Would like your opinion "WHY DON'T YOU CALL ME ANYMORE"

[stloldg]

My wife and I had a discussion about me not calling her while she is out of town. She is currently at a seminar where she is giving a 20 minute presentation to a group of controllers from her company. (Her company has planets all over the world) afterward she is going to go out with 5 or 6 of them for dinner. She wants to be a controller and these are the people that she would have to work with.

She calls me about 8:30 p.m. upset that I did not once make an attempt to contact her to see how her day is going. I told her that I didn’t want to call because I didn’t know her schedule and didn’t want to interrupt her in the middle of her seminar or dinner. I was waiting for 9:00 p.m. to call

She said that she had her phone on vibrate and I should have call or at least text her.

My question is do this make any sense to you? Am I missing the point?

 

[TicklishLurker]

Well, in my family it's the one who's away who's suppose to make the phone call. I think she's being a bit silly seeing how she would've been ticked off if you had called in the middle of something important.

 

[BellaRisa]

It's silly but I totally get it 🙂

In my house, we would say she's "being a girl." Yes that's sexist as heck but there it is . Don't look for logic in affairs of the heart, you'll find precious little. She wanted you to be thinking about her and missing her, that's all. Next time call or text once or twice per day while she's gone, and say something mushy if she likes that kinda thing (hell, even if she doesn't it'll make her smile). You'll be Great Hubby, trust me

Bella

 

[Pokey]

From the for what its worth department, I agree totally with Bella. Call, even if you are wrong, and just say miss you, wish you were here or me there. Love you and talk with you later. Will pay major dividends a little down the road. 🙂

 

[drew70]

Sounds to me like she's playing games with you. She's probably stressing over this trip and needed to vent a little.

 

[stloldg]

For those whom say I should have call; what if I would have called in the middle of her presentation and she didn’t have her phone on vibrate. Remember this seminar have a lot of very important people there. She informed me that the CEO of the company was also there or would show up no one was sure.

So, should have risk her chances of getting promoted to a higher position in the organization just to say I love you?

 

[tulipangel]

HELL NO!!!!!!!!! Im a woman and if my man is at a meeting, he calls ME! No if, ands or BUTS!!!!!!!!!!! That's bull! She is playing "the game" with you! It's a stupid game where no matter what you do you cant win hun! If you call, she will tell you it was bad timing.... Even if she had it on Vibe, it might have scared her while she is speaking and could screw her up! Look, she is being a pest! If you are going to PLAY this stupid High School game with her, call her at like 7 am (where she is). Most meetings don't start till 8 am-9 am so she will be just getting up! Let her know then to call YOU when she gets a chance and that you wont call cause you don't want to chance it that she is in the middle of something!
Wow, are women really this needy? I know im some what needy, but this is really absurd!

 

[BellaRisa]

For those whom say I should have call; what if I would have called in the middle of her presentation and she didn’t have her phone on vibrate. Remember this seminar have a lot of very important people there. She informed me that the CEO of the company was also there or would show up no one was sure.

So, should have risk her chances of getting promoted to a higher position in the organization just to say I love you?

Oh dude, you definitely should NOT have called, you did nothing wrong; we're talking about next time based on what she told you later. As for whether she's 'playing games' or being needy, I guess my question is "do ya wanna be right or do ya wanna be happy?" Indulging a slightly petulant spouse on occasion is part of every solid relationship, unless you're both so depressingly mature and grown up that you're no fun at all-and who wants to live like that?

Bella

 

[Deadsea7777]

My wife and I had a discussion about me not calling her while she is out of town. She is currently at a seminar where she is giving a 20 minute presentation to a group of controllers from her company. (Her company has planets all over the world) afterward she is going to go out with 5 or 6 of them for dinner. She wants to be a controller and these are the people that she would have to work with.

She calls me about 8:30 p.m. upset that I did not once make an attempt to contact her to see how her day is going. I told her that I didn’t want to call because I didn’t know her schedule and didn’t want to interrupt her in the middle of her seminar or dinner. I was waiting for 9:00 p.m. to call

She said that she had her phone on vibrate and I should have call or at least text her.

My question is do this make any sense to you? Am I missing the point?

Yes you are, taking from granted that your wife is not a control freak. Bella is 100% right listen to her, she a woman and you know only a diamond can cut another diamond.
Just text would be my advice. Short but direct to her hearth, make her feel that your are always there, so sweet and reliable like chocolat but fat free.

 

[TicklishLurker]

Personally, while I'm just dying to tell her she's being childish and unreasonable and is being a total embarassment to her fellow females, I suggest one better then a boring old text message. Find out if there's a florist near her hotel (or even in it) and arrange to have a small bunch of her favorite flowers delievered to her room with a note saying "Hi honey, hope it went well. Love you & miss you." It would probably smooth things over though you did absolutely nothing wrong.

 

[german]

I dont know maybe she just wanted to talk to you and to see if your thinking of her or something, but we all know they love playing these little mind games.

Kust

 

[Knox The Hatter]

You have the nerve to interrupt me watching an NBA playoff to ask me a question like that? Are you out of your fucking mind???

-KNOX' DAD
May 1973

 

[Italian_Touch]

Brrrr!!!! Reminds me of troubles of old times... (never being married though... just gfs...)
Well, definetly a game. No win-win situation.
Maybe she was stressed up and needed a punch ball.
Or felt unappreciated in a glorious moment...

Txting or "flowering" etc. might help in keeping the profile low. Personally I don't like games that make one of the two feeling bad when he/she did not do anything wrong. I tend to cut possible short-circuits that might help to establish that kind of routine. But I admit that it's an "aggressive therapy", so it should be reserved for selected situations. Of course if you feel like, do something that is out of the schemes. Sometimes women like the man doing something completely unexpected (just be sure not doing something *stupid*). By the way, I would say that if it does not come out spontaneous but you need to plan it well in advance it would be a sort of "emotional cheating", if you know what I mean...

I think you did no wrong and that there is no reason to make it a big argument.
If you are missing a point, we are in two.

All the best 🙂

 

[lk70]

Yup, it seems she's being a tad "female" on this one. Sometimes we're just nuts, that's all. I guess I'd recommend the text message...can say "are you busy?" and if she's not, then you call.

 

[Italian_Touch]

Yup, it seems she's being a tad "female" on this one. Sometimes we're just nuts, that's all. I guess I'd recommend the text message...can say "are you busy?" and if she's not, then you call.

reasonable compromise 🙂

 

[stloldg]

Personally, while I'm just dying to tell her she's being childish and unreasonable and is being a total embarassment to her fellow females, I suggest one better then a boring old text message. Find out if there's a florist near her hotel (or even in it) and arrange to have a small bunch of her favorite flowers delievered to her room with a note saying "Hi honey, hope it went well. Love you & miss you." It would probably smooth things over though you did absolutely nothing wrong.

I use to send her flowers every week for no reason until oprah came and did a show saying if your man give you flowers for no reason he did something wrong. So the next time i gave her flowers i got the 5 degree for about 2 weeks. Since than i stop sending or giving her flowers.

But, i did pimp her car last weekend, i spend over $2000.00 to get her car the way she wanted.

 

[stloldg]

You have the nerve to interrupt me watching an NBA playoff to ask me a question like that? Are you out of your fucking mind???

-KNOX' DAD
May 1973

DUHHH, YEAH I'M MARRIAGED

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Actually, that's what my father said to my mother when she said the same thing to him. "I was at my mother's today, and you didn't even call to see how I was?"

My wife can't ask this question of me, by the way. I have too much ammo.

 

[Deadsea7777]

I use to send her flowers every week for no reason until oprah came and did a show saying if your man give you flowers for no reason he did something wrong. So the next time i gave her flowers i got the 5 degree for about 2 weeks. Since than i stop sending or giving her flowers.

But, i did pimp her car last weekend, i spend over $2000.00 to get her car the way she wanted.

MMM, if you send flowers for no reason, and because Ophie said something she got cold.....man she got the brain of an insect, or she is do spoiled by your devotion she no longer values it. You know, if you own a chocolat store you do not think chocolat is so great anymore.