You all were right; he cheated!

[Lea28]

Hi,

Well, over a month ago you all warned me about the new guy I met while I was seeing another guy, and how I would likely and probably / appropriately get hurt by the new guy... Mr. Perfect... and yes, I am.

New Years eve was stressful. Mr. Perfect was pursued by a freckled red head all night at a party we both attended... I was cool, mature and wrote her off as drunk. I am short (5' 3) and actually shy. She is tall, 31 (his age), freckled, and incredibly aggressive... she targeted by bf and flirted with him all night. OK, so I know he has a thing for red hair and freckles, and she has longer and better legs than I do, and he totally encouraged her all night... her black dress fit her like latex and I now know from others that she is a cat in bed. Before anyone asks, she was wearing black fishnets with no shoes and Mr Perfect has a "foot tickling thing."

Was it the kiss that I saw them exchange in the guest bedroom, or the way he stared at her ass and legs all night that convinced me I was about to get shattered... either way I was right. After NY Eve, he did not answer his phone for 2 days... and before you ask, we had awesome and angry sex after the party... the last time. He tickled me from my neck to my toes in every position imaginable as we made love. I suspect our last time...

So now I know he spent the missing 48 hours with her off and on, and that she is Domme (she has slept around alot). All this time I thought her liked me sub or LEE, as I am naturally, but I guess I bored him. He actually told me yesterday that I "need to be more aggressive." So was I suppossed to tie him up and Domme him? He never indicated that? I thought we were really perfect together in all ways, including intellectually. Nope.

Soooo... I guess I need a 2008 personal ad. Not really. But the more I am told about her, the more hurt I am. Being younger was not an advantage... jerk face wanted experience and assertiveness that I apparently failed to deliver.

Nice way to start the year... yes, many of you told me so.

Lea

 

[Fire_Sprite]

No need to fret, you're still young. It's good that you didn't waste more than three months with someone you weren't really compatible with.

 

[Bugman]

I'm truely sorry you had to be hurt this way Lea,but you seem to have learned something from the whole thing and i wish you better luck next time.😀

 

[drew70]

It really sucks you got abused like that. I won't pretend to be able to imagine how much that hurt. I just hope you find a guy with whom you can build a solid relationship.

 

[Lea28]

Thanks guys...

I appreciate the nice words, and I kinda need them now.

Lea

 

[RUNOFFSTAGE]

Even if people warned you that it could happen, you shouldn't blame yourself the slightest bit.
He was the one making a HUGE mistake by letting you go that way, he will realize it soon enough.
You just keep on going and enjoy your life, I wish you the best

 

[maniactickler]

This is why you need a nice guy like me.

 

[daryl]

Yeah, many have learned the hard way that someone who will cheat with you will later cheat ON you.

I'm sorry you had to get hurt like that, and I hope no one is hitting you with "I told you so" stuff.

It's a cliche, but you'll find the right person in time. Anyone who would do what he did isn't the one. Just remember that if he comes cruising back when this new lady does it ON HIM.

 

[kered]

Yeah, many have learned the hard way that someone who will cheat with you will later cheat ON you.

I'm sorry you had to get hurt like that, and I hope no one is hitting you with "I told you so" stuff.

It's a cliche, but you'll find the right person in time. Anyone who would do what he did isn't the one. Just remember that if he comes cruising back when this new lady does it ON HIM.

What Daryl has written is pretty much true. Sorry it happened to you but live and learn. Some of life's lessons are not very pleasant.

 

[TicklishHope]

Hi,

Well, over a month ago you all warned me about the new guy I met while I was seeing another guy, and how I would likely and probably / appropriately get hurt by the new guy... Mr. Perfect... and yes, I am.

New Years eve was stressful. Mr. Perfect was pursued by a freckled red head all night at a party we both attended... I was cool, mature and wrote her off as drunk. I am short (5' 3) and actually shy. She is tall, 31 (his age), freckled, and incredibly aggressive... she targeted by bf and flirted with him all night. OK, so I know he has a thing for red hair and freckles, and she has longer and better legs than I do, and he totally encouraged her all night... her black dress fit her like latex and I now know from others that she is a cat in bed. Before anyone asks, she was wearing black fishnets with no shoes and Mr Perfect has a "foot tickling thing."

Was it the kiss that I saw them exchange in the guest bedroom, or the way he stared at her ass and legs all night that convinced me I was about to get shattered... either way I was right. After NY Eve, he did not answer his phone for 2 days... and before you ask, we had awesome and angry sex after the party... the last time. He tickled me from my neck to my toes in every position imaginable as we made love. I suspect our last time...

So now I know he spent the missing 48 hours with her off and on, and that she is Domme (she has slept around alot). All this time I thought her liked me sub or LEE, as I am naturally, but I guess I bored him. He actually told me yesterday that I "need to be more aggressive." So was I suppossed to tie him up and Domme him? He never indicated that? I thought we were really perfect together in all ways, including intellectually. Nope.

Soooo... I guess I need a 2008 personal ad. Not really. But the more I am told about her, the more hurt I am. Being younger was not an advantage... jerk face wanted experience and assertiveness that I apparently failed to deliver.

Nice way to start the year... yes, many of you told me so.

Lea

Lea its called Karma.. What goes around, comes around. I truly believe that if you hadn't cheated on your previous bf that things might have worked out between ya'll two.

 

[Banshee]

Ok Where

Where exactly is the part where you have proof he cheated?

 

[darvon96]

This is why you need a nice guy like me.

Maniac - You were the first guy I thought of when I read Lea's profile. I'm still trying to figure out if that's a good thing or if I just spend too much time here ...

Lea - I know it sucks to put so much time & energy in a relationship and have this happen, but there are plenty of Mr. Perfects looking for someone exactly like you. I didn't find my perfect match until I (we) was (were) thirty. I'm sure I speak for all the other available Mr. Perfects out there when I say; please don't stop looking.

 

[Lea28]

He told me...

Where exactly is the part where you have proof he cheated?

He told me... at least he was honest about it

 

[Lea28]

Thanks for word of hope...

Maniac - You were the first guy I thought of when I read Lea's profile. I'm still trying to figure out if that's a good thing or if I just spend too much time here ...

Lea - I know it sucks to put so much time & energy in a relationship and have this happen, but there are plenty of Mr. Perfects looking for someone exactly like you. I didn't find my perfect match until I (we) was (were) thirty. I'm sure I speak for all the other available Mr. Perfects out there when I say; please don't stop looking.

I think I need to just need to take a break, and see what happens. I have never been "guy hungry" so I will not be now, but I am not too happy...

thanks, Lea

 

[Lea28]

You may be right...

Lea its called Karma.. What goes around, comes around. I truly believe that if you hadn't cheated on your previous bf that things might have worked out between ya'll two.

I thought of that immediately, and it may be so... maybe this was totally predictable.

Interesting...

Lea

 

[Lea28]

I agree, and hope...

Yeah, many have learned the hard way that someone who will cheat with you will later cheat ON you.

I'm sorry you had to get hurt like that, and I hope no one is hitting you with "I told you so" stuff.

It's a cliche, but you'll find the right person in time. Anyone who would do what he did isn't the one. Just remember that if he comes cruising back when this new lady does it ON HIM.

...that she enjoys him for a few weeks. He's a "few weeks" guy and you are right I need something more... eventually.

In the mean time, I need a week on a warm beach with a cool guy, a hammock, flip flops, and an ostrich feather. He was fortunate that he met a person that encouraged his "interests" in every way, and he will miss me. I know my strengths and some are being supportive, open minded, explorative and not especially judgemental... I hope his next "chick" is up tight and even more boring than I apparently am. I was too accommodating in every way... another lesson.

Lea



thank you, Lea

 

[FeatherFeet]

without going too much into the multiple mosts i made in the other thread about what would have happend,

cheating NEVER ends well for anyone. the second someone cheats, its basically a downfall from there with both potential relationships, like i said.

im not going to lie or try to make you feel better by saying it wasnt your fault. you were just as guilty as this guy in the mistake you made, and you deserved every bit of what you got.

that being said, the score board is even now. never cheat again, and the slate will be clean, and you might have a chance at something better with someone in the future, that is, if you clean up your decision making process when it comes to chosing guys.

cheating is a symptom, you can cure the symtom, but unless you nick the desease, as in, you figure out whats causing the symptoms, then you're going to remain sick, and more symptoms will come.

the disease is obviously what attracts you to the wrong type of guy. which is something you need to figure out for yourself. the biggest mistake people make when getting off bad relationshps (or a stream of) is they look for something slightly different, thinking it will make it better, but still ultimatly cling to whats familiar, not realizing that whats familiar to them happens to be the downfall.

thats some food for thought.

good luck.

 

[Lea28]

Thank you very much.

without going too much into the multiple mosts i made in the other thread about what would have happend,

cheating NEVER ends well for anyone. the second someone cheats, its basically a downfall from there with both potential relationships, like i said.

im not going to lie or try to make you feel better by saying it wasnt your fault. you were just as guilty as this guy in the mistake you made, and you deserved every bit of what you got.

that being said, the score board is even now. never cheat again, and the slate will be clean, and you might have a chance at something better with someone in the future, that is, if you clean up your decision making process when it comes to chosing guys.

cheating is a symptom, you can cure the symtom, but unless you nick the desease, as in, you figure out whats causing the symptoms, then you're going to remain sick, and more symptoms will come.

the disease is obviously what attracts you to the wrong type of guy. which is something you need to figure out for yourself. the biggest mistake people make when getting off bad relationshps (or a stream of) is they look for something slightly different, thinking it will make it better, but still ultimatly cling to whats familiar, not realizing that whats familiar to them happens to be the downfall.

thats some food for thought.

good luck.

I appreciate your thoughts...Lea

 

[unit5610]

His loss!

 

[total-individua]

Aw! That sucks so bad, when you think you're perfect with someone and that you can spend your life with them, and they they go and stab you in the back.

I know how that feels, it hurts so bad.

I hope you're ok about it.

What a DICK!

 

[giggle-maker]

If you enjoy being tickled you shouldn't have too much trouble finding the right guy. Good luck.

 

[Hosetickler23]

Having been in the same position only reversed (woman cheated on me) they come back. They always come back. Now when that happens the ball is your court, if your smart you'll remember what caused the break up originally. Don't blame the next guy for this ones failures.

 

[FeatherFeet]

Having been in the same position only reversed (woman cheated on me) they come back. They always come back. Now when that happens the ball is your court, if your smart you'll remember what caused the break up originally. Don't blame the next guy for this ones failures.

maybe they come bk if you're married. but if your just dating, most of the time they don't. even when they do, married or not, it's never the same, theres no going bk.

but i agree she shouldn't blame the next dude for this one's misgivings. when cheated on, people tend to get a generalization syndrome about the opposite sex being unfaithful, without realizing anyone can be unfaithful if they're not careful. so, be careful!

 

[Hosetickler23]

Also don't blame yourself.

 

[Lea28]

Sweet, and thank you

His loss!

I am not fishing for nice words...but they feel nice. Thank you.

Lea