Must be why I mod this section. Bein' that I define the possibility of meeting your future wife online, I'm an easy example of the possibility. Even easier if you've seen me.
Since I ain't rich or pretty, I figure it's about how ya behave. Mentionin' "toys" ain't likely t'meet wit' great reward. No doubt 'bout that. Being happy bein' someone's plaything is a different kink. They DO crossover, sometimes, but that's rare, brother.
It's more a matter of meeting the women out there. Communicating with them. Meeting 'em civilly, for coffee and conversation. Find out if they're someone ya wanna spend the next couple decades with.
If you just wanna play, head to a large gathering like NEST, or holiday in LA and hit up a few of the dungeons.
Either path's a possibility. It's a matter of gettin' up and doin', versus just complainin' about the fact that this board is only a board, and not a magic solution to the social inadequacies that are present for sexual deviants.
Ya deal or ya don't. Easier to deal. Way easier. ESPECIALLY in Ohio, where there are already several couples, at least one of whom met through MidWest NEST, one that RUNS MidWest NEST, and others nearby.
Must be present to win, like contests always say. Try hittin' up NEST. MEET some people here. Make a few actual social contacts. Friends, y'know? Women respond MUCH better to guys who are socially grouped. That's just basic sociology.
It IS true, though, that JUST sticking to this Personals section, alone, will make for a rare possibility of finding "the One". World don't work that way. If it did, we'd have a few thousand posts here each week. We don't.
Again, good luck!
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