Why we like tickling

[tickleteasing]

Whats interesting is how we just accept we like it but not ask why we do. I have a few theories on it , my father told me once that a dolphin will show you they wont hurt you but just gently brushing up against you. I was thinking tickling is the same way, were showing were not giving pain by giving something gentle. Also, is the laughter the same laughter that the body responds with when you hear a joke?

 

[4Pawz]

Oh I’ve contemplated mine more than once. It’s a form of touch that I can accept. In general, I really don’t like it when people touch me. Just go stand over there and give me my bubble. But this, not only can I accept, but I enjoy it.

It’s funny, because I have no choice but to fight it. There will be a battle! But enjoy the horseplay and wrestling matches that happen as a result. On a separate level, it gives a release nothing else can. I don’t have to think, make decisions, nothing. Just battle the sensations and sound off. But the physical release involved its downright therapeutic. It’s unique, and especially when I’m stressed, it provides a reset to my system.

 

[tmcp]

I think I like that the Lee is submitting to something they can't hold still for, makes them lose controll, they beg to stop but won't safe word because the are loving it.

Recently being on the receiving end of tickling, I just love the touching, it's an inti.ate touch that isn't sex but just as inti.ate, for me anyways. So when my gf submits to tickles from me, or she tickles me and genuinely is living dishing it out, and the closeness it brings for us. Hoping for a valentines tickle sesh...

 

[WickedTouch]

I've thought about it a lot, but I can only speak for myself and those who've shared tickle thoughts with me. Much like anything else, I imagine there are hundreds, if not thousands, of reasons people like it. If you ask a bunch of runners why they like running, you'll likely get a lot of different answers, some similar, but some very different. Likewise, from my experience, people love tickling for all kinds of different reasons. Here are some that have been communicated to me:

For Lees:

• They like the attention and feel loved/important/bonded to the other person.
• It makes them feel sexy or wanted in some way.
• They don't love it–but they love the challenge of it.
• The sensation itself just feels pleasurable to them.
• They love the endorphins and stress relief from it.
• They love the feeling of being out of control and letting themselves go into that animalistic autopilot.
• It just turns them on.

For Lers:

• Within our community, most commonly because it turns them on.
• The lees reactions give a sense of reward feedback. We like to see and hear people laugh and it lights our brain up.
• The sense of wielding power over the other in a raw way without resorting to something as harsh as pain.
• An excuse to initiate physical touch or sexual advance. This is not suggesting or advocating for anything dark or whatever, but in a close relationship, this can and does happen in a healthy, playful way.
• Simply being playful in a similar way to why some enjoy wrestling. It's probably one of the more primal drives for tickling.

For me personally, I love it for so many reasons that it's difficult to articulate. I think of it as a language for a certain type of power exchange. It is being able to play with and explore each other's vulnerabilities in a relatively safe and exciting way. There can be sexual and non-sexual components for me, depending upon the context. When being tickled, I love the challenge, the intensity, and how it brings things to an urgency that makes life feel extra real. When tickling others, I feel powerful, drawing out strong laughter, sharp breaths, and desperate begging. For both the lee and the ler, it can bring out the more primal side of their personality, which is fun to explore. There's a raw energy exchange that connects the two participants in a way that few things can.

 

[Tickleslave83]

I think it's a pleasurable sensation and I think it's also very submissive to have a person tickling the hell out of you when you can't do anything to stop them, it's a wonderfully submissive feeling to have.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

I like hearing the laughter plus the sensation of their nerves dancing under my fingers

 

[DebonairDavid]

I'd say a person's personality and life experiences plays a big part in it, as well as what defines them as a lee, a ler, or a switch. For me, I'm a dom so I don't feel comfortable being submissive. Even as a kid, being tickled did nothing for me, as I can feel the touch, but I can't feel the tickle. I also find being a teasy and sadistic ler to be a turn on because I enjoy seeing a lee's face playfully light up after knowing she has no choice but endure me tickling her. This is even more true when she feels turned on by it as well.
Despite what I said about not feeling comfortable being submissive, I am a bit submissive when it comes to a woman teasing me with her cute socked feet or making smell them or her shoes, but I'm still not her bitch. In fact, because I also find powerplay to be a turn on, I'd love to be in a situation where she makes me smell her feet and then I tickle them and the rest of her body afterward.

 

[Alinaa]

A bit difficult to describe it in words but I'll try.

Once the tickling starts, the whole feeling shoots through my body. Not sure how to describe it but it feels good.
I want to write so much more but no clue how to express it words here🙈

 

[Deleted member 293394]

As a switch my answer is this (for both sides)
Ler: It's making people laugh, touching them, teasing them. I'm not really a BDSM tickling guy, I like it when tickling has a prank vibe or like, silly vibe.
Lee: I like the sensation. Tickling tend to start out with this like panic response, but after a second if you don't try to fight it, it feels good.
Plus it's, you know, a fetish.

 

[natscott6282]

Whats interesting is how we just accept we like it but not ask why we do. I have a few theories on it , my father told me once that a dolphin will show you they wont hurt you but just gently brushing up against you. I was thinking tickling is the same way, were showing were not giving pain by giving something gentle. Also, is the laughter the same laughter that the body responds with when you hear a joke?

I bet everyoneeee who’s into tickling like we are as asked themself why ! also tickling is very normally for most ppl not exactly gentle as it gets extremely unbearable extremely quickly if the tickler does it right, the laughter is totally different from jokes and tickling
all imho

 

[AhrenDanLee]

I want to be tickled (by women) because it stems from my desire to be liked and never being in a relationship. If she were to tickle me, then I assume that means she likes me, so since I like tickling she'll tickle me more thus meaning she likes me more. I also just genuinely like the feeling of it, such an odd sensation of fingers pressing into me and making me laugh; it feels good.

 

[DebonairDavid]

I also just genuinely like the feeling of it, such an odd sensation of fingers pressing into me and making me laugh; it feels good.

Nothing wrong with that

I want to be tickled (by women) because it stems from my desire to be liked and never being in a relationship. If she were to tickle me, then I assume that means she likes me, so since I like tickling she'll tickle me more thus meaning she likes me more.

Have women done other things to show romantic or sexual interest in you?

 

[AhrenDanLee]

No

 

[Deleted member 293394]

I want to be tickled (by women) because it stems from my desire to be liked and never being in a relationship. If she were to tickle me, then I assume that means she likes me, so since I like tickling she'll tickle me more thus meaning she likes me more. I also just genuinely like the feeling of it, such an odd sensation of fingers pressing into me and making me laugh; it feels good.

interesting

 

[Sirticklealot_V2]

I wondered why I like it so much once and came to a crazy conclusion. I just enjoy torturing the lee and making them feel helpless.

 

[DebonairDavid]

No

As someone who's also struggled with women for many years, did many things I'm now deeply ashamed of, and had the learn the hard way about what not to say or do, let me give you a reality check about this because the last thing I want is for you to be put into handcuffs because you didn't keep your emotions or sex drive under control.

When you ASSUME, you make an ASS out of U and ME. For you to think that a woman now suddenly has a sexual desire for you because she tickled you is smug, arrogant, creepy, and even dangerous because its going to give you the wrong impression from her, which is then going to cause you to sexually pursue her, when in reality, she probably or most-likely wants to be friends and might've only tickled you in a friendly and playful way. If that's the case, she's going to pick up on how horny, needy, clingy, and desperate you are, which will not only be a major turn off for her, but will also cause her to want nothing to do with you because you didn't respect her boundaries. It sounds like you're already struggling with Nice Guy Syndrome (something I've struggled with as well), so if you end up getting butt-hurt and throwing a tantrum because she rejected you, that, along with her being creeped out by your neediness, will lead to her filing sexual harassment charges and a restraining order against you, and then you'll have to live with the guilt of being an ex-convict for the rest of your life. Now, I get it, you want your sexual needs met like everyone else, but this assumption is the WORST way to go about fulfilling them. I seriously recommend you seeing a therapist and working on yourself so women can not only find you attractive, but also feel safe around you. Send me a PM on how that goes, or if you need any other advice from me. I'm not going to get involved in your business, but I am going to put you on the right path so you don't repeat the mistakes I made.

 

[FFT32]

I like tickling directly because of the very first time I noticed that some female feet could be pretty, I was immediately overtaken with the urge to tickle them.

 

[U.N.Owen]

I like tickling directly because of the very first time I noticed that some female feet could be pretty, I was immediately overtaken with the urge to tickle them.

My interest in tickling goes back as far as I can remember, at least as far as age 4 (I remember a specific incident when I was 4 and a girl from nursery school tickled me - and how fascinating I found it). My liking for feet came from my liking for tickling. Feet were a good place to tickle, and one of the few usually hidden places on a girl that you actually got to see uncovered pretty often. So when I hit puberty and realized my tickling fixation was sexual, I started paying attention to girls' feet, and quickly fell for them too.

 

[ManInDistress]

Since many of us myself included, enjoy tickle torture, I think it's fair to place tickling in the BDSM category. What I mean is that the same factors that cause attraction to inflicting or receiving whippings from a belt or whip can apply to tickling as well.

It's common for people to desire engaging in sadomasochistic activities for sexual purposes, and relentless tickling can satisfy that need for some of us. I think tickling is just another type of abuse that someone can partake in that allows for the dominance/submission dynamic that many people find erotic.

Why some people end up preferring tickling to any other types of BDSM activities will be personal to them. Some may be very ticklish and find it to be harder to endure, while someone else may see laughter as erotic. That may be oversimplifying it somewhat, but I believe this is a large factor in why tickle fetishism exists.

 

[FFT32]

My interest in tickling goes back as far as I can remember, at least as far as age 4 (I remember a specific incident when I was 4 and a girl from nursery school tickled me - and how fascinating I found it). My liking for feet came from my liking for tickling. Feet were a good place to tickle, and one of the few usually hidden places on a girl that you actually got to see uncovered pretty often. So when I hit puberty and realized my tickling fixation was sexual, I started paying attention to girls' feet, and quickly fell for them too.

I was like 5 when it all became conscious for me, so I just assume I was born with it.

 

[U.N.Owen]

I was like 5 when it all became conscious for me, so I just assume I was born with it.

The closest I have to an explanation is that I was always attracted to girls, even when I was very young... not in any developed sexual way, but just a sense that girls had a special wonderful fascination. I think tickling was a way of interpreting that attraction that a pre-sexual little kid could understand.

 

[aberdeen]

As a LER, I enjoy the exploration of the Lee's ticklish spots and the power dynamic that there is between the Ler and Lee (even in tickling encounters that do not involve bondage or extreme tickling (tickle torture). There is always a power dynamic between the two parties ....even when tickling girls in a playful tickling session, you still wield some power over them as to how far you push their reactions. If you get to a bondage scenario, you can push farther on their limits and have fun ticking them up and down the ticklishness scale...or simply get to maximum level and stay there and enjoy their more extreme responses. Tickling is truly an advanced version of touch play or even touch therapy (There are plenty of Lees who find being tickled is a stress reliever when its all finished).

As a Lee (much less experience) I compare the tickling experience as a roller coaster ride....The exhilaration of the tickling as it gets more intense (going to the top the track)...being held at the ultimate intensity (and the adrenaline rush it provides)....then the swoop down after the tickling lets up and endorphins and serotonin are released to calm the body and mind (the endorphin 'bath' )...

Like a roller coaster ride, I wonder as the Lee how intense it will be, how I will tolerate it ... at some point I expect to experience that sensation of " this is so bad (intense) that it blends into being good (with all the adrenaline rush ).... that "so bad its good" mental state can make the experience worthwhile....then you get the endorphin release...