Your wife or significant other

[OrlandoMoo]

Does your significant other know about your fetish? How ticklish are they and is it something they enjoy?

My wife is 39 and still very ticklish. Her feet are off the charts and it’s not something she can really handle for more than a second or two.

She doesn’t know about my tickle fetish but knows I have a foot fetish and that nylons turn me on so she does her best to appease it with pedicures and certain teasing. But when I kiss her feet or toes she can’t help but giggle

 

[lordnoize]

Im male and married to a female ler

 

[LerLee]

I told my wife about 4-5 months after we first met. She is not one of us but likes to tickle. She is extremely ticklish and will laugh hysterically when I tickle her.

We tickle each other a lot — almost every day. Most are quick tickles but we sometimes get into intense tickle fights, which she usually loses.🙂

My wife is ticklish in all of the typical places and also has very ticklish ears, palms, and collarbones.

 

[Solleticatela]

• Does your significant other know about your fetish ?
• Yes. My ex-wives knew (I've been married twice). I sometimes went to erotic bookshops in Paris with the first one (pre-internet era) I showed the second one pics, video clips, stories I wrote, websites like TMF and TT (she knew my username). We even went to an erotic store in order to buy a bondage kit.

• How ticklish are they ?
• The first one was very ticklish, especially on her feet, the second one was insanely ticklish all over.

- And is it something they enjoy?
- Unfortunately, no. To a certain extent, they were intrigued by my fetish. But they couldn't stand getting tickled, so I couldn't tickle them more than a couple of seconds, by surprise. The first one allowed me to tie her up (she loved that), but not to tickle her. The second one couldn't stand being tied up. I could massage their feet (they loved it and appreciated my skills), but that was all... That's why I eventually switched (I was titillated by this idea long before my second wedding) and suggested my second wife, who had been turned on by the clips I'd shown her and who more and more proved to be a true dominatrix , to to tie me up and tickle me, which she did a couple of times. That was the only way I found to make a place for tickling in our relationship. Unfortunately, my wife soon got bored.

 

[TickleMantis]

I told my girlfriend maybe two weeks into us dating (this was 11-12 years ago, so I might be a bit fuzzy on the specifics). I tended to be very open about this when dating because I wanted people to know what they were getting into, and be transparent about my desires.

She is PREPOSTEROUSLY ticklish. As she puts it, she does not like being tickled, but likes that I like it. For this reason (lucky for me!) she is willing to endure it to a degree.

Her most ticklish spot by far are her feet. I tease the idea of tickling her feet much more often than I actually do it. One time when I was tickling her foot on the couch, it resulted in me getting a (well deserved?) dislocated rib. Now and then I’ll go to town, but she goes so ballistic that I don’t like to take too much advantage.

 

[Maneo]

How often do we see posts here or comments in chat about the frustrated and often lonely spouse - usually a man - who is with a partner who a) does not know of the tickling fetish of the other and/or b) is a spouse who may know but does not indulge in any sort of tickle play.

I wonder how often the admission of a tickle fetish is only revealed after the wedding vows to the dismay of both partners if one does not enjoy tickling in any shape. Then it is often too late.

I've been fortunate. I am in a second marriage and both my marriages have been with very ticklish women who indulged my tickle passions. Tickling was not a factor in the end of my first marriage. I met both wives through very vanilla circumstances and introduced them to the wonderful world of tickling.

 

[footfan69]

Im male and married to a female ler

You lucky guy! How does it play out for you two?

 

[redheadlady]

I met my partner on this website, so luckily we share the fetish and are compatible that way

 

[BDLerLee]

I've always been super open about it with partners. My wife knows, she doesn't share the fetish, but allows me to tickle her quite often.

 

[inthenameoffun2]

I met my wife over 20 years ago. We started chatting ( back when yahoo chat was a thing ) due to the word ticke in her profile. Long story short, she knew as soon as we started chatting / talking, and was open and interested. Now over 20 years later, we still play at times as it is something she will want, or if I metioned it. We use it as bet or as a this for that. Does not happen as often now, but when it does, it is still as fun as the first time.
She is the lee, and is ok with me chatting or meeting others. She has attended a few get togethers with me. In the end, it is all about communication and trust.

 

[Rollo9]

I doubt she thinks of it as a "fetish," but she knows I enjoy tickling her and she lets me, so good enough. 😁

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

Does your significant other know about your fetish? How ticklish are they and is it something they enjoy?

My wife is 39 and still very ticklish. Her feet are off the charts and it’s not something she can really handle for more than a second or two.

She doesn’t know about my tickle fetish but knows I have a foot fetish and that nylons turn me on so she does her best to appease it with pedicures and certain teasing. But when I kiss her feet or toes she can’t help but giggle

I think this is exactly how people who are genuinely ticklish tend to feel - not being able to handle for more than 1-2 seconds. If someone can actually take it for hours as some people here want to tickle, I donno if they can be really that much ticklish.

But hey, hope you have fun with your wife. I can really relate to her ticklishness though I am 20 years younger to her (or 19, maybe). If you are kissing her soles or toes, try to do it on bare feet - she might feel more tickled 😀

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

How often do we see posts here or comments in chat about the frustrated and often lonely spouse - usually a man - who is with a partner who a) does not know of the tickling fetish of the other and/or b) is a spouse who may know but does not indulge in any sort of tickle play.

I wonder how often the admission of a tickle fetish is only revealed after the wedding vows to the dismay of both partners if one does not enjoy tickling in any shape. Then it is often too late.

I've been fortunate. I am in a second marriage and both my marriages have been with very ticklish women who indulged my tickle passions. Tickling was not a factor in the end of my first marriage. I met both wives through very vanilla circumstances and introduced them to the wonderful world of tickling.

What I realize is (talking is a girl) - most girls/women would be open to getting tickled if the guy does it the right way without putting them into too much of a torment. If you managed to 'introduce' tickling to them (especially if they were/are very ticklish), you have done it right for sure and surely they'd have loads of fun getting tickled by you 🙂

 

[Roystonmcmillan]

Does your significant other know about your fetish? How ticklish are they and is it something they enjoy?

My partner knows about my fetishes. Thankfully she enjoys them. She kind of figured out I liked tickling already but not to the extent of it being a fetish. Then she became intrigued and asked a lot of questions about it. She likes that I have a belly button fetish also.

She’s pretty ticklish all over and does enjoy getting tickled! Over the years she’s grown to enjoy it more and more which has been a lot of fun. She thinks it’s fun to sometimes tease me about too.

 

[happyhonk]

i came out of the closet after around 3 years of relationship with my now-wife, who is into bondage (yay) and loves walking around barefoot (yay), but unfortunately doesn*t like to be tickled! there were signs of my fetish ofc, but there was no hiding it when we started living together! i am allowed to tickle her before sex every once in a while, cauz she knows who much it arouses me.... but when i go for her feet (99 % of my tickling fetish = feet imho) she uses the safeword after a few seconds!

 

[Redline]

I got lucky mine is very ticklish, her feet, legs and hips are the worst for her and lets me on occasion tie her up, blind fold her and tickle her for at least 5 to 10 minutes. Every once in a while she asks for it without me bringing it up.

 

[Cave In]

My wife knows about it, but she's very much a vanilla and I don't think she's ever really fully understood or appreciated what it is for me. She maybe understands my foot fetish more but even then, she's never asked me any questions about it.

She was more ticklish when we first met but as time has gone on I suspected it was that she reacted to it more because she was attracted to me rather than being outright ticklish. I dont think she's nearly as ticklish as I initially thought and only really on her feet. Ironically out of all my previous partners she is easily the least ticklish of them all.

She would tolerate it more in the early days of our relationship but even then only if she was in the right mood. She more or less hates being tickled, to the point I stopped attempting it years ago.

 

[Mavran3]

I told my wife about my kinks not long into our relationship but she really only discovered the extent of them after a few years. She’s insanely ticklish, especially on her feet and armpits but because of that she’s not a huge fan. She lets me tie her and tickle her on occasion but it’s more for my benefit. She’s more willing to indulge my foot fetish than my tickle fetish though.

 

[OrlandoMoo]

Does your significant other know about your fetish? How ticklish are they and is it something they enjoy?

My partner knows about my fetishes. Thankfully she enjoys them. She kind of figured out I liked tickling already but not to the extent of it being a fetish. Then she became intrigued and asked a lot of questions about it. She likes that I have a belly button fetish also.

She’s pretty ticklish all over and does enjoy getting tickled! Over the years she’s grown to enjoy it more and more which has been a lot of fun. She thinks it’s fun to sometimes tease me about too.

She knows I have a foot fetish and that it’s a turn on when she wears nylons, but we’ve never really talked about the tickle fetish.

She’s very ticklish all over her body, but her feet she goes berserk. It’s not something she can handle so she doesn’t enjoy it

 

[TobiAndyBuddy]

My wife knows about it, but she's very much a vanilla and I don't think she's ever really fully understood or appreciated what it is for me. She maybe understands my foot fetish more but even then, she's never asked me any questions about it.

She was more ticklish when we first met but as time has gone on I suspected it was that she reacted to it more because she was attracted to me rather than being outright ticklish. I dont think she's nearly as ticklish as I initially thought and only really on her feet. Ironically out of all my previous partners she is easily the least ticklish of them all.

She would tolerate it more in the early days of our relationship but even then only if she was in the right mood. She more or less hates being tickled, to the point I stopped attempting it years ago.

I’m sorry to hear this, friend.
How do you deal with this? What, if anything, do you do to substitute for your wife not indulging in tickling to the extent you crave?

 

[D-Tickler]

What I realize is (talking is a girl) - most girls/women would be open to getting tickled if the guy does it the right way without putting them into too much of a torment. If you managed to 'introduce' tickling to them (especially if they were/are very ticklish), you have done it right for sure and surely they'd have loads of fun getting tickled by you 🙂

Yea, you've really brought up a prominent point as a girl lee!
For lers, they should first think about making more joy & pleasure for their lees through tickling.
This tends to automatically create good 'feedback' for the lers as well!

 

[Doriansenigma]

My wife is very ticklish depending on her mood, in our late 40s now things have dissappointingly changed a little, she doesn’t seem to like it as much, while we have good communication in a lot of our relationship she is stubbornly introverted at times to where I don’t believe she’s telling me the truth about how she’s feeling. We’ve struggled during our last few sexual encounters where our bodies seem to lose interest (I’m not as into it because shes not as into it). I think bodily changes due to certain health issues with her might have something to do with it. Unfortunatly, tickling had defined my sexuality and put me in sort of a box where nothing else turns me on. Compounding this, I’m trying to stop looking at tickling material as much because it takes over my life. So I don’t have the same images in my head when we fuck, so its harder to stay aroused. I’ve always been open about my fetish with her and we’ve been together almost 12 years. But being into vanilla sex would make my life easier.

 

[D-Tickler]

My wife knows about it, but she's very much a vanilla and I don't think she's ever really fully understood or appreciated what it is for me. She maybe understands my foot fetish more but even then, she's never asked me any questions about it.

She was more ticklish when we first met but as time has gone on I suspected it was that she reacted to it more because she was attracted to me rather than being outright ticklish. I dont think she's nearly as ticklish as I initially thought and only really on her feet. Ironically out of all my previous partners she is easily the least ticklish of them all.

She would tolerate it more in the early days of our relationship but even then only if she was in the right mood. She more or less hates being tickled, to the point I stopped attempting it years ago.

My wife is very ticklish depending on her mood, in our late 40s now things have dissappointingly changed a little, she doesn’t seem to like it as much, while we have good communication in a lot of our relationship she is stubbornly introverted at times to where I don’t believe she’s telling me the truth about how she’s feeling. We’ve struggled during our last few sexual encounters where our bodies seem to lose interest (I’m not as into it because shes not as into it). I think bodily changes due to certain health issues with her might have something to do with it. Unfortunatly, tickling had defined my sexuality and put me in sort of a box where nothing else turns me on. Compounding this, I’m trying to stop looking at tickling material as much because it takes over my life. So I don’t have the same images in my head when we fuck, so its harder to stay aroused. I’ve always been open about my fetish with her and we’ve been together almost 12 years. But being into vanilla sex would make my life easier.

Your experiences have particularly caught my eye, because the change of your wives' ticklishness may really explicate a phenomenon.
Specifically, from my perspective, the change of your wives' ticklishness (throughout time/age) is genuine, because such a change has it cause(s).

And the primary cause, in my opinion, is the change of your wives' attitude to getting tickled:
In the early time, your wives had relatively most positive attitude to beting tickled by you, partly because their strong interests and/or appreciations in you. This accordingly brought up their positive emotion/mood to you holistically, which including your tickle fetish. The positive emotion/mood thus genuinely enhanced their ticklish reaction (especially when they're tickled by you).
However, through age, your wives' general interests in you have somewhat dimmed, which may especially embody in their less positive attitude to getting tickled by you. It has made them have a bit more unacceptable or even repulsive emotion/mood when they're tickled by you in some situations at least, which leads them to have obviously less ticklish reaction.

In other words, I think that many lees's emotions/moods can have significant affection on their ticklish reactions. Such an affection is genuine. The change of your wives' ticklish reactions is genuinely caused by the change of their emotions/moods.

You may read this relevant thread of mine:

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Thread 'Ticklishness is more variable than constant for most people'

Nov 1, 2025

Though I don't have much experience of real tickling, I've concretely perceived that ticklishness is more variable than constant for most people.

A typical source of my perception is my observation on my peers in school & university.
Specifically, I observed most of those peers getting tickled mostly on their waists in my childhood & teenagerhood. Most of them did have obvious ticklish reactions in some (perhaps most of) time, but on the other hand, reacted obviously less ticklish or even virtually non-ticklish in some other time.

The second source concerns the 'self report' that I saw...

• D-Tickler
• Replies: 33
• Forum: Tickling Discussion

 

[Cave In]

I’m sorry to hear this, friend.
How do you deal with this? What, if anything, do you do to substitute for your wife not indulging in tickling to the extent you crave?

There's not much I can do really. I've accepted that I'll never have that level of fulfilment in my marriage. Tickling clips are the only substitute I have.

 

[Cave In]

Your experiences have particularly caught my eye, because the change of your wives' ticklishness may really explicate a phenomenon.
Specifically, from my perspective, the change of your wives' ticklishness (throughout time/age) is genuine, because such a change has it cause(s).

And the primary cause, in my opinion, is the change of your wives' attitude to getting tickled:
In the early time, your wives had relatively most positive attitude to beting tickled by you, partly because their strong interests and/or appreciations in you. This accordingly brought up their positive emotion/mood to you holistically, which including your tickle fetish. The positive emotion/mood thus genuinely enhanced their ticklish reaction (especially when they're tickled by you).
However, through age, your wives' general interests in you have somewhat dimmed, which may especially embody in their less positive attitude to getting tickled by you. It has made them have a bit more unacceptable or even repulsive emotion/mood when they're tickled by you in some situations at least, which leads them to have obviously less ticklish reaction.

In other words, I think that many lees's emotions/moods can have significant affection on their ticklish reactions. Such an affection is genuine. The change of your wives' ticklish reactions is genuinely caused by the change of their emotions/moods.

You may read this relevant thread of mine:

D

Thread 'Ticklishness is more variable than constant for most people'

Nov 1, 2025

Though I don't have much experience of real tickling, I've concretely perceived that ticklishness is more variable than constant for most people.

A typical source of my perception is my observation on my peers in school & university.
Specifically, I observed most of those peers getting tickled mostly on their waists in my childhood & teenagerhood. Most of them did have obvious ticklish reactions in some (perhaps most of) time, but on the other hand, reacted obviously less ticklish or even virtually non-ticklish in some other time.

The second source concerns the 'self report' that I saw...

• D-Tickler
• Replies: 33
• Forum: Tickling Discussion

I've always found that a lee will have stronger reactions to being tickled if they are attracted to the ler, especially if there is a flirtatious element involved. As time goes on the novelty and perhaps the level of attraction fades so the tickling becomes less effective/less enjoyable.

You use the word repulsed, which is an accurate description of how she would react to any attempts at tickling. I was getting quite hurt by the negative reactions to it, so I just had to stop trying, thats probably been a few years now.

Dorians experiences are similar to my own, tickling has defined my experiences as well to the point that I need to be thinking about tickling in order to get turned on(since I can't actually tickle) Due to various issues I've turned more towards tickling material, which isn't healthy but it's the only satisfaction I get now.