"Weird" is one of those words that can be either playful or venomous depending on the tone of voice and the context in which it's said.  But there's another thought that comes to mind as well.  Last fall, as I mentioned on this board, some friends of mine put on a play involving a fetish community not too much unlike this one (though the particular theme of that one was spanking), and the title of the play was: "Weird."  One character in it was a professor who thought for some his career would be over if the beans ever got spilled on his proclivities, but when it happened, as I recall, he ended up turning it all around with a speech about how his students did things that he found every bit as weird as they found his fetish.  I'm not sure it would be that easy in real life, but the play did have a fairly valid point to make about the relativity and the societal selectivity of weirdness and normality.  (As I noted in another thread recently, I'm very selective about whom I tell, and I think the most sensible criterion is, would you discuss your sex life in general with this person?