Women: When Does a Guy Really Get Into Your Head?

[Borg Perfection]

Women: when a male spills himself to you, does it stay in your head all day? Or does it fade with the moment?

Say you're at a party, or whatever. You shoot the shit with the new faces. Nothing too profound, just conversation. You find a few days later that one of the men there have added you on facebook (insert social site) and breaks into casual conversation with you. After a bit of that, he expresses strong interest in you, and spills it that he finds you gorgeous and alluring, etc.

Does what this new, semi-acquaintance said stick in your mind all day, and do you find yourself thinking about him curiously? Or do you feel flattered in the moment and then just go on with your day, without really giving much more that to his interests?

 

[Angel77]

Hiya Borg!

For me it just depends on what he says. And then there's the whole connection factor. Sometimes it's there and sometimes it isn't but for the most part, a guy that can make me laugh (yes, without tickling me) always seems to find a way into my head. I'm always attracted to the funny ones. 😛

 

[rhiannon]

If someome spills the beans that soon telling me how gorgeous I am, that drives me away more than anything else. Taking it slow is much more interesting. Someone who is that enthusiastic so quickly...good chances you'll have a hard time getting rid of the person if you realize it won't work out.

 

[Mister Scruff]

If someome spills the beans that soon telling me how gorgeous I am, that drives me away more than anything else. Taking it slow is much more interesting. Someone who is that enthusiastic so quickly...good chances you'll have a hard time getting rid of the person if you realize it won't work out.

You're just a big bundle of laughter and sunshine, aren't you? 😀

 

[rhiannon]

You're just a big bundle of laughter and sunshine, aren't you? 😀

Believe it or not, I actually am! 🙂 Ask everyone who knows me! 🙂

But seriously, usually women don't like the guys who are all over them...that's too easy! 🙂 And be honest, guys don't like that in girls either! The ones playing hard to get are much much more interesting! 🙂

 

[naughtylucy]

If someome spills the beans that soon telling me how gorgeous I am, that drives me away more than anything else. Taking it slow is much more interesting. Someone who is that enthusiastic so quickly...good chances you'll have a hard time getting rid of the person if you realize it won't work out.

I agree with this one. Much more attracted to someone who has a human conversation, rather than inane chat as a way of getting to the shagmeshagmeshagmeplease stage. Not impressed by grand declarations. Seduction really is all about the mind.

I'm turned on by people who make me laugh, people who are clever and have original ideas, People who are decisive and independent and secure in their own choices. people who are easy to be around. People who kiss like they mean it, people who can combine intensity and humour, and especially people who fuck like there's no tomorrow. Those people are great.

Re: the original question, she's either thinking about you or not. It depends on whether she fancies you or not. That has nothing to do with adding her on facebook or telling her she's pretty. See above.

 

[Borg Perfection]

Re: the original question, she's either thinking about you or not. It depends on whether she fancies you or not. That has nothing to do with adding her on facebook or telling her she's pretty. See above.

I'm aware.

What I'm curious about, is how things stick in the mind of one, compared to the next.

 

[myth77]

Women: when a male spills himself to you, does it stay in your head all day? Or does it fade with the moment?

Say you're at a party, or whatever. You shoot the shit with the new faces. Nothing too profound, just conversation. You find a few days later that one of the men there have added you on facebook (insert social site) and breaks into casual conversation with you. After a bit of that, he expresses strong interest in you, and spills it that he finds you gorgeous and alluring, etc.

Does what this new, semi-acquaintance said stick in your mind all day, and do you find yourself thinking about him curiously? Or do you feel flattered in the moment and then just go on with your day, without really giving much more that to his interests?

This is a very interesting question. I agree with what Angel said, the connection factor is important as to whether or not that person's words remain with me and lead to attraction, or whether I just am flattered and move on about my day. I work a little different though...I am a lover of well put together words, with true thought and feeling behind them, even if I am not attracted to that person. I'm not a sucker for cheap flattery (unless I'm already dating the person, then both cheap and expensive flattery work well )

Anyway, in general, I tend to mull over people's words quite a bit, especially if there was a vulnerability risk that person had to take to tell me. I know other people answered playing hard to get is more attractive, but I find it more refreshing if the person shows the courage to risk it and say how they feel. Granted, if I'm not available, I won't obsess about the words, but I will still feel a great deal of respect for that person for being able to say something. If I am available, and the connection seems to be there, I will be thinking about not only the words, but it will spark a curiosity about the mind of the man that said it. Playing hard to get and keeping your affections to yourself might work for some...but that's the quickest way for me to assume you're actually not interested.

I have no idea if I answered the question or not

 

[TonyTheTongue]

You can hijack a woman's head if you have the words and actions to cut through all the bullshit, or knock down the cliche walls, or sneak through the windows or back doors, etc!! Why do you think she's pretty?? What makes her different from all the other pretty women.

Are you a good listener. Do you pay attention. Sexual tension's ingredients include a want and a not want... a push and a pull... a step forward and a step backward... no resistance to your persistence... resistance to her persistence at times... a finger on the G-spot occasionally applying pressure when she doesn't expect it.

What kind of a man are you. You've got to know yourself first and then the women will cum.

 

[desdemona]

You can hijack a woman's head if you have the words and actions to cut through all the bullshit, or knock down the cliche walls, or sneak through the windows or back doors, etc!! Why do you think she's pretty?? What makes her different from all the other pretty women.

Are you a good listener. Do you pay attention. Sexual tension's ingredients include a want and a not want... a push and a pull... a step forward and a step backward... no resistance to your persistence... resistance to her persistence at times... a finger on the G-spot occasionally applying pressure when she doesn't expect it.

What kind of a man are you. You've got to know yourself first and then the women will cum.

Well said!

 

[primetime]

Honestly, men will never know what the woman thinks. All we can do is try something and hope it works. Some women like guys who are pretty forward, others don't.

To all the women who posted on this topic, thank you. But, is that what women really think? Does having a great personality, makes you laugh, can have intelligient conversation, mature, respectful, etc, really make a woman attracted to a man? Or is it "raw animal magnetism" that draws women to certain men?

I don't really want to turn this thread into "nice guys" vs "bad boys" type of discussion, but really, women have passed over men who actually have the humor, maturity, intelligience, and respectful to go with the guy who doesn't give a rat's ass about them, who only want to fuck them, and have that "raw physical attraction". It happens quite often...... Do women really know what they want?

 

[desdemona]

Well, the reactions are certainly something we can gauge or control. But since I tend to be very analytical, I like to think I look at the whole package, not just what my senses tell me about a person. I think it's a very inexact science - despite what those match making services may claim.

As far as someone catching my attention by befriending me and messaging me on FB or such, I'm not sure that would make a lasting impression. I would say I've had IM's or e-mails that have certainly stuck with me longer than I would expect. I'd probably blow off a comment from a guy I'd just met - it would seem far too flip for me.

 

[Cy/MiG]

Do women really know what they want?

YES!

I mean... no.

Or maybe it was...

 

[kis123]

I don't really want to turn this thread into "nice guys" vs "bad boys" type of discussion, but really, women have passed over men who actually have the humor, maturity, intelligience, and respectful to go with the guy who doesn't give a rat's ass about them, who only want to fuck them, and have that "raw physical attraction". It happens quite often...... Do women really know what they want?

Not trying to beat up on you, but that door swings both ways.

Do men really know what they want, or is it just a case of them wanting what they see? As soon as they get her and have her for awhile, then they're moving onto the next one.............

You see, that question works both ways; I've heard way too many men (even from around here) went for that beautiful hot one and she ended up with the personality from hell.

I know exactly what I want in a man; mostly has to do with a lot of what naughtylucy said. Mostly I want to be with a man who believes that love and respect are not mutually exclusive. In my world, if you love me, then you will treat me with respect. I've gotten tons of "I love you's" and have been treated miserably with lies, cheating, money mismangement, and the like. I don't need your love if it doesn't come with respectful behavior, thank you very much!

I don't want someone I have to prop up because he has no self confidence or is easily intimidated. I will not lower my strengths just because they make him feel lesser than; I've been there and done that with a series of what I can best describe as overaged adolescents who have yet to grow up. They say they want a strong independent woman, but when they get one, the first thing he does is try to break her down until he can get her on a level he can handle; instead of raising his own bar it makes him feel better to lower hers. When that doesn't work, it's on to the one he can manipulate. So please, do not tell me that I don't know what I want in a man; I've had a lifetime of experience in this department.

I stay to myself.......a lot. It's because I'd rather be by myself than to be with a man who's going to make me miserable. I'm talking to someone now and it's a process of what I'm willing to deal with in a relationship. He has his issues, but at least he's been honest and upfront about them. That's the most important aspect of relationship building with me. Please don't lie because it always comes out in the long run. I might be into what you're into, but if you lie about it don't wonder why I'm not interested in being with you anymore because above all else, I hate liars!

So primetime, I'd rather not turn this into a good girl/bad boy thread either. Because I like my men good; I've had plenty of my share of the bad.

 

[rhiannon]

To all the women who posted on this topic, thank you. But, is that what women really think? Does having a great personality, makes you laugh, can have intelligient conversation, mature, respectful, etc, really make a woman attracted to a man? Or is it "raw animal magnetism" that draws women to certain men?

I don't really want to turn this thread into "nice guys" vs "bad boys" type of discussion, but really, women have passed over men who actually have the humor, maturity, intelligience, and respectful to go with the guy who doesn't give a rat's ass about them, who only want to fuck them, and have that "raw physical attraction". It happens quite often...... Do women really know what they want?

Do you know what I believe? It's all chemistry. That's it. Nothing more. If the guy has the right genes, he has a smell that's appealing to the woman. If he doesn't, he can be as nice as he wants, she will not find him attractive! So - yeah, it is raw animal magnetism! It's all instinct!

 

[Bohemianne]

Women: When Does a Guy Really Get Into Your Head?

After an earth shattering (credible) IMPACT.

Do women really know what they want?

YES.

 

[Mister Scruff]

Do you know what I believe? It's all chemistry. That's it. Nothing more. If the guy has the right genes, he has a smell that's appealing to the woman. If he doesn't, he can be as nice as he wants, she will not find him attractive! So - yeah, it is raw animal magnetism! It's all instinct!

Unless, of course, the woman is herself a bit of a hag-bag. But then again no men are going to be hitting on her if she is a hag-bag, so I suppose that's an irrelevant tangent.

 

[rhiannon]

For some reason hag-bags get screwed too. Never watch talk-shows? The most horrible women usually have a baby and don't know who the father is. So there are five guys getting tested, and none of them is the father, although they all could have been.

And I am just sitting in front of the TV thinking "Who would even TOUCH her??"

Believe me, most men screw EVERYTHING! 🙂

 

[Mister Scruff]

For some reason hag-bags get screwed too. Never watch talk-shows? The most horrible women usually have a baby and don't know who the father is. So there are five guys getting tested, and none of them is the father, although they all could have been.

And I am just sitting in front of the TV thinking "Who would even TOUCH her??"

Believe me, most men screw EVERYTHING! 🙂

That's a fair point, although the people who go on talk shows are usually exceptional cases.

And by "exceptional" I mean "heroin addict".

And by "cases" I mean "failures".

Ergo, you can't really extrapolate a theory about "most men" from the kind of men you see on talk shows, or hag-bags either for that matter 😛

 

[TonyTheTongue]

Being nice is overrated and uncovered in the dating game... people who act nice usually do it in a matter that borders on ass kissing... and ass kissing is an instant yuck. Niceness is a default behavior people use to make up for a lack of knowledge and understanding. Ever do business with somebody who doesn't know what they're doing, but acts real nice to you to keep your business (for instance, your cable company operator??). You don't want nice behavior, you want results. Same with women!! They want to feel good feelings like you'd want to watch good TV.

Women are bitches and secretly want to be slutty or at least explore its allure... except the 2% that are already outgoing and careless about what others think. That 98% is a lot of repression without much expression!! SO next time you act like a nice lovable loser to manipulate the woman into doing a dirty deed... remember that 98% of women have a sexual repression that needs an expression that being nice won't bring about!!

Casual conversation and behavior are boring, and being too casual will make you seem like you're only thinking about yourself. Playing hard to get isn't flirting... and if it's done excessively it will make you look damaged with intimacy issues, unless you're teasing to please. Sweet talking a woman online and only online makes you look like a coward... especially if you were a casual dud in front of her eyes. Bold actions will stand out and invade a woman's thoughts. Taking risks and putting your erection out there and letting it stand tall without much mind to what anybody else or what she thinks will get her attention!! Any kind of transportation crashes that burn are fascinating... REMEMBER THIS!! Fire is alluring and it also warms/melts stuff.

 

[Cy/MiG]

Being nice is overrated and uncovered in the dating game... people who act nice usually do it in a matter that borders on ass kissing... and ass kissing is an instant yuck.

I don't know, some women like the rim job.

...

Oh wait... you meant...

 

[Cy/MiG]

Do men really know what they want, or is it just a case of them wanting what they see?

In my opinion, most of them, yes. What do they want?

As soon as they get her and have her for awhile, then they're moving onto the next one.............

This. They want 'all you can eat buffet'.

 

[kis123]

Being nice is overrated and uncovered in the dating game... people who act nice usually do it in a matter that borders on ass kissing... and ass kissing is an instant yuck. Niceness is a default behavior people use to make up for a lack of knowledge and understanding. Ever do business with somebody who doesn't know what they're doing, but acts real nice to you to keep your business (for instance, your cable company operator??). You don't want nice behavior, you want results. Same with women!! They want to feel good feelings like you'd want to watch good TV.

Women are bitches and secretly want to be slutty or at least explore its allure... except the 2% that are already outgoing and careless about what others think. That 98% is a lot of repression without much expression!! SO next time you act like a nice lovable loser to manipulate the woman into doing a dirty deed... remember that 98% of women have a sexual repression that needs an expression that being nice won't bring about!!

Casual conversation and behavior are boring, and being too casual will make you seem like you're only thinking about yourself. Playing hard to get isn't flirting... and if it's done excessively it will make you look damaged with intimacy issues, unless you're teasing to please. Sweet talking a woman online and only online makes you look like a coward... especially if you were a casual dud in front of her eyes. Bold actions will stand out and invade a woman's thoughts. Taking risks and putting your erection out there and letting it stand tall without much mind to what anybody else or what she thinks will get her attention!! Any kind of transportation crashes that burn are fascinating... REMEMBER THIS!! Fire is alluring and it also warms/melts stuff.

I don't know what kind of women you date, but I'm NOBODY'S bitch.


Even at my age, I still experiment sexually but am no means slutty about it nor am I'm so repressed I'm just dying to explore *****dom. I don't know where you get your material, but it's the complete and total opposite of how I expect to be treated by a man.

I"ve been with men who carry on nice civil conversation. They are engaging and with each word they speak, they become more interesting to me. I'm a bit of a nerd so intelligent dialogue is stimulating; if they know something I don't and are willing to share that knowledge, that's almost an automatic reel-in for me. Looks are okay.....I'm not desiring to be with someone who I don't find unattractive. But at the end of the day, it's what's between your ears that keeps me engaged long enough to one day get between my legs. I absolutely hate dumb, uneducated (not necessarily academic because I tend to find them boring and eletist) men who can't hold a decent conversation with me.

I don't care if he stumbles a little bit, but come as confident as you can and bring the A game with you. That's a whole lot better than your looks, your body, and how good he thinks he is in bed. Sex is the icing on my cake, but you can't live off cake everyday. Gotta have some substance to you if you know what I mean.

 

[kis123]

In my opinion, most of them, yes. What do they want?



This. They want 'all you can eat buffet'.

You seem to be in a mood today.........

 

[myth77]

That's a fair point, although the people who go on talk shows are usually exceptional cases.

And by "exceptional" I mean "heroin addict".

And by "cases" I mean "failures".

Hilarious !!!