why should i even mess with girls?

[vampirecult]

Sounds like you need a bit of practice approaching and talking to girls. Here are some suggestions that I hope will help you talk to them and gain some confidence.

Talk to any woman, not just the ones you're interested in dating, I mean any woman. The girl that serves you in the restaurant, store or pharmacy etc.
Get women, vs men, to cut your hair and talk with them. Talk to the women at work or school what ever. Just say hello or make some comment like "you look like you're having very busy today" smile a bit more. Show that you're a little bit interested in them and they'll be happy to talk to you for a few minutes

For women that you see more often be a little more friendly with them so you can chat with them more often and develop a friendship relationship. When I say friendly ask how they feel, what they did on the weekend, how are you type of questions....try not to be too serious ie talk only about work or school only. Joke around and tease them. Smile and laugh. Women all like guys who can make them laugh....because laughing = fun make me laugh > good looking guy for most women.

You get big points if you notice a change like their hair style or colour or new shoes or clothes....and make a nice comment about it.......most men don't notice such things.......women notice the few men that do.


Next, try to start a chat with some lady, any age, in the elevator, store or somewhere in public.....find something to comment on .......see what their holding.......wearing...the weather....my fav tell them what pretty colour they are showing on their toe nails ...... (She probably spent half an hour painting them and her hubby/BF could care less.....and you notice that effort....huge points for you.....you'll get a big smile more often then not). Compliments work, the best compliments are ones that women can control...like their clothes, jewellry, shoes, toe nail polish, books they read, stuff they buy etc. vs their looks which they can't control.


There is no risk to trying to talk. Have fun when your talking to them....some may not be in the mood, fine talk to another instead.....you can't loose , you're not trying to ask them out you're just having short converstation...sometimes just a few seconds.

Practice this for a month or two. Remember, practice on all women, not just the pretty ones.


After that you should be ok trying to approach and talk to almost any woman.

Next try to talk to one you want to ask out...... The easiest ones are ones you see a lot or at parties and social activities....the harder ones are at bars because its competititve and because when you talk to women at bars ...they know what your up to and can be defensive whereas the others don't suspect you'll try to ask them out and aren't nearly as defensive.

I want a report at the end of two months....on your practice efforts....go talk to them soldier. 🙂

Good luck

You are so so wise beyond your years.

 

[Brookie]

I noticed that this girl had had her hair cut when nobody else did. She was really impressed so i decided to impress her more by noticing her new shoes and jacket. She agreed that they were new but thought i was paying too much attention and she just got freaked! I'm lost! Totally lost!

Women worry about their safety ........ a fairly significant percent of them have been abused at one time or another (meannie men ...makes me mad). You need to be somewhat cognizant of their fears and concerns about men and learn not come on too strong or aggresive. In this case you appeared to be stalking her perhaps. Chalk it up to experience and learn from it. It would have been better to use the hair comment as an intro icebreaker then move onto another topic. Props are good.....like what they are doing or holding eg a book or magazine. It takes a bit of practice to improvise a bit with what ever is available...often women will feed you a topic too.

 

[Iggy pop]

Sounds like you need a bit of practice approaching and talking to girls. Here are some suggestions that I hope will help you talk to them and gain some confidence.

Talk to any woman, not just the ones you're interested in dating, I mean any woman. The girl that serves you in the restaurant, store or pharmacy etc.
Get women, vs men, to cut your hair and talk with them. Talk to the women at work or school what ever. Just say hello or make some comment like "you look like you're having very busy today" smile a bit more. Show that you're a little bit interested in them and they'll be happy to talk to you for a few minutes

For women that you see more often be a little more friendly with them so you can chat with them more often and develop a friendship relationship. When I say friendly ask how they feel, what they did on the weekend, how are you type of questions....try not to be too serious ie talk only about work or school only. Joke around and tease them. Smile and laugh. Women all like guys who can make them laugh....because laughing = fun make me laugh > good looking guy for most women.

You get big points if you notice a change like their hair style or colour or new shoes or clothes....and make a nice comment about it.......most men don't notice such things.......women notice the few men that do.


Next, try to start a chat with some lady, any age, in the elevator, store or somewhere in public.....find something to comment on .......see what their holding.......wearing...the weather....my fav tell them what pretty colour they are showing on their toe nails ...... (She probably spent half an hour painting them and her hubby/BF could care less.....and you notice that effort....huge points for you.....you'll get a big smile more often then not). Compliments work, the best compliments are ones that women can control...like their clothes, jewellry, shoes, toe nail polish, books they read, stuff they buy etc. vs their looks which they can't control.


There is no risk to trying to talk. Have fun when your talking to them....some may not be in the mood, fine talk to another instead.....you can't loose , you're not trying to ask them out you're just having short converstation...sometimes just a few seconds.

Practice this for a month or two. Remember, practice on all women, not just the pretty ones.


After that you should be ok trying to approach and talk to almost any woman.

Next try to talk to one you want to ask out...... The easiest ones are ones you see a lot or at parties and social activities....the harder ones are at bars because its competititve and because when you talk to women at bars ...they know what your up to and can be defensive whereas the others don't suspect you'll try to ask them out and aren't nearly as defensive.

I want a report at the end of two months....on your practice efforts....go talk to them soldier. 🙂

Good luck

This is some great advice. You may also want to try working out. It will make you feel better about yourself, and boost your confidence. You may also be able to meet some women at the gym, but this should not be the reason for going. Also with some practice you will be able to read body language which is very important. You will stat to learn when a girl is interested and when she is not.

 

[Mephistopheles]

I just don't talk to anyone. All my talking gets done online.

That sounds kinda sad, man.

Thing is with online conversation that it's impossible to show body language, which is an essential part of human interaction.