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Goodieluver
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locker669 said:
Is it any different that in real life?
People have problems with people in general
Only diff here is if you post something here, the person you are complaining about will likely see it and complain about your complaints and then the muck slinging begins.
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Well, they get upset with other people over the internet because they get very invested in their own actions and opinions, and those of other people (believe me, I know a thing or two about this! 😀 ). And then they talk about it with vague descriptions because calling people out by name is against the rules of this forum. Pretty straightforward, if you ask me.
I think one reason is because of the wide diversity of people that share our interest. You've got straight people, gay people, vanilla people, kinky people, black, white, rich, poor, young, old, smart, stupid, considerate, obnoxious, Americans, Canadians, Europeans....all collected in this one forum, all bound together by a single interest in tickling.locker669 said:
With all that diversity, there's going to be some clashes and some conflict. I'm as guilty as anybody, and probably more so than most. But over all, I think most of the folks here do a pretty good job of maintaining civility.
locker669 said:
i'm relatively new still to the internet, and i used to get upset over a dispute or whathaveyou...but what i've realized now, is that it's not worth my time getting upset over someone i will never in all likelyhood meet...
my skin is growing tougher, little by little..it takes times, i'll never be tough to the max, it's not how i'm built, but i try not to be as sensitive as i was..
and if i ever do get upset with someone online, i'll take care of it between that person and myself in private...
i've had to learn that not everyone is built like i am..i had to learn the hard way..but i learned..people have told me i'm too innocent for the internet, yes at my age, incredible as it may seem..i've been too open, too willing to share what shouldn't be shared..but i'm learning..after all, i learn everyday something new..the day i quit learning is the day i cease to exist..
but arguments should never be carried on in a public forum..
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No, I can't think of any reason to do something like that. But let me poke around a bit, and see if I can stumble on what you're really asking...locker669 said:
Some people post "rants" on the TMF, because something or someone in their real life is bothering them. Blowing off steam in this way, and getting support from people who listen and understand, can help them feel better.
If the person they're angry at is on the TMF, then they might post a rant in the hopes that that person will see it and feel some remorse for whatever they supposedly did wrong. I kind of doubt that ever works, but I can see why people who are hurt and upset might feel inclined to do it.
LindyHopper said:
The key word here is supposedly did wrong.Many people here,and on the internet in general have limited social skills at best,but i am not going to name names here....If you have a problem with someone,you need to take it up with that person,not expect others to do it for you.And if that person does not chose to respond,forget about it and move on.As Izzy said,its not likely you will ever meet this person or have to deal with them in real life,so dont worry about it to much.
Its fine to post a *rant* here,i have done it myself,but if all the feedback is not positive dont be upset about it either.If this sounds harsh i'm sorry,but i get tired of people who do nothing but whine,we all have problems afterall.
It's funny; when I get called out in a rant, I am called out directly. Sometimes I've been invited into people's rants (Slaver Tickler comes to mind here 
). Sometimes I'm in a mood and will joust and sometimes I purposefully ignore whoever is taunting because I know they're looking for someone to fight with. I'm hoping Slaver knows by now that I've lost interest in fighting for fight's sake even though he'll point to me every now and then. I must admit we can make terrific adversaries when I give into temptation 
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There have been times that I have disagreed with one person and five of their friends and fan club show up to gang up on me. Hey, I'm a big girl and there's enough of me to go around for everyone. When I get bored I just unsubscribe and come back in a week to see how far the thread dropped in my absence.
I've done more of my share of ticking folks off around here. Much of it was unintentional, some was much directed at a previous post they made. To me, that's just the luck of the draw; sometimes you're the windshield, sometimes you're the bug kind of deal. Sometimes I'm right....well, most times 😛 and sometimes I'm viewed as wrong. I don't really care as long as I get to give my opinion.
It's the internet folks, we're in cyberspace and as Izzy said; it's highly unlikely that we ever meet in person. Even though most of you would be met with hugs and open arms (even you Slaver) there are some that I would shake hands with a rattlesnake before I touched them first.
I know, ain't I a stinker??
😉 
). Sometimes I'm in a mood and will joust and sometimes I purposefully ignore whoever is taunting because I know they're looking for someone to fight with. I'm hoping Slaver knows by now that I've lost interest in fighting for fight's sake even though he'll point to me every now and then. I must admit we can make terrific adversaries when I give into temptation .There have been times that I have disagreed with one person and five of their friends and fan club show up to gang up on me. Hey, I'm a big girl and there's enough of me to go around for everyone. When I get bored I just unsubscribe and come back in a week to see how far the thread dropped in my absence.
I've done more of my share of ticking folks off around here. Much of it was unintentional, some was much directed at a previous post they made. To me, that's just the luck of the draw; sometimes you're the windshield, sometimes you're the bug kind of deal. Sometimes I'm right....well, most times 😛 and sometimes I'm viewed as wrong. I don't really care as long as I get to give my opinion.
It's the internet folks, we're in cyberspace and as Izzy said; it's highly unlikely that we ever meet in person. Even though most of you would be met with hugs and open arms (even you Slaver) there are some that I would shake hands with a rattlesnake before I touched them first.
I know, ain't I a stinker??
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bugman said:
Like Meat Loaf said, you took the words right outta my mouth.
kis123 makes no apologies. I think that's great...
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What fun would it be if everyone got along all the time? 
bugman said:
One should expect negative feedback because you have a small percentage of people who revel in other's misery. With the anominity (sp) of the internet, they'll play king (or queen) of the universe at your expense. It's childish, ignorant, and immature but unfortunately true. I've occasionally smacked some of them around too but will ignore their posts when they start looking like the attention hounds they are. To some, negative attention is better than none at all.
And thanks Knox; in three + years on this forum, I've only had need to publicly apologize twice. One of those times I realized someone needed to be the better person even though I was 1000% right in my opinion. When you realize you're spinning with someone who may be substantially younger than you and thinks they know what they're talking about, it can tear up a thread. It made for good weekend entertainment, but I was tired on Monday morning. This is cyberspace; it shouldn't have meant that much to me but I allowed it to go on.
But, as I said before, I have a bit of a "stinker" in me too. But I also believe if you mess up in public, you should publically clean it up (no sneaking behind PMs) so I apologized and moved on. I'm slowly learning not to take things too seriously and pick my fights more carefully. But when that "stinker" comes out........
locker669 said:
I can understand how people get upset.
I’ve seen enough threads on this forum were people posted about how much this community means to them and about how they made some close friends here. Now when it comes to disagreements or even fights all of a sudden ‘this is just the internet’? I don’t get it.
It’s people talking to people no matter if they see each other face to face or just communicate in written or on the phone, in any case you build connections – more or less serious ones, so if then something goes wrong, how could you NOT get upset.
I absolutely agree though, that private arguments should never be carried on in public.
kis123 said:It's the internet folks, we're in cyberspace and as Izzy said; it's highly unlikely that we ever meet in person. Even though most of you would be met with hugs and open arms (even you Slaver) there are some that I would shake hands with a rattlesnake before I touched them first.
I know, ain't I a stinker??
no you aren't a stinker..that's exactly how i feel also..people tend to say things online that they would never say face to face to another..also once you meet someone face to face, those differences that happened online probably disappear in the excitement of meeting someone you've only known online..it's also called letting bygones be bygones..but like you also Kis, there are those i feel the same about, that i would rather kiss a rattlesnake than meet or touch them..
