Let's see turn ons (with regards to tickling)....
- a really perceptive 'ler who knows how to read their 'lee. Nothing hotter than a guy who can decipher every twitch, giggle or lie I might tell while being tickled; a guy who can pick up on all my "tells" and not only call me out on them, but use them to figure out when I'm dangerously close to breaking my stubborn streak and letting go of the emotional reigns (that I try like hell to keep hold of for as long as possible). SO HOT.
- A 'ler with a great sense of humor. I know this sounds like a canned response on a dating website, but it's true. A guy who can make me laugh before he tickles me is my ideal. Most of the time I don't like to take tickle play too seriously. Sensual tickles have their place, but in order for me to get that "high" I'm after, I need to laugh, and I'm kind of a tough nut to crack most of the time. But a guy with a great sense of humor usually can find a way behind my defenses pretty quickly.
- Being completely restrained either physically or by way of bondage. The former takes a lot of strength though - which unfortunately most guys I've been with don't have (at least not enough to take me on - I tend to put up a bit of a fight, so actual restraints are usually easier.) I love the feeling of total helplessness.... well, I guess it's more of a love/hate thing. There is definitely an adrenaline rush that happens for me when I realize I can't do anything to make the tickling stop.
- A 'ler who can talk a good game. So many 'lers have NO idea how to talk to me when we're engaging in tickle play. Either they're too quiet (which in turn, makes me quiet) or they use something that irritates me, like baby talk. A guy who knows how to verbally tease me while he's tickling is an unbelievable turn on because so much of the tickle game is mental - if you can't get to me mentally, you're not going to get much of a response out of my physically. I think that holds true for a lot of women.
- The brief 3 or 4 more seconds that a 'ler tickles me once I've already given up. Just pushing me a TINY bit over my boundary line is a major turn-on for me - it plays up that delicious feeling of helplessness, but not enough to make me panic.
Turn offs.....
- A guy who's too quiet or too serious during play.
- Baby talk, unless it's being done sarcastically as a joke. If a 'ler knows I hate baby talk, but then does it just because they're kidding around, then it's fine. But otherwise, talking to me like I'm a two-year old annoys the HELL out of me.
- A guy who asks me how/when/where I want to be tickled. I don't enjoy "topping from the bottom". When I'm restrained, I've shown you that I trust you enough to run the show, so don't ask me for directions.
- A 'ler with their own agenda. Someone who doesn't take my reactions into consideration when they're tickling me.