tickler118
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I would go to one except that I'm stranded on an island in the Atlantic ocean!!!
The second was meh because it was filled with people who thought they were some kind of celebrity in the world of tickling and acted like it, as if the community owed them something.
Meeting people has given me some of my best friends
in the world. I even gained a sister. I wouldn't trade
any of it for anything in the world. It's about so much
more than tickling or feet or fetishes. It's about humans
connecting on a much deeper level, and forming lifelong
friendships in a way you can't anywhere else.
I appriciate the time to respond loveI see what you're saying here, and here are a few responses to this:
- There are people who have spouses and families that go to gatherings with their partner's blessing
- There is no pressure to play at gatherings. If someone is inappropriate they are dealt with.
- I've yet to see "mostly older/awkward guys" at these things.
- I've seen a lot of self-described shy people open up at gatherings.
Sure, it's nerve-wracking to enter a group that seems to all know each other. But it's not middle school and people are really friendly. And we all had to start at the same place, not knowing anyone in the community.
I had many of your fears before my first gathering, but now I can't imagine my life without going. We're all "normal" people and the events feel very warm and welcoming.
I know. It's a total fucking drag, isn't it? Who needs it?
I didn't take time to read all of the responses. So, pardon me if this has already been mentioned. Though I DO go to gatherings and have a great time at them, I find larger (20+ is large to me) groups of people to be very draining...esp. if they're loud. Last year's NEST was a perfect setup for me because I could escape to the quiet of my room every so often to decompress. For wahtever reason, loud noise makes me very tense and wears me out very quickly. (Even here at home, if Drew wants to play a concert or something loudly, I have to put in ear plugs in order to be able to handle it.) So, while I love gatherings, I really need to rest up a lot in advance and sneak in as many quiet moments during as possible. If I don't have the opportunity to do so, I tend to get very quiet and shut down.
I'm sure I'm not entirely alone in this.
I would love to meet tickle friends for real, but tickling IS very personal to me. I dont know what to expect at a gathering, but if it involves others watching me being tickled, or being tickled by a person i am not into, then I would NOT have fun, to say the least.
Still, I always wonder if I would meet that one special person? Someone that enjoys tickling, feet, etc as much as I do... and sex of course, but that I assume does not occur at gatherings either.
Always tempted, never convinced... Lea
Definitely more "cliqueish" than "ticklish". The first gathering I attended was 360 degrees different than the second one. It was a much more open, positive and fulfilling experience. With the second gathering I tried to talk to people and make friends...I am definitely not a shy person. I went to their munch, too. But they kept discussing people and places and experiences that I couldn't relate to. Making references to publications I wasn't familiar with. There was one woman in particular who was VERY egotistical and acted like we were all subservient in her presence. She certainly "dominated" the whole conversation. Doing the whole "Remember when so and so did this...?" "Oh yes wasn't that something!" I tried to join in the conversation but wasn't let in...I really felt like an outsider because I wasn't "hip" to their "jive"...reminded me too much of high school. So I bailed out.
But please understand that was THAT particular scenario. I am in no way saying that ALL gatherings are like that. I'm just revealing MY response to the question/topic at hand...
...a tickle maniac!
OK, tell me where? What should I wear? Can i tickle u back? This could be serious bud!
LoL...Lea