Would you date someone with a disability?

[Adam]

In a word, yes. Many of you on this very forum know of my past, having dated a young woman with a mental illness. It wasn't always easy, but if given the chance, I'd do it all over again.

 

[Chuck D]

If the person you wanted to date wasnt ticklish a disability? sorry i come from a strange planet

 

[He-Man]

hmm hubby has web feet..is that a physical disability?

Nah, but it'd probably make him a cool new team member for the X-Men! lol (uh, just so ya know that wasn't meant to be mean..hell I wish I had webbed feet. 🙂 )

 

[cloudgazer2k]

in a heartbeat. i remember having a crush on a petite brunette that was deaf in my high school. i didn't know sign language, but would have been more than happy to write. dated a blind girl when i was 16, and even had a thing for a girl that was missing part of her right arm. those things never bothered me..way i see it, people who are missing an arm, a leg, or a particular ability we take for granted...i think it makes their spirit more whole...if that makes sense.

 

[isabeau]

Nah, but it'd probably make him a cool new team member for the X-Men! lol (uh, just so ya know that wasn't meant to be mean..hell I wish I had webbed feet. 🙂 )

i know what you meant love..they aren't all webbed...the second two toes on both feet are webbed...weird..he should have had that taken care of at birth..i also found out that would have kept him out of the military..is that true?

and maniac you are soo not funny ..lol yea he can swim..

 

[Adam]

in a heartbeat. i remember having a crush on a petite brunette that was deaf in my high school. i didn't know sign language, but would have been more than happy to write. dated a blind girl when i was 16, and even had a thing for a girl that was missing part of her right arm. those things never bothered me..way i see it, people who are missing an arm, a leg, or a particular ability we take for granted...i think it makes their spirit more whole...if that makes sense.

It does to me, friend. Precisely the way I felt about my ex. Allow me to say that you're a very kind human being to see things the way you do.

 

[He-Man]

and maniac you are soo not funny ..lol yea he can swim..

I think he was askin if the webbin made him a better swimmer--I was thinkin about askin that too. lol Hey, those things shaped like webbed feet that you wear helps, so why wouldn't REAL webbed feet? lol ;-)

When he learns to hold his breath for a long time underwater, you can start callin him Aquaman. lmao (...okay, shutting up now.. lol)

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I think that if you REALLY love someone that you will want to be with them whether they have a disability or not. I mean I have Asperger Syndrome that is a social skills disability so I guess it's mental because it's the way my brain is wired. Just want to say that if I saw a person with a disability being bullied, I would try to defend that person. I wouldn't like to see a person with a disability being bullied or teased.


Thanks for everyone's opinions so far.

 

[GuldenVleugel]

Well, I have once. But I dated her before knowing about it. I don't regret it, they are people too, how chaotic their lifes can be. I'd do it again and see how far we'll get anyway.

Yes, she was a serious case... 🙂

If the person you wanted to date wasnt ticklish a disability? sorry i come from a strange planet

Ironically this seemly tiny matter would be a big problem for me. Also, I always have assumed people with odd sexual quirks to be more likely to have a mental disorder. I myself I'm not mentally ill though. I've just once read that people who suffer from depression often enjoy pain and torture (and tickling?) more. It makes sense, as when you torture someone in an erotic way, it works great on their neurotransmitters.

P.S.: Asperger's syndrome wouldn't be that much of a problem for me at all! I have great collagues who are and they're not that socially disabled as one might assume, especially when you share interests with them. I imagine it being cute on a woman too, it's always men who seem have it.

 

[Lionhart]

All depends on the person

I'd choose a happy, high spirited girl in a wheelchair over a arrogant and ignorant model anyday. To the same token i've seen some really ignorant "invalids" as well. People like that are just not worth the energy.

 

[911]

Depends on what it was. If she couldn't walk, or was blind, or something like that fine. But if she had no arms or legs that would be a problem. If not being ticklish is a disabilty then that's also a problem. As for mental she has to be sane or at least mostly sane and can write her own name.

 

[Helena]

Would I go on a date with someone who has a disability? Hmmmmmm.

I've given this a lot of thought, and passed this thread for a few days.
I find this question hard to answer, because it's an imaginary situation. It's impossible for me to say, hypothetically, who I would or would not date.
If I want to go on a date, I will. If I don't want to go, then I won't.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Would I go on a date with someone who has a disability? Hmmmmmm.

I've given this a lot of thought, and passed this thread for a few days.
I find this question hard to answer, because it's an imaginary situation. It's impossible for me to say, hypothetically, who I would or would not date.
If I want to go on a date, I will. If I don't want to go, then I won't.

What do you mean imaginary? LOL I just mean that if you happen to meet someone with a disability who had great qualities, would it matter if they had a physical/mental disability? That's all I am asking sweetie .

 

[tickmankyle1]

hello

my last Gf 2 plus years ago was bi polar and she would get volient and crazy and have big mood swings. so i would want to know all i can about them before i dated them. if they had trouble walking or something like that it is ok but bad mental problems are a real issue. kyle

 

[whyguy2]

to answer your the question on whether or not i'd date a person who has a disability.

My answer is yes. i say that because if you truly love someone, it really shouldn't matter. i would date someone with a physical disability. a mental disability i would be cautious because you never know if that person is prone to violent reactions because of their mental illness. but yes i would date some with a disability

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Well, I have once. But I dated her before knowing about it. I don't regret it, they are people too, how chaotic their lifes can be. I'd do it again and see how far we'll get anyway.

Yes, she was a serious case... 🙂



Ironically this seemly tiny matter would be a big problem for me. Also, I always have assumed people with odd sexual quirks to be more likely to have a mental disorder. I myself I'm not mentally ill though. I've just once read that people who suffer from depression often enjoy pain and torture (and tickling?) more. It makes sense, as when you torture someone in an erotic way, it works great on their neurotransmitters.

P.S.: Asperger's syndrome wouldn't be that much of a problem for me at all! I have great collagues who are and they're not that socially disabled as one might assume, especially when you share interests with them. I imagine it being cute on a woman too, it's always men who seem have it.

I am glad that dating someone with Asperger's Syndrome wouldn't be a problem for you. I know that most people who have A.S are guys but women do have it, it's just a small percentage. Just in case people don't know, there are actually a lot of good qualities that A.S people have like having a good long term memory for example.

 

[Mz Chaos]

Figuratively speaking, I would never consider dating a man who had no backbone or a good set of cojones. A man who is a wimp and/or a wuss is of no use to me. But I'm sure we are talking literally.

So.....

Physical Disability - Can't imagine a physical disability that would be severe enough to scare me off as long as we hit it off personality-wise.

Mental Illness - There's no way I could find someone more messed up than myself in this area, and considering I understand most mental illnesses, I can't see this being a problem. 99% of my friends back home have a mental illness and we all get along just fine.

Mental Disability - I'm afraid this is where I draw the line. I wouldn't mind having these folks in my circle of friends, but I doubt I would date such a person.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Disabilities come in so many varieties that, from my point of view, it's impossible to give a meaningful categorical answer. I believe in assessing everybody we meet individually, case by case. I also believe in being realistic about one basic question: does a relationship with this person meet my needs?

 

[Wildtime]

I really don't care if a person has a disability...if you really think about it, we all have disabilities of some form or another. One of the most beautiful people I've ever known had a pretty serious neurological disease. It's all about how compatible your personality is compared to your potential mate. For example, Paris Hilton and Britney Spears are rather repulsive to me , based upon their personalities (or lack thereof, in the case of Paris), even though some may consider them 'pretty'.