Will she get the hint?

[Kyle1986]

I've been dating a new girl for about 2 months now. Simply put, I really dig this girl. Things have moved intimate a few weeks ago, after we took it slow to get to know eachother well, and now I'm facing the new hurdle of introducing my kinks into our bedroom play. I'm not quite up to blurting it out just yet, and would rather her discover it through our intimacy. So my question, lately while we've been intimate, when the finale is fast approaching, my hands move away from the typical areas of her body to her feet, where I keep them until I finish. It's happened enough now where I simply would assume she's made a connection between me touching her feet and my sexual climax. Is this enough for her to piece together that I have a foot fetish? Coupled with my obvious interest in giving her the occasional lonnnnggg foot massage.

 

[SoleMates]

Is this enough for her to piece together that I have a foot fetish? Coupled with my obvious interest in giving her the occasional lonnnnggg foot massage.

It might be, but I wouldn't guarantee it. If you're not ready to tell her, and she hasn't told you to stop, then just keep doing what you're doing. Even if she doesn't get the hint, as long as she's okay with you doing it, you don't need to make an 'official' declaration.

 

[rhiannon]

Don't rely on it that she'll figure it out. Why don't you just tell her that you think she has really beautiful feet and they really make you hot? I can't imagine anybody being apalled by something like that, and it sounds so much better than just saying "Guess what, I got a foot fetish".

 

[shiftdown]

I have a feeling she might, but anytime I brought up my kinks....for some reason, they are suprised.....sad for me, but by the sound of it*If you guys climax together, which i dont wanna know, lol* she may also have something of a foot fetish too, either way she seems accepting of it and the best of luck to you and your endevours

 

[chicago]

I've come to learn that leaving hints, dropping breadcrumbs, throwing drifts, doesn't always work because people can't be expected to read minds or even between lines.

Honesty is the best policy. Communication is key. It keeps things simple and easy.

 

[Ticklemepink76]

I think rhiannon has the right idea. but as anniehall says, honesty is best and if she is climaxing at the same time or close to it, she may not even realize you are touching her feet......

 

[TicklesXXX]

Tell her. Tell her right before starting intercourse. Or while you are in the intercourse "I love to touch you feet". She will love it.

 

[TiickleNiicole]

You can only drop so many hints until you finally have just come out and just say what needs to be said.

 

[devioustickler]

You can only drop so many hints until you finally have just come out and just say what needs to be said.

I agree with Nicole... however as we hear many guys and woman say... we are not mind readers. I myself am very blunt with my foot fetish cuz I know what I want. I am sure though she MIGHT notice it but no guarantee... maybe play with her feet randomly she will pick it up. Don't be afraid though. We will always come across people that like it, go with the flow to please the other person or hate it. I have had all 3 before. Haha... but yeah chances are she MIGHT notice but from the sounds of it, she might not think anything of it... maybe a little more hints.

 

[FFT32]

Everyone back up for a sec. You open by saying you have been seeing this person for about two months. You further state that things got physical a few weeks ago. With out getting too technical, let's assume that we can establish that your first full month (at least) was you two "getting to know eachother well" as you put it.

So, now after physical activity has taken place, you are concerned about how do you expose your foot fetish to her? You dedicated an entire month to get to know eachother. You said that you provided long foot masages, what better opportunity could you have had?

The honest, non-desperate approch is best. At least in my opinion.

Good luck to you sir. I hope that the both of you are able to enjoy all of the wonderful things that tickling and foot fetish can offer. Just be honest, caring, respectful and pay attention to her very closely.

 

[chrisheaven]

I agree with the last poster 100%

 

[PiedPiper]

Regardless of your approach, any revelation has to be positioned as being "about her," and not about your foot fetish,.. so Rhiannon is correct in that regard. That's what makes these things a wonderful component of a real relationship, instead of an awkward accommodation. Patience is the ultimate skill you need to employ.

 

[rhiannon]

Regardless of your approach, any revelation has to be positioned as being "about her," and not about your foot fetish,..

Exactly. Don't make her feel like a pair of feet with attachment, but like a woman you care about with lovely feet.

 

[paracarl44]

You could always say that you find feet as pleasure zones.

 

[Kyle1986]

Thank you all for the input. I was able to take a piece from every post. I think the general consensus that confident honesty is the best choice. I will avoid the "I have a foot-fetish" approach and clearly make it about her. Rhiannon I think you nailed it in your first post. And yes, opportunity partly missed in the "getting to know you" month, but timing is everything, and it felt too soon.