Is sex for pay different than tickle for pay?

[GQguy]

I'd imagine that the vanilla person would answer this with a "no", "it's just tickling". But for us it's more than just tickling. So how do you guys see it? Does the individual that sells their body for sex any different than the person that sells their body for tickling? How is it different? If one is wrong why isn't the other?

GQ

 

[Mane'o]

from a strict legal view there may be some differences that the courts would recognize making one legla and the other not but aside from that, the two would seem pretty much the same, only that the physical activity being paid for differs.

 

[nenezinho]

I understand where some moral conflicts may be coming from. I do believe it is no different. The great difference is that I also believe that "pay for sex" is not wrong or even ugly in itself, it all depends on who you are, how you behave, the kind of girl you are looking for and the way you expect to behave with her.

On my own view, and have in mind my view may be really liberal to many, I see it like this: If you wish to be with a really nice girl that happens to charge for whatever you would like to do with her, so be it! As long as you are being honest with yourself, as long as you are getting anyone else injured in the process (total NO if you are in a regular relationship). As long as you behave like you would behave with any girl you respect and care for.....then....I see no harm in it! Yeah, sure it becomes a business. But everything in life is kind of win-win situations, or at least we are allways looking for those in life. And a lot of stuff involves money because this is the world we live in.

I usually go with this kind of thought:
- think on the nice and pretty girl who asked for your help when studying for highschool exams. Then because you were nice and she kind of got interested in you, she lets you have sex with her after you help her. She may not be 100% sure you are the love of her life, but you were kind to her, you did help, you have something that she values and cares for, and that is the single starting point for everything.
- now compare this with you looking for a high profile escort. She doesnt need to be with you, she will be with you only if she likes the way you talk to her on the phone and you prove to be successfull enough to be a good customer. And when you get together, she may or may not let you do all you want and she may or may not want to see you again.

The only thing i feel wrong are those who are looking for "whores" just to have sex and to do only what they want, with a total lack of concern for the women in front of them.

So, to me, if you respect and care for the girl, then it´s ok. If you have no respect for the girl then you are just paying for something like if it was a cow or i dont know what and that is wrong!!!

 

[milagros317]

Speaking only from my own point of view, they are similar because they are both erotic services for pay.
Also, IMO, they are both moral if done by consenting adults. (Consenting implies, among other things, that there is no coercion.)

 

[GQguy]

Personally, if I met a girl and she told me she used to get tickled for pay i'd think it was a little milder than sex for pay but it'd definitely be along the same lines. I think I could still date a tickle model that did it for a shoot because it has an art aspect to it, but would be more hesitant with a woman that did it privately. A woman that accepted money for sex would be a hard dealbreaker though.

Funny.

 

[Clm128]

Okay first of nenzinheo why the fuck would you want to care for a girl ur paying for sex? It's an exchange of money for service nothing more. I'm not saying hate the person but I ain't gonna show her more Curtissy then a clerk at the store. I'm not gonna be rude where gonna have a good time but it's a exchange of goods for service and nothing more so take it with a grain of salt. You make it sound like a fairy tail that has the possibility of a life ever after. Not sayig there isn't a small chance but take it with a grain of salt.

If this is what u were trying to say I appogize I miss understood but I have a few girlfriends as strippers who tell me Atleast once a night they have some "weirdo" as they put it who takes them in the back to rub there feet instead of get a dance ( or suck there toes or w/e) to them it's just another dollar believe me

 

[nenezinho]

Okay first of nenzinheo why the fuck would you want to care for a girl ur paying for sex? It's an exchange of money for service nothing more. I'm not saying hate the person but I ain't gonna show her more Curtissy then a clerk at the store. I'm not gonna be rude where gonna have a good time but it's a exchange of goods for service and nothing more so take it with a grain of salt. You make it sound like a fairy tail that has the possibility of a life ever after. Not sayig there isn't a small chance but take it with a grain of salt.

If this is what u were trying to say I appogize I miss understood but I have a few girlfriends as strippers who tell me Atleast once a night they have some "weirdo" as they put it who takes them in the back to rub there feet instead of get a dance ( or suck there toes or w/e) to them it's just another dollar believe me

I think we will go a bit off topic if we go in this direction and not sure if this is what the OP wanted in the first place.

Still, I will give you an answer.

Selling sex like selling everything else, is not so plain and simple. The idea you have about it is only true if you are talking about low quality cheap girls who dont know how to value themselves and who are not really worth the time and effort. If you think you can get to a top class escort full of yourself and making all the rulles.....boy oh boy are you wrong on that one. If you want to get a top class which is really worth it, you need something else besides the money because unless you are Bill Gates, they have customers who can give them more money and therefore do not feel the need to do whatever you want them to do.

So if you ever pay to a top class woman so that she gives you something in return, do not care for her like you would do a shop clerck....or she will take care of you like if you were some kid getting into the store just to buy some bubblegum and she will get rid of you as fast as possible.

This will be true either it is sex or tickling. There is really something else going on besides the business, even in that kind of market, believe it or not. It is not a fairy tale. It is a tale where woman are beautiful and they know how much power they have and be sure they know how much its worth and how to use that power.

Obviously, there are those out there who do not know nothing. But then, those girls are pretty much the same as the ones you get drunk in college just to get laid with them....they are usually not worth the trouble.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

I don't find either of these things unethical. I do think that tickling-for-pay is less likely to be illegal, depending on the jurisdiction, for the same reason that it's not illegal to operate a dungeon as long as no sex takes place there.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Well, I am guessing if the guy/girl does it more then once then it is considered selling his/her body to be used for money. Which some people would consider that a form of prostitution, especially if it caters to a fetish. I don't think people outside the community would know the difference between tickling or sex. The payer is getting turned on or enjoying using the payee for cash.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

Well, I am guessing if the guy/girl does it more then once then it is considered selling his/her body to be used for money. Which some people would consider that a form of prostitution, especially if it caters to a fetish. I don't think people outside the community would know the difference between tickling or sex. The payer is getting turned on or enjoying using the payee for cash.

Again, it really depends on the laws of the jurisdiction in question. All "dommes" are essentially using their bodies for money as well, even if sex isn't involved, yet the laws vary on whether it's legal to be a domme.

 

[Clm128]

unless you are Bill Gates, they have customers who can give them more money and therefore do not feel the need to do whatever you want them to do.

True, basically all I'm saying is be nice but dont be falling in love and treating her like a goddess when when at the end of the day she really is just a hooker. Sure girls have power and all that but guys arnt as helpless as everyone thinks. At the end of te day money talks and bull shit walks. She's using u and your using her and as long as everyone's getting what they want then were all happy. Remember you want something form her so flatter her, hookers are people lol, but it's just that. Humor her to get what you want and know that's it.
What I got from your first post was like if a hooker sleeps with you you should be great full they took your money and not someone else's.

 

[rhiannon]

To me it's the same, and both is fine with me if the person selling their body does it voluntarily and not out of some kind of pressure.

 

[chicago]

They're in the same ball park but I don't think either is wrong necessarily.

 

[Mitchell]

GQ, personally, I think both are the same. With either sex for pay, or tickle for pay, the people involved are engaging in bodily activity for money.

Personally, I think that prostitution, and any form of sex/sexual activity for money, should be legalized in all 50 states. To me, what two consenting adults agree to, even if sex, tickling.. or bodily gratification, for money, should not at all be regulated by any form of government.

Mitch

 

[P[a]pi]

To me they are not the same at all. I view penetration on a much higher level than tickling someone because loss of virginity and impregnation can occur. To me sex is a big deal no matter what. Being tickled by someone is only a big deal if the people involved feel that way.

 

[rhiannon]

Being tickled by someone is only a big deal if the people involved feel that way.

I doubt prostitutes think sex is a big deal.

 

[BMoreTklr]

I'm in agreement with papi. Aside from whatever moral issues are in question, the fact remains that sex and tickling are in two completely different things. At the end of the day, sex can lead to pregnancy, possible disease transmission, and usually additional emotional ties. Tickling while it may be held in a certain regard by most folks on the forum, but at the end of the day, you can tickle someone and go about your business. You can have sex and do the same, but find out later on that there are some very real consequences.

 

[rhiannon]

You can have sex and do the same, but find out later on that there are some very real consequences

But let's be serious here....we are talking about prostitution! Have you ever heard about a prostitute coming after her customers for child support? And disease transmission won't happen if you use the right protection.

So - tickling and sex are both about sexual gratification, so where's the difference?

 

[b0xr]

I don't think either one is wrong. At least you won't have to wear a condom for a tickling session.

 

[DianaBanana88]

i'd much rather pay someone to tickle the hell outta me than pay someone to have sex with me. paying for a tickle session is alot different than paying for sex imo. Tickling is the less extreme

 

[BMoreTklr]

So - tickling and sex are both about sexual gratification, so where's the difference?

Sex is about sexual gratification......tickling can lead to sexual gratification but a tickling session doesn't necessarily do the same.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

Since when has this site become so uptight about sex. It's just sex, people. It's the most natural thing in the world. And no, every sex act doesn't lead to pregnancy or STDs, especially when proper precautions are taken. As for emotional ties, I would argue that most sex doesn't lead to emotional ties, but maybe that's just me being cynical. LOL.

Paying for sex and paying to be tickled both involve one person paying money for another to make them feel a certain way. It's the same thing.

 

[JoePTickle]

I'd agree that public perception would say there's basically no difference. I can point to differences, most notably that there doesn't have to be any arousal going on in tickling. The reason that I'll pay for tickling is that so few are interested voluntarily. Interesting question, thanks.

 

[rhiannon]

Paying for sex and paying to be tickled both involve one person paying money for another to make them feel a certain way. It's the same thing.

Bingo. And in the case of most people in this forum, it's even the same way it's supposed to make them feel!

tickling can lead to sexual gratification but a tickling session doesn't necessarily do the same.

Well, to me tickling is very sexually gratifying.

 

[BMoreTklr]

I'm in agreement that for most on this forum tickling elicits some sort of sexual response (whether visible or not), but tickling alone does not leave me sexually gratified. Tickling by itself, great......sex by itself, great and leaves me sexually satisfied. Tickling + Sex = . If I get that same feeling from just tickling someone, then hey, I'll agree with you guys all day.