Uh, your "identity" is nothing more than a loginID. It's you who chooses to associate some persona with it. You could be user12345 for all it would matter.
You're also, again, conveniently omitting the fact that whether or not the therapist says yes might, in fact, be determined by why they were being asked.
But, I suppose I shouldn't be surprised at how vehemently people rationalize lying around here. Whatever gets you off...
Uh, no. Conceptually, the Internet has a huge potential to allowing the users on any forum, blog, etc. great anonymity, and the abuse of it. If someone wants to put more out there about themselves they can., but by its design and use, the Internet allows for “lurking” and “trolling”. And slander, libel, propaganda, fraud lies and identity theft. Moderators do have access to the information of the users, but then again there’s this idea of the user putting his trust into folks he doesn’t know himself. The entire nature of the functioning of the Internet in a layman’s day-to-day usage comes off as a huge potential for shadiness to me. If all you want to be is a log in, you can be just that.
And not sure what is “convenient” about omitting “why” they were being asked. Maybe because…. The one asking likes the sensation? And here’s an idea - what if you ask and the therapist doesn’t ask why? Or you ask, then the therapist asks why, and you answer truthfully?
Or
do answer with a lie? Are priest confessors-massage therapists involved here and a lie will send us to vanilla hell?
If you ask a therapist for a deep tissue do they want to know/need to know “why”? Does the grocery store need to ask why you are buying apples and razors the day before Halloween? Does the pharmacist confront folks buying disposable enemas and medical tape? If a single adult male goes to see an animated Disney flick, is he an animation fan, a movie reviewer, or is something else going on within that guy? The theater manager isn’t going to ask, and doesn’t care.
“But there’s no physical contact involved, since what is….” Stop right there and read on.
We’re adults here. Most of us aren’t going to ask a massage therapist to tickle us. Those that do probably aren’t asking so they can get an orgasm out of a session, but because it is a great psychological release. And those therapists that are asked are most likely going to say no…. although it been established that some have been asked, have said yes, and the sky hasn’t fallen.
And when a therapist says no - which they are completely capable of; they are adults, too, and don‘t need the “support“ of an Internet community - that no means, no;
not police and handcuffs or a visit from the ACLU. Therapists are completely capable of saying “no”, or “no, please leave.” And that’s that.
There’s way too much parental finger wagging about such a goofy subject. Saying it isn’t a good idea is one thing. Folks adding a maudlin gasp and clutching the pearls at their necks as they fan themselves is a bit overboard. Especially, again, when it has already been done. None of this “gives fetishists a bad name“. The fact that we have a fetish gives us the bad name.
Now asking a shoe salesman to tickle you, that’s just perverted.
