when my partner told me, i was.. hard to explain really, I could neither understand the arousal, and still cant fully. I hope in his mind that my reaction was not shock and horror. I can only hope that it wasnt. Thinking back to that moment i think i was more.. mm.. okay.. its not something i cant live with but may take time for me to adjust. Hehe it didnt help that he went OTT with it for the first 12 months so that sex was based purely around his fetish and only that.
It took 1-2 yrs for me to fully accept that this is something my partner enjoys immensely. All through those years of coming to terms with something that is admittedly unusual but by no means sadistic or freaky, I discovered through his fetish that i seem to really really really enjoy my feet being played with in all forms - stroking/massaging/sucking, and although the tickling i dont get as much enjoyment out of. I do once ive orgasamed myself
Oh boy are my feet dead ticklish then !!!!
The sad thing is, that, now that i have fully accepted my partner's likes, and want to be more involved in both tickling for him and the stroking etc for me he now wishes that he had never told me
So from one extreme 'flatfoot' [your partner] to another extreme, where he rarely uses his fetish on me but would rather i give him a handjob whilst he looks at movies. with regards to your partner being put off sex because of the fetish, Im also the same, i dont feel any attraction towards him when he starts off the tickling as at present its, tickling first [no warming up my engine] and then he expects me to be all ready for him when it comes to the sex point. Perhaps if he could warm my engine up so to speak first.. tickle a bit, then reheat me, tickle and so on, perhaps that might work. Otherwise it may be just a case of time I hope.
It hurts and upsets me that I took the time to accept and join this forum so as to better understand his fetish only for him to no longer want to involve me as much as he once wanted to. which really really pisses me off to be honest.
At the end of the day i feel that there can be understanding between two people, and i indulged his fetish as i felt arousal at HIS arousal at the tickling. Despite the situation at the moment, because i loved him then and still do, I will continue to accept his fetish. Its part of him. A case of understanding goes a long long way.
Im screwed if i dont and screwed if i do
Bluddy hell!! im shaking like a leaf typing this!!..
I just wish he that he didnt feel that he no longer wishes he had told me
I do have to say, that joining this forum rather late in those years, has certainly helped me understand and accept, his fetish was never anything i felt was weird ever. And i have to thank you guys for all your advice and your down to earth attitude. You lot are a great bunch of guys \o/