Would you marry someone who wasn't ticklish at all/ who hated tickling?

[maniactickler]

Can I ask everyone a simple question? would you really not marry someone who was not into tickling at all if it could very well be true love? I relize that tickling is very important to each and everyone of us in our own way but lets say you are in a relationship that you really love and then you find out your bf/gf hates tickling, could you really throw away a relationship just b/c they don't like tickling at all? I don't think I could. A relationship should be more then just tickling but to each his/her own.

No. tickling is my true love. without it nothing else exists.

 

[method11236]

Fascinating!

I really love reading everyone's responses because it kind of clues me in to the extent of the importance of tickling in people's lives. Some people find tickling to be central to their existence and other's seem to think its just a nice extra to a good relationship.

I think that being young and in a situation where tickling is ubiquitous in my life, I'd be fine dating a person who wasn't ticklish because I have so many other opportunities to tickle and be tickled. Marriage is another story because I wouldn't feel comfortable "tickle cheating" like I might now. You know what I mean... hang out with a girl you're not interested in at all just because you're planning on getting some tickles out of the situation. Man, last night I took this chick to see X-Men III and we got home and wound up making out and ish, and I realized I didn't even want to, I just wanted some tickling action (which I got, a thankyou).

Does this ever happen to anyone else?


Oh and, for those following my Ticklish Teacher story in un otro thread, TOMORROW IS T-DAY! eee!

 

[Goodieluver]

Maybe this is just stupidity and ignorance on my part since the relationships ive had were short lived and nothing but lies but isnt a marriage supposed to be more than just the issue of physicalness? I mean, people saying they wouldnt marry someone who isnt ticklish, isnt that like saying u wouldnt marry someone who hated sex or was incapable of having sex? Seems very selfish and ignorant in my mind

 

[maniactickler]

Maybe this is just stupidity and ignorance on my part since the relationships ive had were short lived and nothing but lies but isnt a marriage supposed to be more than just the issue of physicalness? I mean, people saying they wouldnt marry someone who isnt ticklish, isnt that like saying u wouldnt marry someone who hated sex or was incapable of having sex? Seems very selfish and ignorant in my mind

I personally wasnt saying that just because the woman met my tickling criteria that id be happy with her. id still have to be pyhsically attracted to her looks and personality. im not looking for just one thing in a woman. im looking for the total package!

 

[Goodieluver]

I personally wasnt saying that just because the woman met my tickling criteria that id be happy with her. id still have to be pyhsically attracted to her looks and personality. im not looking for just one thing in a woman. im looking for the total package!

Oh i understand, but the basic question is would u marry someone who wasnt ticklish or hated tickling. I mean it would suck if she didnt like ticklin or wasnt ticklish but doesnt mean i wouldnt marry her if i loved her and she completed me

 

[naughty1]

If the love between us were strong enough, I coud marry a woman who did not share my passion for tickling, but having made the journey here and having seen the possibilities, I hope I will not be faced with that decision. Cuddling is one of my favorite things, but cuddling and tickling...ah yes, a sense of total joy, total completeness, totally playful and loving in nature. This could be a very good thing, indeed...

 

[Bagelfather]

Love and Marriage, and laughter

Tickling is not the end all of things that I want in someone but it is a part of something I like. I think this goes for a lot of things that you want physically from a partner. In a more "vanilla" way you could ask the question "would you marry someone who wouldn't perform oral sex on you or vice versa?"

If I was in an open relationship and could get it elsewhere I don't think that would be good enough for me. Of course there is a lot more that I would like in a partner to explore and be involved with (sexually and non sexually) other than tickling. I have significantly expanded my exploration into BDSM in general but my favorite is still tickling. I don't see it any differently than if you could live without any intimate play of a particular type with your partner.

I am not putting down on people who are involved with non-tickle people. Many of them really did not know about themselves or have any idea they were not alone or simply loved them so much this was not as important to them in the grand scheme of things.

I have dated and been in relationships with ticklish women and yet I am currently single. Why? Because there is more to a relationship than tickling and if the other factors are not working out tickling cannot save it.

If the person I was with hated it or was not ticklish I don't think it would work out for me. This is also true for someone who is WAY more into it than I am. I think if someone was too obsessed with tickling it could also become an issue just as much as not liking it at all.

I have not found the person I am looking for yet, but I have found a lot of cool people 🙂 Just need to find one closer to me who is the right match.

 

[Cy/MiG]

Tickling is not the end all of things that I want in someone but it is a part of something I like. I think this goes for a lot of things that you want physically from a partner. In a more "vanilla" way you could ask the question "would you marry someone who wouldn't perform oral sex on you or vice versa?"

I couldn't have put it any better. I would have mentioned this before, but didn't want to stray from the main issue. But I agree with this statement, and that is why if I was with someone who couldn't stand tickling I would just 'walk a mile in their shoes'. Sympathy and Empathy play major roles in relationships, and compromise is paramount.

I am almost positive that there are one (or more things) that she was into that would not interest/arouse me, but I would attempt them if I were truly interested/in love with the woman. Hopefully, we could work together to understand each other's interests and stay together in the end; if not, it's too bad.

The main thing to consider is just how turned off the person of interest is by tickling and just how important it is too you. If you're into bondage, stocks, gags, toys, etc. it's probably not the best idea to try and go all out on someone who doesn't share the fetish. If they're willing to try, start small.

The way I see it, if the woman I'm interested in doesn't like tickling, that doesn't mean I have to STOP, it just means I can't tickle the sh*t out of her (or try to). A shame, really, but worth it if I really love her.

I hope I haven't rambled too much, as I tend to do or come across as 'preaching', as I'm only a young single and immature tickler and have much to learn from the matured ticklers on this site.

cheers

 

[Phineas]

I did. I won't do it again.

As a very insightful lady told me over lunch on Friday, and as has been mentioned before on this thread (I think, anyway)... is your lover willing to accomodate you?

And in my case, the answer was no.

As a result, for me, the next question was, could I pretty much live without indulging my fetish?

Again, the answer was no. Videos, pictures, and so forth... uh uh. I'm a doer, not a watcher. But my wife wouldn't let me be a doer with her, and she didn't want me to be a doer with anyone else, either. Or rather, she *would*, but she wouldn't have been happy about it, which would have killed any fun I'd have gotten out of doing it.

Turns out, to me, that it was something I just can't live without. And if I get involved with someone again, she *will* be one of us. I just can't have it any other way - and I wish I'd known that years ago.

 

[MrPartickler]

Most people don't know how important something is to them until they're forced to live without it for a long period of time--often too long.

Tickling doesn't have to be the most important thing in order to be unable/unwilling to go without it indefinitely. Perhaps a good analogy is the fact that a telephone number may consist of 10 numbers--no one more important than the other. However only one needs to be wrong to fail to connect. IMO, this question is basically asking many people if they're willing to try to make a connection with only 9 correct numbers.

Relationships that you want to last a lifetime (e.g., marriage) are similar to me. Every individual has specific wants and needs so there are a LOT of things that are required to make them work well. Still, it only takes one to sour them.

 

[Em Es]

To answer Meth's second question

Meth asked, "Would you date a chick . . . who was extremely ticklish and liked being tickled even if you completely did not get along as a couple?"

Yes, I would date her, assuming she were willing to overlook that we lacked any connection outside of tickling.

And, Meth, thanks for sharing the story of tickle freak high school sophomore who got away. One of these days I will post regarding a gal named Margie, a tickle enthusiast who gave me her phone number but never heard from me. Like you, I let a diamond slip through my hands.

 

[BLUE_THUNDER]

no way

no way in hell, im not getting any younger and my next significant other would have to be at least somewhat open to it, both as a 'lee and a 'ler. ive only ever dated one person who was not at all ticklish, anywhere, which was a major bummer because she had perfect size 10 feet. but she wasnt very ncie and it didnt last long anyhow. but the next ms. BLUE_THUNDER will need to be into what im into. i dont care if the girl looks like a supermodel, if she isnt ticklish im not interested. id rather have the girl next door type that IS ticklish. just my 2 cents. peace..........BLUE_THUNDER


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[boccob]

That's hard for me, but i think i will really not marry a girl who is not ticklish at all or who don't like when i tickle her..

I wish it was not so..