses you? I find that hard to believe. Apparently the relationship may have holes if you need to seek others to engage in a fantasy with. Let me put it this way shouldn't the relationship be analysed if the above is the case?

 

[vampirecult]

so your telling me non of you get turned on, even alittle from tickling people? You think about it so much but its not at all something that arouses you? I find that hard to believe. Apparently the relationship may have holes if you need to seek others to engage in a fantasy with. Let me put it this way shouldn't the relationship be analysed if the above is the case?

Are you in a type of Relationship like this one Knogz right now?

or

Are you just wondering for curiousness sike? which one is it?

 

[kcantankerous]

I am wondering is all. I am about to begin a relationship with a wonderful girl, its about time, and the thought of doing anything that could arouse me with others is the farthest thing from my mind. And it was the same with my last relationship. I cant imagine how 8 or more years with the same person would affect me, but I've always been a one women kinda guy. Does that answer your question?

 

[vampirecult]

I am wondering is all. I am about to begin a relationship with a wonderful girl, its about time, and the thought of doing anything that could arouse me with others is the farthest thing from my mind. And it was the same with my last relationship. I cant imagine how 8 or more years with the same person would affect me, but I've always been a one women kinda guy. Does that answer your question?

Yep

 

[kcantankerous]

electric..., whatever the last part was, your sad. I am talking about your comment on the "santity of marraige" unlike some of you I believe in that very much. And not just from a religious standpoint so dont go there with me. I feel that if two people supposedly love eachother cheating shouldnt occur. Im not saying tickling is or isnt cheating, but some of use believe in the concept of devotion to one person, sexually, emotionally, and spiritually.

 

[kcantankerous]

And one more thing just because some of us believe in marriage and relationship doesnt mean its fueled by religion. Stop thinking every religious person is against yall individually or as a community. The people who think like that are same ones that bring up christianity as the culprit for some of the disagreements on sexuality and whatother precieved vises are expressed on this forum.

 

[ElectricEye72]

Hey Knoggerz or whatever YOUR name is... cant you just show me a bit of respect even if I disagree with you? Must we all fight just because we have differing opinions? Why cant we all just get along?

 

[kis123]

What goes on inside or outside your relationship is NOBODY'S fucking business, unless someone outside said relationship gets hurt. Offended? I couldn't care less.

If this comment was meant as a so-called response to my question, you're going to have to do a lot better than that! If you don't have anything positive to contribute, they're are plenty of other ways to respond than this. This was immature and just simply unnecessary!! If you disagree with something I said, disagree like an adult!!!

No one would get hurt if you kept your business to yourselves and not drag others into it. Offended? I couldn't care less either!!!

 

[kis123]

electric..., whatever the last part was, your sad. I am talking about your comment on the "santity of marraige" unlike some of you I believe in that very much. And not just from a religious standpoint so dont go there with me. I feel that if two people supposedly love eachother cheating shouldnt occur. Im not saying tickling is or isnt cheating, but some of use believe in the concept of devotion to one person, sexually, emotionally, and spiritually.

My dear, I believe you've intelligently and effectively answered your own question. You've also obviously opened Pandora's box where this issue is concerned. If you believe in the sanctity of marriage (as I do) follow your heart and do what you know is right within yourself and your relationship to do.

Others will live as they choose and mere words won't change that. Depending on the situation, maybe it shouldn't......

I wish you well with your relationship and hope all works out for you.