Well, this will be the first in daily (well most everyday) additions to my blog. I appreciate this feature because often times I have things on my mind that I can not put into a post form, because I really don't know if people should respond, how they should respond or if I am even asking a question or making some kind of statement. I guess I will let you all just read and be the judge of that.
First off, I am grateful for this community. Very much, but often times I feel like I take people here for granted. Just because my life is in a different place and my leisure time is time is more than a lot of people, I kind of almost expect them to be able to speak with me, respond to me or whatever when ever I feel they should. That is something I have to work on. I am very lucky to be part of a community of great people and I am even luckier to have a great group of friends that expect nothing more of me than to just be their friend in return. And often times I think their friendship and such should be available to me whenever I need it. And after a lot of thought lately I have to admit that my attitude on that is basically fucked up.
I mean other people have lives too. Everyone has a life they have to deal with and can not put it on hold when I feel like they should to take time out and deal with me. Now granted we all know I have A LOT to say, and sometimes (I SAID SOMETIMES) I talk to much and find myself rehashing old stories just to stick around longer, or go over the same thing over and over again, where I simply could just make my point, get feedback and move on thus letting someone else get on with their day/life. Well I guess Baldadonis gets it right when he calls me a verbose Mexican.
But understand, this is something I have done forever. Hell there are times my own mother has to tell me she needs to go because I am talking her ear off...heck even my own daughter the other day told me "Daddy, I want to play now, can you just write me a letter. My ear is starting to hurt." And yes I agree it was funny. She was really complaining because she was holding the phone to her ear while trying to play and it was actually physically hurting the ear, not that my voice was making her eardrum retreat into her skull. But still after she said that it did make me think. And then I started to think about all the other people that suffer on the other end of my telephone line, wishing that I would struck in the voice box by a passing frisbee or come down with sudden laryngitis. I realized that unless I wanted to be sued for future ear damage and loss of hearing I needed to do something.
So what I am deciding to do is one write a blog. Not a huge step, but a good one. One to give a place for all my ramblings that I may decide to call 10 people a day about. So instead of those 10 calls to people, I make one blog, and only call those I feel I really need interaction with. Now I am NOT saying that I will not call anyone....what I am saying is that I will cut down the "Hey I just had a thought calls" that seem to happen more frequently than Keith Olberman choosing Bill O'Rielly as the "Worst Person in the Wolrd". And also the number two thing I am choosing to do is with more PM availability is to send a hello, how are things greeting more often rather than calling. Why? Well, again I am beginning to realize that just because I have time to have a 15 minute conversation about anything, that others just don't have that luxury everyday or even every week.
Now again I am not saying I will not call any of my friends ever. There are a few that actually have the time to have long conversations with me on a weekly basis or even some have time on a every other day basis. But I will do my best to keep in mind those that do not, and try not to be as chatty as I tend to get SOMETIMES.
Also, my friends have been very kind to me. Very few (well maybe 1 or 2) have mentioned this problem I have.
"Hello, I'm Robace...and I am a compulsive talker."
I guess I need a support group, but not ones I can talk with, because that would defeat the purpose. So I'll get a couple of my kids stuffed animals. I'll get the Elephant missing an eye, Winnie the Pooh, Eeyore..not piglet because he makes me hungry for a ham sandwich...Cookie Monster and that pink poodle type dog that I swear is plotting my downfall, and sit in the corner of the room just have a session.
Well, I guess I should get back to the point of this and say while I know I have not intentionally made anyone wish their ears would fall off (unless I'm singing that is) I do know and realize that I can be a bit long winded. Sometimes I just get going and do not really want to stop. Hearing another adult and having an adult conversation is one thing I enjoy a lot. It is very personal and enjoyable for me...so perhaps I have a voice fetish as well...hearing my own voice. And I don't do it because I'm vain...I do it because it makes me feel good. So when a verbose Mexican calls you and you don't have the time to talk about the current state of affairs or what I am eating for dinner...just tell me so. I promise I wont take offense. I need guidance for those times that my lips are moving faster than a hamster after drinking 15 cups of coffee, 2 red bulls and smoking crack. But also understand that it may take a while to break habits I have formed over a lifetime. Granted not as slowly as it would George W. Bush to read the best selling pamphlet "5 easy ways to say I fucked up", but it may take a little while.
So in closing...I talk a lot. And that's the understatement of the century. But at the same time I hope all of you know how much I do appreciate all of you for putting up with me, humoring me and most of being my friends and mostly for just being the people you are.
Until tomorrow,
talkatively yours..
Rob
First off, I am grateful for this community. Very much, but often times I feel like I take people here for granted. Just because my life is in a different place and my leisure time is time is more than a lot of people, I kind of almost expect them to be able to speak with me, respond to me or whatever when ever I feel they should. That is something I have to work on. I am very lucky to be part of a community of great people and I am even luckier to have a great group of friends that expect nothing more of me than to just be their friend in return. And often times I think their friendship and such should be available to me whenever I need it. And after a lot of thought lately I have to admit that my attitude on that is basically fucked up.
I mean other people have lives too. Everyone has a life they have to deal with and can not put it on hold when I feel like they should to take time out and deal with me. Now granted we all know I have A LOT to say, and sometimes (I SAID SOMETIMES) I talk to much and find myself rehashing old stories just to stick around longer, or go over the same thing over and over again, where I simply could just make my point, get feedback and move on thus letting someone else get on with their day/life. Well I guess Baldadonis gets it right when he calls me a verbose Mexican.
But understand, this is something I have done forever. Hell there are times my own mother has to tell me she needs to go because I am talking her ear off...heck even my own daughter the other day told me "Daddy, I want to play now, can you just write me a letter. My ear is starting to hurt." And yes I agree it was funny. She was really complaining because she was holding the phone to her ear while trying to play and it was actually physically hurting the ear, not that my voice was making her eardrum retreat into her skull. But still after she said that it did make me think. And then I started to think about all the other people that suffer on the other end of my telephone line, wishing that I would struck in the voice box by a passing frisbee or come down with sudden laryngitis. I realized that unless I wanted to be sued for future ear damage and loss of hearing I needed to do something.
So what I am deciding to do is one write a blog. Not a huge step, but a good one. One to give a place for all my ramblings that I may decide to call 10 people a day about. So instead of those 10 calls to people, I make one blog, and only call those I feel I really need interaction with. Now I am NOT saying that I will not call anyone....what I am saying is that I will cut down the "Hey I just had a thought calls" that seem to happen more frequently than Keith Olberman choosing Bill O'Rielly as the "Worst Person in the Wolrd". And also the number two thing I am choosing to do is with more PM availability is to send a hello, how are things greeting more often rather than calling. Why? Well, again I am beginning to realize that just because I have time to have a 15 minute conversation about anything, that others just don't have that luxury everyday or even every week.
Now again I am not saying I will not call any of my friends ever. There are a few that actually have the time to have long conversations with me on a weekly basis or even some have time on a every other day basis. But I will do my best to keep in mind those that do not, and try not to be as chatty as I tend to get SOMETIMES.
Also, my friends have been very kind to me. Very few (well maybe 1 or 2) have mentioned this problem I have.
"Hello, I'm Robace...and I am a compulsive talker."
I guess I need a support group, but not ones I can talk with, because that would defeat the purpose. So I'll get a couple of my kids stuffed animals. I'll get the Elephant missing an eye, Winnie the Pooh, Eeyore..not piglet because he makes me hungry for a ham sandwich...Cookie Monster and that pink poodle type dog that I swear is plotting my downfall, and sit in the corner of the room just have a session.
Well, I guess I should get back to the point of this and say while I know I have not intentionally made anyone wish their ears would fall off (unless I'm singing that is) I do know and realize that I can be a bit long winded. Sometimes I just get going and do not really want to stop. Hearing another adult and having an adult conversation is one thing I enjoy a lot. It is very personal and enjoyable for me...so perhaps I have a voice fetish as well...hearing my own voice. And I don't do it because I'm vain...I do it because it makes me feel good. So when a verbose Mexican calls you and you don't have the time to talk about the current state of affairs or what I am eating for dinner...just tell me so. I promise I wont take offense. I need guidance for those times that my lips are moving faster than a hamster after drinking 15 cups of coffee, 2 red bulls and smoking crack. But also understand that it may take a while to break habits I have formed over a lifetime. Granted not as slowly as it would George W. Bush to read the best selling pamphlet "5 easy ways to say I fucked up", but it may take a little while.
So in closing...I talk a lot. And that's the understatement of the century. But at the same time I hope all of you know how much I do appreciate all of you for putting up with me, humoring me and most of being my friends and mostly for just being the people you are.
Until tomorrow,
talkatively yours..
Rob
