imontana2000
Guest
- Joined
- Sep 3, 2008
- Messages
- 17
- Points
- 0
Ok guys PLEASE read this I am looking for some genuine dating advice, from men or women who have been through something similar.... please help me. I am 24/m and divorced. I joined match recently in hopes of finding someone. After a few days a beautiful woman winked at me... great! we exchanged numbers and met this past Tuesday. It was incredible.... angels sang, balloons burst, and we clicked off the bat. We met for coffee at a local mall and spent 2 hours just walking and talking through the mall. She didn't want to end the date and suggested we go bowling... so we bowled 3 games before we said our goodbyes. The whole time we laughed, she was physical, and the body language was perfect. Of course before leaving I asked for another date, and before i could even finish the sentence she said YES! so I followed up with her via text that night, telling her that it was nice meeting her and I had fun. She agreed and then I asked about doing something this weekend... she said yea... we'll see, i have ava (her daughter) this weekend, hope thats not an issue." RED FLAG!!!! I said of course not and I would like to see her again... she agreed and said she wants to see me again too. I sent her a small text Wednesday and no contact Thursday. Texted Friday and asked if i could call her later that night? after several hours she replied that she was kinda busy... would it be ok to talk tomorrow? (meaning today) i texted back that all i wanted to know was which church service her and her mother went to, bc I am church hunting and wanted to check theres out. She told me and said I should come, I said maybe I would see her there. So today my mind of course is going nuts! Call it ego, pride, male stupidity but I am smitten by her. So I texted her to kinda see where she was at with still being interested. She said that she has been thinking these past few days and maybe she is not ready for a relationship right now... I could tell she was withdrawn this week. She is actually going through a lot herself and she said she wants a little time for herself. She is letting her match account expire and taking some time off. I responded and said I understand, I want to be here as a friend for her if she wants to talk, I asked if I could get in touch with her in a few weeks to check in and she said that would be fine! Here are the facts according to her; she is separated/divorcing her husband after 2 years... she is 26 but they dated since they were 14... separated in May, she has a 4 month old daughter, she is filing for support so she has court hearings too, she commutes 2 hours to philly, one way for her job... she is trying to find one closer to here... she only lives 10 minutes from me, her step father is cheating on her mother, so her mother and her recently moved into an apartment together, and just the constant care that a new born baby needs... even as I am writing this I am thinking... holy cow this girl is swamped! So ladies and gentlemen... what do I do??? I am smitten, honestly I would like another date with this girl and she knows I am interested. Is this my ego clouding my vision? Should I start going to her church or would that make things complicated more? Ladies should I back off completely or should I call her in a month and see where shes at? Do I wait for her to contact me or do I continue to let her know I am interested without suffocating her? I know women run when they feel pressured! This is so fragile because we literally just met 4 days ago and I am freaking out already!!! I am in no rush to get married again, nor am I desperate by any means... I am a genuinely nice guy looking for a female counterpart. Any healthy advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks guys enjoy your weekend!