Working Tickling Into Relationships

[ArizonaTickler]

So, for future reference, I was wondering how to work tickling into a relationship. When I had a girlfriend earlier this year, she knew I liked tickling, and we tickled eachother briefly, but never for more than a few seconds. I was figuring I should move slowly with that so as to not freak her out. Unfortunately, she broke up with me after a month and a half, so I never really got to indulge in the tickling.

I was wondering how some of you have worked tickling into relationships, and how quickly this was accomplished - so if I ever get another chance, I might get to have a little more fun before all is said and done.

 

[kaylatkl]

It took me almost a year to work up the courage, but when I eventually told my ex I just said that I like tickling and being tickled. He was very understanding :3

 

[oomph87]

I've still been trying to tell my boyfriend about how I want to be tickled and what not. I know he knows that it turns me on, but not to the point where he knows that I just want to be tied up and taken advantage of. I'm hoping that some people will be able to have some tips for us to be able to integrate it into our relationships

 

[ArizonaTickler]

I've still been trying to tell my boyfriend about how I want to be tickled and what not. I know he knows that it turns me on, but not to the point where he knows that I just want to be tied up and taken advantage of. I'm hoping that some people will be able to have some tips for us to be able to integrate it into our relationships

Actually, I was able to tell her about the tying aspect. She was basically accusing me of being pretty vanilla as far as fantasies go, so I told her about one that involved bondage... and eventually I said, "I can be in either position during this, but it involves being tied down and tickled," to which she responded, "Well, I will definately tie you down and tickle you, because I need to get away when I'm being tickled."

Sadly, that never got to take place. So perhaps you could engage him in a conversation about fantasies and bring that up as one of yours.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

So, for future reference, I was wondering how to work tickling into a relationship. When I had a girlfriend earlier this year, she knew I liked tickling, and we tickled eachother briefly, but never for more than a few seconds. I was figuring I should move slowly with that so as to not freak her out. Unfortunately, she broke up with me after a month and a half, so I never really got to indulge in the tickling.

I was wondering how some of you have worked tickling into relationships, and how quickly this was accomplished - so if I ever get another chance, I might get to have a little more fun before all is said and done.

Make it a part of foreplay. Given the right mood, whoever you're with will see how turned on you are by it and will most likely want to participate in that pleasure with you together right then and there. Later on, perhaps talk about it.

I've still been trying to tell my boyfriend about how I want to be tickled and what not. I know he knows that it turns me on, but not to the point where he knows that I just want to be tied up and taken advantage of. I'm hoping that some people will be able to have some tips for us to be able to integrate it into our relationships

Buy some rope and some lingerie, surprise him. Tell him what to do. Be the hot, take-charge type before switching back to a 'Lee. If you're in lingerie or whatever he finds hot, he'll do pretty much anything you tell him to. 😉

Then you get what you want, he gets what he wants and both of you are happy. If he realizes how much it turns you on, he'll probably do it again.

 

[scorpionldr]

I've met girls who felt so comfortable with it that we'd go into movie theaters and tickle eachother for however long it was before the film started up, chatting, taunting, discussing interests. I mean, you don't have to be a genius to tickle someone new, you just really have to find out if (since the ones I meet aren't dyed in the wool tickling fetishists) they really mind or not. From there on it's proving your not an asshole by exercising some moderation. Most girls like "creativity".

 

[maniactickler]

Get drunk first. its much easier to explain when your hammered.

 

[English]

You could try going to fetish clubs to meet people, that way your fetish is one of the first things you talk about and the girl you are talking to will most likely have something to tell you about too so there is no need to stress about what they will think etc.

 

[scorpionldr]

yea but realistically, where are there fetish clubs?

 

[labattblueeh]

I've still been trying to tell my boyfriend about how I want to be tickled and what not. I know he knows that it turns me on, but not to the point where he knows that I just want to be tied up and taken advantage of. I'm hoping that some people will be able to have some tips for us to be able to integrate it into our relationships

I had a girlfriend in highschool that i wanted to do that to. I still want to do that actually...if only more girls were like you haha. I can't find them anywhere.

 

[leafstk]

It was about two months into my last relationship before I splurged the T word... and it worked out very well 😀 It was at her insistence too, actually... she knew there was something I was holding back... finally I said fuck it, just go for it 🙂 Best to be open and honest... but yes, it does take time to work up the courage.

Just be careful she's not a blabber mouth if you break up

 

[grandizer]

I've found being upfront and honest is always the best policy. Everyone always asks about what turns the other on. Well, there's the perfect opportunity. If she's going to run, I would rather her run earlier than after I've started to feel something for her.

Most people don't act as bad as we percieve them to and if that person really likes you, they will want to do that to turn you on. I don't know if it's easier because I'm a ler or not, but most girls I tell usually don't mind it. Some of them even get turned on by it. Closet lees. Lol

 

[Em Es]

ArizonaTickler

Actions speak louder than words. Just tickle her!

Use judgment, of course. Don't pin her down and tickle her until she's out of breath as you introduce yourself. But when the situation presents itself as you get to know her, tickle the girl and see what happens. Then, build on it from there. If she likes you enough, she will put up with it and even encourage getting tickled in order to please you.

Of all things you could want in a woman, the most important thing is she treats you like gold. So even if she never dreamed of being with a tickle-crazy man, when she realizes it makes you happy, she will let you tickle her because you are gold to her.

 

[-Hari-]

I used this method with success so far:

First I introduced the idea of light bondage, Just mention it may be fun to try some tying up fun, So we did that a few times.

Then at some point during being tied up, I sneak in a few playful tickles while I have my hands free, right up until Im unable to continue as my final wrist is tied. At this point tickling and revenge are situated nicely into SO`s head.

Next, tickling usually happens, the rest seems fairly natural, I was asked at one point "dont you want me to stop?" I casually answered "not really" and hey presto.


tbh tho, nowdays I just eventually tell them cause ive learnt that very few people think its THAT weird, they normally think its cute, not to mention how easy it is to get me going 😛

Once ive been the lee enough times, its usually not awkward to ask them if theyd be happy to try swapping positions, some say no way, some say ok, either way is never awkward (so far)

 

[English]

yea but realistically, where are there fetish clubs?

You can find fetish clubs in most places. Do a search on Google for your area and I'm sure a few will be listed.

 

[scorpionldr]

ha, I just looked, not seeing too many listings for Jersey except for mistress clubs.

 

[English]

ha, I just looked, not seeing too many listings for Jersey except for mistress clubs.

I would be very surprised if there were no fetish clubs at all in New Jersey. I am from England myself and there are loads to choose from and Google is a good place to find them. I would have thought that there would be plenty in the US too. I would suggest typing a few different key words into the search engines that are related to fetishes or bdsm etc etc for New Jersey. If you don't have any luck I am sure there would be people on this site from the New Jersey area who could point you in the right direction. good luck...

 

[sasaxrah]

NYC is not that far from Jersey, even if you're from the southern part.

 

[SlaverTickler]

Just Do It!