My friend was approached by a foot fetishist. Are we creepy?

[Cavum]

No matter what fetish or scene there is always creepers who don't have a clue how to talk with people. They don't own social skills and never will. So no...we are not creepy. The creepers are the ones who are creepy.

 

[1TicklishLass]

Maybe the simple truth is ..tickling or foot fetishism on their own aren't creepy, but this guy really might have been . something sounded the alarm in her head

How you managed to boil down my overblown paragraph into a single sentence is embarrassing! I do go on! What is that quote some famous person said somewhere.....: "An idiot uses ten sentences to say what can be said in one?"

 

[C.A.B.]

I wasn't going to post my opinion on this topic, but hey, since so many are weighing in I thought I'd toss in my two cents.....

Every human is a potential victim, women especially. Learning how to defend yourself is more affordable than ever. It's always better to never need it than to need it and say "I wished I'd taken those classes!" Whether it's 'creepy' or not is subjective and open to interpretation. If your friend felt uncomfortable she made the right choice.
Appealing as it is to go with the majority, I simply cannot. I cannot fault someone for expressing their appreciation for beautiful feet and asking to photograph them (there are plenty of artists who photograph all sorts of ordinary people and assorted human parts everyday) and to me it is much the same as seeing a beautiful face and saying "Wow, you are really beautiful do you mind if I photograph you?" Nor can I fail to see how such a thing would make your friend uncomfortable. Human interaction is inherently unbalanced and judged by the two parties interacting. I can't really come down on either side.

I am proudly different. I love tickling and I am not afraid to admit it openly and just who decides what is deviant and what isn't? Perhaps this is my libertarian nature rearing it's live and let live head, but if two adult parties are consenting, how is this deviant?
A wise friend once said: We never see the world as it is, we see the world as WE are. I'm sure the implication is plain.

Tickling and foot fetishism aside, what is lacking in our modern 'enlightened' society is any sense of etiquette and decorum... simply being polite has gone the way of the dodo. Rudeness is so common it is not even recognized as boorish by good folks anymore. We live in a world where it seems, "If you can do it, go ahead... no thinking or conscience required." Pitiful.

 

[Darkknight]

Tickling and foot fetishism aside, what is lacking in our modern 'enlightened' society is any sense of etiquette and decorum... simply being polite has gone the way of the dodo. Rudeness is so common it is not even recognized as boorish by good folks anymore. We live in a world where it seems, "If you can do it, go ahead... no thinking or conscience required." Pitiful.

Yup, totally agree CAB.

DK

 

[sk8vapor]

I'm going to be the apparent lone dissenter here and say that I don't see what is so "creepy" about asking a female that you just met in public to pose for photographs. It's not really any different than asking for her number in my opinion. That being said, I don't think it's so much what this guy asked that made him "creepy" - it was his approach.

Guys seem to think that there is some sort of separate special formula for coaxing a girl out of her shoes in public. There isn't. The same rules would apply as if you were attempting to pick her up and ask for her number. Regardless of what he asked, I believe he would have been rejected and turned away.

For one, he waited until your friend was alone, and likely already felt vulnerable being that nobody else was around. The fact that he also walked straight up to her didn't help at, as walking straight up to anyone would immediately put them on the defense, it's human nature, as opposed to making them feel like they have plenty of personal space so you're not invading their comfort zone. He came off as threatening to her, and females have the keen ability to size up an approaching male right away. The idea is to come off as non threatening and not seeming needy, while demonstrating higher value. If you make her feel comfortable, she will be comfortable around you. Most girls like attention and to have fun, and if you lead and make the situation a fun, lighthearted situation, odds are that she will follow your lead. Asking her to take her shoes off and pose is a form of a compliance test. When you are leading the situation and have been deemed as non threatening, you will find females starting to comply with your simple requests with minimal to no questions.

 

[JordanNova]

I think its all in the approach. I don't think the approach was that smooth. It seemed kind of startling and could easily throw someone off guard and make them defensive and want to flee. You have to make it fun and not a big deal. You almost have to let the other person know that they are completely in control and that safety is a top concern. I think a lot of time its the over eagerness that scares people away. Build up and getting to know people are much more fun.

I was asked once if I wanted to participate in some kind of survey for a website once, an adult website. This was in a parking lot at my college and the guy had a stereotypical van. I was scared to death and I even had my friend with me. It was so shady and creepy and just weird. It just didn't seem right. If the guy had come over to us and seemed professional then maybe I would have felt better. But I think approaching people in public places already is kind of shady, but that's just me.

 

[tyler_d]

Am I some sort of creeper for having this fetish

The only way to know this for certain is to see how hot the girl is. The hotter she is, the less of a creeper you are for having the "public-approach" fetish. "Public approach" is a great way for many men to get their rocks off. It is so much better than the secretive/non-consensual approaches that are revered (and used) by the creepers (like Realbaresoles, aka "the sole experience") over at themousepad.yuku forums.

No-one commented on my post above, so I'll be less subtle.

There are several video producers, both for feet and tickling, who approach people in the street or another public place and ask them if they'd care to model. I linked to one of them and linked to a sample clip of theirs on Youtube too.

Thoughts?

You nailed it! These public approaches happen all the time by skilled fetishists. This style of videography is completely okay and legit when the process is executed by someone who knows what they are doing. Those videographers also tend to be upfront and honest to the women being pursued. This tactic beats the heck out of other public videography methods where some old creep sits on a park bench with a camera on his lap, covered by a newspaper, so that women cannot detect they are being filmed without their consent (and then later posted on masturbation boards for other creeps to enjoy). Reference the forum I mentioned above.

As far as indulging your fetish, here's a good example of how to approach a female stranger in a public while gaining her consent:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RkDX6a6xcg

 

[Comfort Eagle]

No-one commented on my post above, so I'll be less subtle.

There are several video producers, both for feet and tickling, who approach people in the street or another public place and ask them if they'd care to model. I linked to one of them and linked to a sample clip of theirs on Youtube too.

Thoughts?

They're fake. Because that'll actually get you arrested. People that say "Nah dude I totally convinced them!" had faked the encounter. Because holy shit, you can't in fact just walk up to strangers and say "Make fetish porn yes?" to them without it being an issue.

Sorry to kill the illusion for you, but it's best you learn it from the internet instead of a county lock up.

 

[Bohemianne]

Try to think of it this way... It's like the superheroes. Mr. Clark Kink took pictures, so later he became Super Creep. Somehow, "with greater kink comes great responsibility."

 

[tyler_d]

Try to think of it this way... It's like the superheroes. Mr. Clark Kink took pictures, so later he became Super Creep. Somehow, "with greater kink comes great responsibility."

Best post ever made in a fetish forum LOL!

 

[Bohemianne]

Best post ever made in a fetish forum LOL!

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[Whoviantrekkie]

It's rather strange to see this old thread being bumped up again after so long. Needless to say I've made peace with what happened and I think its possible to be open about your fetish without scrutiny but this guy was just a pervert. I appreciate all of the input though.

 

[Mane'o]

It's rather strange to see this old thread being bumped up again after so long. Needless to say I've made peace with what happened and I think its possible to be open about your fetish without scrutiny but this guy was just a pervert. I appreciate all of the input though.

you never told us how the woman who experienced this responded when you wrote that you sent her an apology and revealed your own fetish. I have been curious why you felt you needed to offer her an apology.

If a guy walks up to a friend of mine and pulls it out and exposes himself, do I need to apologize for his bad behavior just because I am a male with all the same male equipment? Empathize, sympathize, but apologize? Because this guy has poor social skills and possibly worse does not mean that part of his personality is directly tied to a fondness for feet or any other preference. So those who may also have a fondness for feet but not deficit in social skills should not have to apologize for the shortcomings of others with whom there may be unrelated shared interests.

So how did the friend respond when you apologized and told her of your own preferences?