Embarassed Or Open?

[Emishticklish]

About your Fetish. Does your Lover know? Are they accepting? If you came to find out they weren't would it be grounds for leaving Them? My Girlfriend is very supportive; Sometimes I wonder if she shares my insatiable love.....

 

[TickleMyFancy]

I tend to be embarrassed at first and it can take me a little while to come out and say that I like tickling. But I tickle a lot in my flirting, so I can usually tell if they'll be accepting or not. Then I start to slowing bring it up

Idk why I'm so shy about it. It's really not that big of a deal lol.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Hell, most of my regular friends know. They're gonna find out one way or another, and just not giving a crap cuts out the whole "OH BOY I'M TICKLING FEET oh god I hope she doesn't know I like this " thing entirely.

One way or another, the girl I'm with's finding out. It's better she knows up front.

 

[Emishticklish]

I used to be embarrassed too, Fancy. I just started realizing I can't have a healthy Sexual Relationship without it. So I started being open with potential Partners. An EX brought that side out. Any chance of a 'normal' Vanilla sex Life vanished. This is true, Confort. Good point.

 

[3xPIN]

Bashful, that is the term I would use; I am not embarrassed because it isn't embarrassing, nor am I ashamed because I haven't done anything wrong. But it is a vulnerability.

Open, I guess. Usually only to close close friends and women who I am interested in. I like to give full disclosure. But I don't go shouting it from the rooftops. While it is how I am, I am no more proud of it than I am ashamed.

 

[Emishticklish]

That's an interesting perspective. Probably a common one as well. Thanks for your input.

 

[FLBowler]

I tell them, I agree Fancy, I tickle a lot with flirting. If they aren't going to be accepting then I don't want to be with them. I'm not a very self pity cry myself to sleep kind of guy, there are plenty of girls who are accepting of different life styles. If I was vanilla I would be accepting. I'm straight, no where near gay, but I live with a gay roommate and support him completely. To me it's the same thing fetish or sexuality. We shouldn't be embarrassed, they should be ashamed for discrimination. (but of course life isn't perfect so never will everyone be accepting, but happiness comes from those who accept you for you )

 

[Justboy]

I've no desire to come out to my friends, personally I don't think It'd help me in any way, I'm happy keeping it a secret. I am however slowly coming out out to my girlfriend. She knows I really admire her feet and I've told her on occasions that I like to touch them (even lick them), she considers it 'a bit weird' and really doesn't like them being touched/tickled, but has never indicated it being a problem that I like them, I'm hoping that one day she'll eventually get used to the feeling and possibly enjoy it? (I can only dream). As for my love of being tickled myself, I've stated to her flat out that I love it and that it turns me on. She takes great pleasure in making me squirm and I'm hoping I've awoken the ler inside. My hints are becoming progressively stronger so I hope she'll tie me up soon and go nuts. As a whole I'm pretty happy with how my fetishes fit into my life

 

[Coup de Grace]

I wouldn't say I'm embarrassed, but it's something that I want to keep private. My wife and a few close friends know I have a toe fetish, but it's not something I would want broadcasted to the masses like Rex Ryan because of the freaky, stereotypical misconception. Most outsiders tend to think that someone with a foot fetish is all-consumed with sucking toes and licking soles 24/7 which at least for me, couldn't be farther from the truth.

 

[storm7400]

My girlfriend knows, and she accepts/participates daily. I told her upfront and without hesitation. She was curious and fascinated, but knew full well she had no clue what she was in for lol. But we took it slow, I answered her questions, and now its not even a second thought in our sex life.

 

[Tickleslave83]

I'd be open with a partner if I had one but no one else needs to know.

 

[Mike3355]

used to be shy, mainly cause i used to hang out with people who would state fetishes are gross etc... so i thought there was something wrong with me, then i just stopped giving about what was wrong and stuff. So i started to like it, i don't announce it to everyone i know, and i'm sure they could tell by now, they seem to enjoy poking the pilsbury doughboy..

 

[chicago]

It's pretty important to me so I tell anyone I date but it's not always easy. I still get shy about it and saying any form of the word "tickle" out loud is difficult lol

 

[tsukimizu]

The only time I'm ever open about it is with the people I date, other people that share the same interests as me(Aka this entire forum), and really close friends that happen to see the TMF in your history T-T

 

[giggle-maker]

Ok...here's the deal.

Child Porn
Giving a horse a blowjob
Dripping candlewax on your clit
Tickle torture
Shitting in a girls mouth
Seven midgets pretending you're Snow White singing "it's off to work we go"


Com'on....

 

[Emishticklish]

Maybe my Question has been misinterpreted....this is as far as your LOVE LIFE goes; Not the rest of the world. Realistically who cares if you're not sleeping with them? Second. No need for rude responses.

 

[cue]

Since this question is directed towards our love life when it comes to tickling, then I'll answer in that way.

It was actually with my husband many moons ago, that I found out how tickling affects me. We've been together for 18 years, married for 15. He just happened to start tickling me while we were being intimate, and viola! A new kink was born in me..lol. I would tell anyone who was intimate with that I like being tickled. But to friends, maybe not. Tickling to me is so private, since it turns me on, that my friends don't really need to know that type of information. I don't care what turns them on sexually, as I don't view them as potential sex partners anyways.

 

[DanishTickling]

Let me just say that I would NEVER get into a relationship before I had told my partner about my tickling fetish. I have been in a vanilla relationship earlier in my life where I tried to ignore my tickling fetish, but that didn't work out at all. After that relationship I came to realize that I cannot be with a partner who doesn't accept my tickling fetish. And now that I'm a 'ler, it also has to be a girl who doesn't mind getting tickled. I don't mention my tickling fetish on the first or second date, but as I said, I definitely tell about it before getting into a relationship.

It may sound superficial, but it is so much smarter to be clear right from the beginning. This way you also avoid that your tickling fetish might be a reason to break up later on.

 

[gilmourwaters]

i've always been completely open in my relationships

 

[YouNeverKnow175]

It's a great question. I have always told girlfriends and they have always been accepting. But I've always been very shy about it, worried about sharing it initially, and then worried that they'd think I was too weird or too into it the further we went.

My current - and last - girlfriend actually wondered recently why I seem so embarrassed about it and said that the embarrassment actually makes her think there must be something weird about it that she's missing. So let that be a lesson, folks. Have confidence - and if you don't act ashamed, no one else will think anything of it.

The post earlier about the crazy fetishes is right on - compared to a lot of other things that people are into, tickling is quite tame and normal.

 

[3xPIN]

Ok...here's the deal.

Child Porn
Giving a horse a blowjob
Dripping candlewax on your clit
Tickle torture
Shitting in a girls mouth
Seven midgets pretending you're Snow White singing "it's off to work we go"


Com'on....

Who is the... can... it... I... just...sorry, what?

 

[giggle-maker]

Ok...here's the deal.

Child Porn
Giving a horse a blowjob
Dripping candlewax on your clit
Tickle torture
Shitting in a girls mouth
Seven midgets pretending you're Snow White singing "it's off to work we go"


Com'on....

Who is the... can... it... I... just...sorry, what?

LOL, I was just setting a comparison basis on different fetishes as a way of demonstrating how UN-extreme tickle torture can be.

When stacked up against some of them (and practiaclly all of these I've listed) tickle torture is rather tame.

At the end of the day, all I want is for people that are shy about tickling to try and be more comfortable and happy with thier fetish. As a means to that end I use these other extreme examples to try and show that they shouldn't be afraid or ashamed of tickling.


(not sure where the seven midget think came from...but as a fetish goes...)

 

[Rectangle]

I usually (lately) get it out of the way during the "flirting" stage.
It's usually pretty easy, just wait until they tickle you and say "I friggin' LOVE that feeling.."
Never had a negative response, ever.
Usually they respond with something along the lines of "That's cute" or "That's adorable" or "My ex-boyfriend never let me tickle him!".
I've even had one case of "Me too!" and another ex-girlfriend who flirtaciously said "One day I'm going to get you bad, we'll see how you like it then.."
On the "Ler" side, it's give or take whether you'll find someone ok with being tickled, but getting tickled is as easy as can be.

You can even "engineer" it easily, "play pout" and make a grumpy face at times and say "I don't feel like smiling, and you can't make me".
110% of the time, if they know you like being tickled, they'll tickle you.
Flash foward to minor arguements over stupid things, most girls I've been with will afterwards resort to using it to "break the ice", etc..

Easy as pie, it's not the most threatening thing out there by far.


P.S. The "Me too" girl actually looked up the TMF while Googling and sent it to me like "Look what I found! This is awesome!"
I blushed beet red and was like "Um..wow! Yeah! I totally haven't been creepin' there since I was 16! Good find!"

 

[tendenier]

Was always very shy about the fact that i loved tickling nylon feet when i was younger but from about 30 ish lost all my inhibitions and thought wtf. Confidence without being creepy gets those shoes off every time !!

 

[giggle-maker]

Was always very shy about the fact that i loved tickling nylon feet when i was younger but from about 30 ish lost all my inhibitions and thought wtf. Confidence without being creepy gets those shoes off every time !!

This^^^