Would you marry someone who wasn't ticklish at all/ who hated tickling?

[Uktickler]

But I have to ask, given how important tickling is to you, would you be able to be with someone whom you could not share your love of tickling?

No, If they didnt want me for me I wouldnt want them. There are of course lots of things to consider, but this is one of the must haves. (ticklish)

So at what point do you just say "I like to tickle you!"?

I think its important to be open, but I also think its not somthing you cant just bring up on a first date. So it depends on the woman, and how much trust you have. I think my wife knew within 3 months (maybe less) of dating me that I was into tickling. And although she isnt herself 'into tickling' she is ticklish and she does let me have my way

As time has gone on it appears she is starting to like certain parts of my fetish, and Ive discovered new things that turn me on (which didnt before) but which she loves.

But she has even bought me restraints (to use on her, Im strictly a ler 😎 ), oh God how I love my wife!!!

 

[TicklishLayla]

I don't think I could marry someone, period. I'm just that kind of person. As for being with someone into tickling, I've found that my relationships with a person who enjoyed tickling me lasted alot longer than with someone who never tickled me at all. For awhile, I didn't think I could date someone if they were playful enough to initiate a tickle fight or something. I've dated guys who were "too serious" for that sort of playful activity.

My current relationship is going very well. The first night we met, we were at a party, and he came up behind me and tickled me on the sides. We'd never talked before, but I'd known him through a friend. The first thing he ever said to me was "oh, you're a ticklish one. I love it." And we've been together ever since.

 

[crydun]

I have to agree with Isabeau. Your current partner's lack of desire for tickling is no reason to end the relationship. I also agree that you're not going to marry someone because of their interest in tickling. That ain't gonna work!

I was in love once and all the physical stuff was great. I found out she had a borderline tickle fetish after I fell in love with her. So the feelings weren't based on her slight fondness for tickling. As fate would have it, a lot of other issues ended the relationship.

Perhaps if I fell in love again and found out the person had a "no tickling" rule, it wouldn't matter. It's possible. I absolutely don't think that a lady has to be a ticklephile before I'd be willing to marry her. But I'm very tired of being in relationships in which I'm not happy overall and just feeling like I settled. So I would like someone to at least let me indulge my desire for tickling to some degree.

She doesn't have to be a full-blown, card-carrying ticklephile, although that would be nice too.

I totally agree, BBE. Actually, any man I married would have to get into tickling a lot!!! LOL I don't know about a card-carrying ticklephile. that would certainly help. I guess if they were at least open about it and willing to try for my sake, it would be okay.

 

[maniactickler]

i have to put my two cents in again.. if you are only marrying someone because they are ticklish and love to be tickled, that marriage ain't gonna last long. i do hope one marries for more reasons than just that. maybe that's my attitude because i have been married for almost 28 years, and although i have complained in the past about his lack of tickling desires, i see no reason to end the marriage for that reason. sure, i would love to be tied and tickled every other day, but as i said before it's not the end-all in my life.

Your halfway right. you cant marry someone just for tickling only. there must be a physical connection and a personality connection. basically, you shouldnt marry anyone unless they have the total package.

 

[BellaRisa]

These are fascinating questions .

I could never ever marry or have a long term relationship with someone uninterested in tickling me. Tickling, in it's various forms, is a major aspect of my sense of well-being; it soothes me, comforts me, either relaxes or invigorates me depending on the circumstances, and turns me on more than any other type of touch. I don't see myself ever having 'those' feelings, the ones that tell you He's The One, for someone with no interest in making me truly happy. Neither of my S.O.'s has the kink, but both adapted *very* well I must say .

As for being open, I told my hubby what tickling did for me sexually within a month of our getting together. It was the first time I ever told anyone. I was embarrassed and very freaked out (I was only 19) , but instinct told me that he'd run with it-and he did 😉 My OSO found out on our first date, and introduced me to the insanity of tickling mixed with spanking, god help me...

I think there's something extra sweet about a partner who doesn't share the kink but still indulges you, because you know they care enough about you to remember to do something that isn't instinctual for them-it's just for you

Bella

 

[crydun]

These are fascinating questions .

I could never ever marry or have a long term relationship with someone uninterested in tickling me. Tickling, in it's various forms, is a major aspect of my sense of well-being; it soothes me, comforts me, either relaxes or invigorates me depending on the circumstances, and turns me on more than any other type of touch. I don't see myself ever having 'those' feelings, the ones that tell you He's The One, for someone with no interest in making me truly happy.


I think there's something extra sweet about a partner who doesn't share the kink but still indulges you, because you know they care enough about you to remember to do something that isn't instinctual for them-it's just for you

Bella

I agree! That is special. Do you get to tickle your SO's as well. Or don't they adapt that far?

 

[BellaRisa]

I agree! That is special. Do you get to tickle your SO's as well. Or don't they adapt that far?

Ha! Only when I think I can run that fast; they're both so Dominant it makes a sound and that's just asking for trouble. But they're both also deliciously ticklish; I ask for trouble a lot and get caught every damn time

Bella

 

[method11236]

Muy Interesante

I'm glad to see such a mix of opinions on the issue, and it makes me wonder if our responses indicate the strength of the tickle fetish in each one of us.

I remember having a girlfriend when I was a youngin (say, sophomore year of high school) and the first thing she said on our first date to some romantic comedy flic was "Did I mention I was ticklish?". I always regret not saying "Did I mention I FREAKIN LOVE TICKLING PEOPLE!" but instead i just poked her a bit until the movie started. In the form of a montage complete with 80's pop, I think I now realize that this chick had a thing for tickling. She would always try to tickle me and once asked me to tickle her feet for her. I was so unsure of myself (being 16 with a raging tickle fetish) that I could hardly capitalize on her ticklishness (and ticklish she was). She's long gone now and I'll always regret missing out on a once in a lifetime opportunity. I guess the moral of this story is, don't balk on tickle opportunities, also known as tickletunities, out of fear.

So this little story is a segway into my next question:

Would you date a chick/dude who was extremely ticklish and liked being tickled even if you completely did not get along as a couple?

Cheers,

Meth

 

[lk70]

Would you date a chick/dude who was extremely ticklish and liked being tickled even if you completely did not get along as a couple?

Cheers,

Meth

Sure, I'd date him, for awhile. But no matter how compatible two people might be sexually (and this is where tickling falls for me when dating), there are some things that just can't be overcome. And if I don't like someone, I can't play with them.

And I'd like to yammer more about having a partner who's into, or at least willing to indulge, the fetish. It's my personal belief that being able to play with, have fun with, and have rockin' great sex with your partner can get you through a lot of hard times. Playing with my partner is hugely important to me, whether it's a tickle fight, snowball fight, or running remote control cars around a track. Plus (and I blush as I type this) it never hurts when your partner knows a guaranteed way to light your fire

 

[tcklft]

Would I marry someone who wasn't ticklish at all/ who hated tickling? Heck no! I wouldn't date such a person, either. Why waste time on someone who took no pleasure in one of the most pleasureable activities I can imagine? Life's too damn short....

 

[Mona Liza]

It is not matter. My boyfriend just can't stand being tickled but I respect it and don't do that. I love him anyway, and he is much more important for me.

I believe that you can't imagine it now, but if you will meet someone who you truely love it won't mean anything.

 

[Cy/MiG]

Another fine question

Would I date/continue/pursue a relationship with someone just because they were ticklish and liked being tickled?

Short answer yes with an if
Long answer No with a but

(at least I think that's how that saying goes...)

I actually knew this chick in HS who was VERY ticklish on her UB and would coax me into a few 'love taps', but the fact of the matter was that I couldn't stand her.

She wanted me, I didn't feel the same (understatement). So yes, I would tickle her briefly from time to time, but it was nothing more than curiousity and my uncontrollable fetish.

 

[crydun]

I'm glad to see such a mix of opinions on the issue, and it makes me wonder if our responses indicate the strength of the tickle fetish in each one of us.

I remember having a girlfriend when I was a youngin (say, sophomore year of high school) and the first thing she said on our first date to some romantic comedy flic was "Did I mention I was ticklish?". I always regret not saying "Did I mention I FREAKIN LOVE TICKLING PEOPLE!" but instead i just poked her a bit until the movie started. In the form of a montage complete with 80's pop, I think I now realize that this chick had a thing for tickling. She would always try to tickle me and once asked me to tickle her feet for her. I was so unsure of myself (being 16 with a raging tickle fetish) that I could hardly capitalize on her ticklishness (and ticklish she was). She's long gone now and I'll always regret missing out on a once in a lifetime opportunity. I guess the moral of this story is, don't balk on tickle opportunities, also known as tickletunities, out of fear.

So this little story is a segway into my next question:

Would you date a chick/dude who was extremely ticklish and liked being tickled even if you completely did not get along as a couple?

Cheers,

Meth

Your little story about fear comes at a very good time meth and might just help me.

in answer to your question, yes I would, depending on what the incompatibilities were. If nothing else, he could become a "ticklebuddy" and nothing more. If the best happens, he could be my partner. So, unless he's evil or I can't stand to look at him, yes.

 

[maniactickler]

My belief is, if you marry someone thats not into tickling, then your not truly a ticklephile. plain and simple!

 

[TickledToDeath]

It is not matter. My boyfriend just can't stand being tickled but I respect it and don't do that. I love him anyway, and he is much more important for me.

I believe that you can't imagine it now, but if you will meet someone who you truely love it won't mean anything.

You say that now but from what I have heard and seen, it will eventually come around to haunt you.

 

[reflexology414]

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This may sound shallow, but I know it would never work for me. Just being honest.

 

[BellaRisa]

My belief is, if you marry someone thats not into tickling, then your not truly a ticklephile. plain and simple!

What if you marry someone who's not one of us but throws him or herself into it 100% for *you*, because they love making you happy?

I ask because I'm in that situation; I married a non-tkphile who could take or leave tickling in general, but found out how much it means to me and never looked back. He's just as good if not better than the die hard 'lers I know and it's purely about pleasing me .

Bella

 

[bowler]

I find this subject interesting, in that I am recently divorced to someone who really did not liked to be tickled, so much so that she could shut it out if I tried to tickle her. As much as I wanted and needed tickling in my life, I did not do anymore than the occassional poke or sneak. I had to much respect for my marriage to jeopardize it to satisfy my tickling needs. Our divorce had little to do with my feelings, but in looking for a new partner, I would definietley prefer a woman who would at least tolerate tickling, if not out and out enjoy it (my true wish!). So I look, even though my search has been fruitless so far....(seems not to be too many willing ticklees in RI).....

 

[Mistress Feral]

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[Italian_Touch]

Great thread.
My attitude has been changing through the years.
I do not seem to look at me in a relationship in which tickling is an important part of the intimacy.
Dragging a significant one into tickling to at least a decent level has never been a problem though. So I can say I've been lucky so far.
Now, I know a girl with whom something might happen in the future but she is barely ticklish (and does not like it), with completely ticklishless feet. She knows about my fetish but, as friends, never happened that she appeared comfortable with it. I realize that this IS indeed influencing my still potential availability in the case we might get closer: I mean, it's something I am thinking about.
Of course, there are way more important factors, exspecially when you speak about marriage, but even if tickling is not enough to get into a relationship in absence of other reasons (well, I am open to tickle-friendships), the lack of ticklishness or interest in tickling would probably be a heavy baggage to carry (of course, you can do everything for love...)

 

[gargoyleofdusk]

If she is very ticklish, or loves to be tickled - is just icing on the cake.
I'd trade it all in for hugs, and nuzzles...affection does count a lot for me.

 

[isabeau]

If she is very ticklish, or loves to be tickled - is just icing on the cake.
I'd trade it all in for hugs, and nuzzles...affection does count a lot for me.

ahh that's nice.. and you call yourself sullen.. i think not

 

[LoveSoles81]

Hell no!!!!

 

[maniactickler]

What if you marry someone who's not one of us but throws him or herself into it 100% for *you*, because they love making you happy?

I ask because I'm in that situation; I married a non-tkphile who could take or leave tickling in general, but found out how much it means to me and never looked back. He's just as good if not better than the die hard 'lers I know and it's purely about pleasing me .

Bella

Doesnt matter if the woman is drop dead gorgeous, fantastic personality, worships me 100% like i was her god and has the sexiest feet on the planet. if shes not extremely ticklish, then shes dead to me.

 

[Angel_2]

Can I ask everyone a simple question? would you really not marry someone who was not into tickling at all if it could very well be true love? I relize that tickling is very important to each and everyone of us in our own way but lets say you are in a relationship that you really love and then you find out your bf/gf hates tickling, could you really throw away a relationship just b/c they don't like tickling at all? I don't think I could. A relationship should be more then just tickling but to each his/her own.