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The crybaby crap has gotta go.

I never said you said I was, I was pointing out that I'm not.

The point is that you bring this out, just like they bring their problems with stuff out, so in the end, you are doing what they are doing, ABOUT them doing it, causing me to walk in and tell you that, only to get into a dispute about why you are doing it, and in the end, this thread will stay, the complainers will stay, I will stay, you will stay.
 
...in the end, this thread will stay, the complainers will stay, I will stay, you will stay.

Staying isn't the issue. Interacting is. If this thread is effective in dissuading anyone even once from pointless negativity rather than a substantial contribution, it's worthwhile.

Just recently, I'd begun a thread asking for people's favorite political music. Only two posts in, I had a fellow come along, a bit discouragingly, with his opinion that basically, it's all anti-American garbage. Fine, he's got an opinion. But that sort of thing puts a damper on the thread, and it wasn't what I was asking for, so I civilly pointed that out. He was a gent and came back and offered U2's "Sunday Bloody Sunday".

Now, I could have gotten in a debate with him as of that first post, but that would have thrown things off more. Better to civilly redirect if you can. And he's not a troll -- he wasn't trying to throw things off -- he just had something he needed to get off his chest. He's conscious of his actions, not here to troll, and so, approachable with ration. And I thank him for his contribution.

That's how this thread can help, maybe. Get people to rethink that negativity and come up with something better to add. It's not going to stop the problem. It's not going to effect true trolls. But maybe it can encourage the thoughtful folks who might just be in a bit of a foul mood to find a better way to express themselves than an unnecessary insult, provocation or thread derail.
 
Just recently, I'd begun a thread asking for people's favorite political music. Only two posts in, I had a fellow come along, a bit discouragingly, with his opinion that basically, it's all anti-American garbage. Fine, he's got an opinion. But that sort of thing puts a damper on the thread, and it wasn't what I was asking for, so I civilly pointed that out. He was a gent and came back and offered U2's "Sunday Bloody Sunday".

Yeah about that...I misread the thread the first time through (was a bit tired.). I had thought it was about discussing singers with a lot of really political songs, and felt like a douche after going back and re-reading it. I just really fucking hate Smile Empty Soul. A lot.

Still, was pretty lame. Sorry bout that. :rotate:
 
Yeah about that...I misread the thread the first time through (was a bit tired.). I had thought it was about discussing singers with a lot of really political songs, and felt like a douche after going back and re-reading it. I just really fucking hate Smile Empty Soul. A lot.

Still, was pretty lame. Sorry bout that. :rotate:

Ah, don't sweat it, man. It's no biggie. I only offered you as an example because you turned around, did the right thing and made a positive contribution. You came back, offered a really good song, and I appreciate it and I thank you. Everyone's got a little something to get off their chest now and then. We all do it. Comes with being human. 🙂

Take care.

Cap 😎
 
If some people are negative by nature, you won't show them the path, that's something they have to find, and maybe being negative is their path. Not everybody is happy all the time. Not everybody has good thoughts all of the time.

And if you really must look at everything in a positive way, think of the negativity as the person "opening up" to the public about how they feel on certain things. If you don't like reading it, don't read it. There's a bunch of happy stuff on here that I'm sure some don't like/don't care about, and some tend to troll it, others stay away. If you don't like negativity and somebody is expressing their opinions in an offensive way to you, block the poster, and there's that.
 
If some people are negative by nature, you won't show them the path, that's something they have to find, and maybe being negative is their path. Not everybody is happy all the time. Not everybody has good thoughts all of the time.

And if you really must look at everything in a positive way, think of the negativity as the person "opening up" to the public about how they feel on certain things. If you don't like reading it, don't read it. There's a bunch of happy stuff on here that I'm sure some don't like/don't care about, and some tend to troll it, others stay away. If you don't like negativity and somebody is expressing their opinions in an offensive way to you, block the poster, and there's that.

Leo, no one's asking you to be happy all the time. No one's asking you to be happy even some of the time. You are welcome to be as miserable as you wish for as long as you like. Please sir, if it be your will, go forth and regard the glass not as half full, nor half empty, but as pissed in and made into a dribble cup. I don't care. I'm not trying to make you happy nor show you a way to live your life.

There's a certain point at which name-calling, insults, provocations and unnecessary thread-derails cease to be considered "opening up" and are considered instead fruitless, unnecessary, and beneath one. Generally, that point is called "adulthood". I don't deny that there are many failed adults, and many adults with periodic flaws or lapses in maturity, but I'm not going to promote them. I'm not going to call you any such thing either, nor do I wish this to be even an insinuation, but understand that a good number of people will use the behaviors I've just described as part of their criteria for judging the maturity of others. Defend the merits of provocation therefore, at your own risk.

"If you don't like reading it, don't read it." That's a paradox. I can't unread what is read. If you want me to abide by it, please start a negativity thread, and see to it that all pointlessly negative posts are redirected there, so I have a thread I can easily identify and avoid.

Aside from simple human courtesy, I'm mostly concerned with relevance and the fact that pointlessly negative posts are mostly irrelevant, derail topics, enflame (interfering with the ability of others to conduct civil discussion) and start fights. If those things make you happy, or miserable or whatever it is you've decided is your path, bully for you, but understand that mods actually have to clean up such messes. There are reasons why insults, provocation and thread-derails are widely looked down upon, and mostly because they interfere with communication rather than benefit it.

To paraphrase a kind contributor to this thread:

If some people want to address problems rather than ignore them, you won't show them the path, that's something they have to find, and maybe addressing problems and seeking amelioration is their path. Not everybody is happy ignoring things all the time. Not everybody likes wearing blinders all of the time.

I'm all for using the ignore function if that's what you feel is your path. For some, perhaps that path is useful. But maybe it's not mine. 😉
 
Ah, don't sweat it, man. It's no biggie. I only offered you as an example because you turned around, did the right thing and made a positive contribution. You came back, offered a really good song, and I appreciate it and I thank you. Everyone's got a little something to get off their chest now and then. We all do it. Comes with being human. 🙂

Take care.

Cap 😎

Awesome.
 
The Mods tell us to report infractions. I can see reporting instances of spam. It's like telling the manager at the supermarket that somebody spilled a quart of gravy on the floor in aisle 12. Somebody has to clean it up.

But try as I might, I can't help viewing people who report "offensive behavior" to the mods as....well, the nicest way I can put it is "socially handicapped." They lack the social and/or verbal skills to deal with remarks they find unpalatable, so they take the easy way out and run to the teacher to tattle.

"Waaaaa! Tickler Joe said I was ignorant!"

"Waaaaa! Busty Betty INSULTED me!"

In my opinion, THIS is the crybaby crap that has gotta go. THESE are the social misfits that ought be ignored and offered no reaction whatsoever. The people who post negative comments in threads? Well, they may indeed be rude or assholic, but at least they aren't afraid to operate out in the open, instead of PM'ing the Mods and cowardly attacking people in secret, giving them no opportunity to defend themselves.
 
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In my opinion, THIS is the crybaby crap that has gotta go. THESE are the social misfits that ought be ignored and offered no reaction whatsoever. The people who post negative comments in threads? Well, they may indeed be rude or assholic, but at least they aren't afraid to operate out in the open, instead of PM'ing the Mods and cowardly attacking people in secret, giving them no opportunity to defend themselves.

Gotta' love an iconoclast. 🙂

I was tempted to respond with simply: "Well, that's because you're a dick, Drew", just for fun, but it would've been a derail and I knew you wouldn't bite, because you believe in what you say. Darn you. 😛

For myself, I try to handle people's attacks on me or my post/topic/whathaveyou by myself, though I will gladly report people's needless attacks on others, especially if the insult has nothing else with it which could mark it relevant to the topic.

For instance, were I to call you a dick out of the blue as I suggested above, that's the sort of thing I'd flag for removal.

If someone were to say someone else was ignorant, however, in the context of making an argument relevant to the topic, I'd have to gauge it on how valid the statement was and its salience to the discussion -- maybe there's a point in them doing so.

But I think insults out of the blue with no relevance, no justification offered, nor benefit to the conversation are perfect candidates for removal.

Your rationale is a bit baffling. You say that the people who insult have no opportunity to defend themselves. Well, they had the opportunity to attack, didn't they? If you want to start something, be sure you can finish it, and be ready for whatever counterattack your enemy may have in store -- even if it's the quiet removal of your original weapon. If you shoot someone, don't be surprised when the police take away your gun.

Were I to follow that analogy a bit further, you'd be in favor of the "no snitching" policy that's a favorite among criminals and has made some portions of urban America nigh unliveable, and you'd be praising shooters above the police -- particularly those who have the bravery to do so in front of the police.

Further still, and the continuing insistence that everyone ignore someone else's pointless insults and go about their business rather than reacting is similar to blaming folks for not wearing bulletproof vests so they might better ignore the gunfire.

What of those law-abiding citizens who get shot? They're the weak ones for reporting it?

An over-the-top analogy to be sure, but mostly fitting. But I'd like to give you a chance to help me better see your view and let you offer an analogy that helps me sympathize with the initiator of pointless and topic-irrelevant conflict. Whenever you're ready.


P.S.: Please introduce me to Busty Betty. I can take the occasional insult. 😀
 
Leo, no one's asking you to be happy all the time. No one's asking you to be happy even some of the time. You are welcome to be as miserable as you wish for as long as you like. Please sir, if it be your will, go forth and regard the glass not as half full, nor half empty, but as pissed in and made into a dribble cup. I don't care. I'm not trying to make you happy nor show you a way to live your life.

There's a certain point at which name-calling, insults, provocations and unnecessary thread-derails cease to be considered "opening up" and are considered instead fruitless, unnecessary, and beneath one. Generally, that point is called "adulthood". I don't deny that there are many failed adults, and many adults with periodic flaws or lapses in maturity, but I'm not going to promote them. I'm not going to call you any such thing either, nor do I wish this to be even an insinuation, but understand that a good number of people will use the behaviors I've just described as part of their criteria for judging the maturity of others. Defend the merits of provocation therefore, at your own risk.

"If you don't like reading it, don't read it." That's a paradox. I can't unread what is read. If you want me to abide by it, please start a negativity thread, and see to it that all pointlessly negative posts are redirected there, so I have a thread I can easily identify and avoid.

Aside from simple human courtesy, I'm mostly concerned with relevance and the fact that pointlessly negative posts are mostly irrelevant, derail topics, enflame (interfering with the ability of others to conduct civil discussion) and start fights. If those things make you happy, or miserable or whatever it is you've decided is your path, bully for you, but understand that mods actually have to clean up such messes. There are reasons why insults, provocation and thread-derails are widely looked down upon, and mostly because they interfere with communication rather than benefit it.

To paraphrase a kind contributor to this thread:

If some people want to address problems rather than ignore them, you won't show them the path, that's something they have to find, and maybe addressing problems and seeking amelioration is their path. Not everybody is happy ignoring things all the time. Not everybody likes wearing blinders all of the time.

I'm all for using the ignore function if that's what you feel is your path. For some, perhaps that path is useful. But maybe it's not mine. 😉


Okay, how about this then. If you read more than 6 posts from a poster and they are negative, block the poster, or ignore the posts manually. Good?

If people name call and blatantly insult, click the report button, and the mods will take care of it sooner or later, good?

Any other problems?
 
Okay, how about this then. If you read more than 6 posts from a poster and they are negative, block the poster, or ignore the posts manually. Good?

If people name call and blatantly insult, click the report button, and the mods will take care of it sooner or later, good?

Any other problems?

How about this, instead. If you feel that what you're offering is sound advice, you follow it. And I'll follow my own will and what I believe is best.

Any problems with that?
 
The Mods tell us to report infractions. I can see reporting instances of spam. It's like telling the manager at the supermarket that somebody spilled a quart of gravy on the floor in aisle 12. Somebody has to clean it up.

But try as I might, I can't help viewing people who report "offensive behavior" to the mods as....well, the nicest way I can put it is "socially handicapped." They lack the social and/or verbal skills to deal with remarks they find unpalatable, so they take the easy way out and run to the teacher to tattle.

"Waaaaa! Tickler Joe said I was ignorant!"

"Waaaaa! Busty Betty INSULTED me!"

In my opinion, THIS is the crybaby crap that has gotta go. THESE are the social misfits that ought be ignored and offered no reaction whatsoever. The people who post negative comments in threads? Well, they may indeed be rude or assholic, but at least they aren't afraid to operate out in the open, instead of PM'ing the Mods and cowardly attacking people in secret, giving them no opportunity to defend themselves.

I`d like to meet this Busty Betty you speak of, drew. She sounds like quite a dish.:woot:
 
Gotta' love an iconoclast. 🙂

I was tempted to respond with simply: "Well, that's because you're a dick, Drew", just for fun, but it would've been a derail and I knew you wouldn't bite, because you believe in what you say. Darn you. 😛
Having partied with you in person, I would have seen right through your mock insult, and laughed along with you. 😀

For myself, I try to handle people's attacks on me or my post/topic/whathaveyou by myself, though I will gladly report people's needless attacks on others, especially if the insult has nothing else with it which could mark it relevant to the topic.
The insult you may regard as needless, somebody else might look at with relief and say, "It's about time somebody stood up to that prick." By reporting such things, what you are supporting is a policy of censorship, and the repression of free speech. If you're okay with that, then there's little to discuss.

Your rationale is a bit baffling. You say that the people who insult have no opportunity to defend themselves. Well, they had the opportunity to attack, didn't they? If you want to start something, be sure you can finish it, and be ready for whatever counterattack your enemy may have in store -- even if it's the quiet removal of your original weapon. If you shoot someone, don't be surprised when the police take away your gun.
I confess to being equally baffled by your rationale, Cap. Do you seriously equate unpalatable comments on a computer screen with bullets that can maim and kill? I think a more apt analogy would be, if you offer unflattering remarks, don't be surprised if the police come and remove your tongue.

Were I to follow that analogy a bit further, you'd be in favor of the "no snitching" policy that's a favorite among criminals and has made some portions of urban America nigh unliveable, and you'd be praising shooters above the police -- particularly those who have the bravery to do so in front of the police.

Further still, and the continuing insistence that everyone ignore someone else's pointless insults and go about their business rather than reacting is similar to blaming folks for not wearing bulletproof vests so they might better ignore the gunfire.

What of those law-abiding citizens who get shot? They're the weak ones for reporting it?

An over-the-top analogy to be sure, but mostly fitting.
It's only fitting if you equate verbal abuse with physical violence, and perhaps you do, and if so, that's certainly your right. I can't, however. That kind of "logic" conjures up pictures of debate teams showing up with AK-47 assault rifles. Comedians like Jay Leno would be jailed for serial assault, and many politicians on the both sides of the aisle would be convicted for attempted presidential assasination. I simply can't equate the expressing of ideas via printed words, even insulting ones, as in any way tantamount to a physical assault.

But I'd like to give you a chance to help me better see your view and let you offer an analogy that helps me sympathize with the initiator of pointless and topic-irrelevant conflict. Whenever you're ready.
Why, I'm more than happy to oblidge.

How about the analogy of a repressive government who forbids the townspeople from expressing certain ideas. They encourage "law-abiding" citizens to report any conversations that violate acceptable protocol, often resulting in the sudden disappearance of long-time citizens simply because of something they said to another citizens.

Another analogy I've used in the past to highlight the nebulocity of the TMF's censorship policies is likening the TMF to a large kennel yard in which dogs play, interact, roam around, and yes, take a piss here and there. Initially, the yard has a clearly visible chain link fence, allowing the dogs to explore the boundaries of acceptable behavior without crossing them. But the kennel administraters take a dim view of dogs who play anywhere near the fence. So they tear down the chain link fence and opt instead for an invisible electric fence, deliberately making the boundaries unclear, in an effort to thwart such "fence walkers."

Now the dogs can only tell they've violated the boundaries by receiving punishment for doing so. Still, through trial and error, they figure out where the boundaries are and can once again explore the limits of acceptable behavior without crossing the line and getting burned. The kennel administrators are frustrated, because in their minds the dogs ought to be nowhere near the fence. So they begin randomly moving the borders of the electric fence. What was cool one day might result in a zap the next. By deliberate means of confusion and obfuscation, the kennel admins have intimidated the dogs through fear into playing only in the center of the yard.

Granted, that last analogy deals more with TMF protocol than tattle-tale crybabies, but it's all inter-related.
 
Having partied with you in person, I would have seen right through your mock insult, and laughed along with you. 😀

Glad you know me that well, friend. 🙂



The insult you may regard as needless, somebody else might look at with relief and say, "It's about time somebody stood up to that prick." By reporting such things, what you are supporting is a policy of censorship, and the repression of free speech. If you're okay with that, then there's little to discuss.

True enough. And my beliefs in free speech and the role of censorship are not cut and dry, but recognize the importance of context. I'm all for the ability to protest, and being allowed to do so in places and ways that you have the opportunity to convey your message. I believe people have a right to protest things they believe are not right or unfair.

At the same time, I believe when I go to a movie that I have the right to hear the music and dialogue with a minimum of interference from the other patrons. If I have some random bunch of hooligans behind me shouting about this or that, loudly cracking jokes, generally making a ruckus that disrupts my ability to hear the movie, and when people try to shush them so that they can hear the movie, the hooligans respond with insults and curses, I believe I have the right to inform management, and that if management fails to quiet them under threat of removal, that I am entitled to a refund, because it is impossible to have the movie conveyed in such an environment. Under those circumstances, I am a supporter of censorship, because the hooligan's actions disrupts communication rather than benefits it.

Seeing your response below, perhaps I should have used the theater as my analogy...



I confess to being equally baffled by your rationale, Cap. Do you seriously equate unpalatable comments on a computer screen with bullets that can maim and kill? I think a more apt analogy would be, if you offer unflattering remarks, don't be surprised if the police come and remove your tongue.

It's only fitting if you equate verbal abuse with physical violence, and perhaps you do, and if so, that's certainly your right. I can't, however. That kind of "logic" conjures up pictures of debate teams showing up with AK-47 assault rifles. Comedians like Jay Leno would be jailed for serial assault, and many politicians on the both sides of the aisle would be convicted for attempted presidential assasination. I simply can't equate the expressing of ideas via printed words, even insulting ones, as in any way tantamount to a physical assault.

I can see where you might confuse this. My comparison was one equating only the nature of interaction in each case (aggressor = aggressor, censor = police, etc.), and you thought I was trying to equate severity of action and weight of repercussions (verbal insult = physical injury, words = bullets, etc.).

No. I thought I'd clarified the matter enough by identifying the analogy myself as "over-the-top", but perhaps not. Sorry about that. Now you know otherwise. Please adjust assessments accordingly.



Why, I'm more than happy to oblidge.

How about the analogy of a repressive government who forbids the townspeople from expressing certain ideas. They encourage "law-abiding" citizens to report any conversations that violate acceptable protocol, often resulting in the sudden disappearance of long-time citizens simply because of something they said to another citizens.

Playing with the same way your interpretation mistook my analogy, surely you're not suggesting the stuff that goes on in this internet message board is tantamount to the atrocities surrounding "los desaparecidos" of Argentina's "Dirty War", are you? 😉

I understand the analogy and recognize that whenever you begin censorship, you step onto at very least a mildly slippery slope of what speech is acceptable and under what conditions.

At the same time, to use our example from before, I don't believe society is missing out on much if a message that "Drew is a dick" is removed from the public square. It's much like cleaning up grafitti...

Tags are essentially spam. Removing them is no great loss.

Further, a message that "Busty Betty is a *****"*, absent a relevant context, offers really nothing worthwhile. (Now, it could be argued that a similar message like, "Bill Clinton is a wad" might have value as a political message, and so shouldn't be removed -- and such an argument has merit -- but that sort of message would have meaning and relevance (in the proper context) and would be therefore outside the parameters of the type of pointless conflict-laden speech this thread has been addressing all this time.)

Take the time to craft your message -- give it some meaning, give it some art, give it some substance and thought that resonates beyond you -- and more people will see value in it, and be loathe to tear it down, even if it is just graffiti:

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Make a mural of considerate and civil thoughts and words first...

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...and when that's torn down, I'll be the first to stand with you in protest.

But I'm sorry, you'll have a tough time getting me aboard the defense of someone's right to call someone else crazy, stupid, or a douchebag out of the blue, and then demand the insult stay there because removing it infringes on the insulter's "rights". Citing discrimination or some other double standard in the way such things are handled may win you some support, but you'll not find me defending unprovoked, unnecessary and irrelevant insults.


I think I'll eschew your last analogy and just keep to the meat of what we've been talking about -- specifically the actions of the posters, and the problems of irrelevant, unnecessarily provocative and negative posts -- rather than redirect focus to actions of moderators.



* To Busty Betty, wherever you are: Please know that I mean you no offense, would never say such a thing about you, and am only using your name as a hypothetical example for debate. 😉 LOL!
 
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I know. Spooky when we get going, aren't we? 😀

Here's the deal. This thread started by channelling what is a pretty common sentiment around here. People tire of unnecessary hit-and-run insults, thread derails, and other irrelevant crap that interfere with a discussion rather than add to it.

You might or might not have noticed that I haven't told anyone to do anything any particular way. I have told one under what circumstances I would consider his protest of censorship valid and where I would support him; I've delineated between forms of expression, and explained that I value topic-relevant material above irrelevant, needlessly inflammatory material; and hopefully I've encouraged decisions toward the former and away from the latter. And, when you told me what I should do with a post that began, "Okay, how about this then..." I reflected your style back to you, but instead of reflecting your structure and telling you to do what I think you should do, I told you to follow what you think is right and I'll do the same for me.

If our opinions are not your own, that's fine, I celebrate diversity. But I think it's hard to find fault in recognizing that there are people here to enjoy the website other than yourself. I also think it's hard to find fault in articulating something -- anything -- relevant, rather than slurring an unprovoked insult.

I honestly don't know why anyone would fight so hard for the latter unless they thought it was the height of their expression -- but I know there's more to you than that, Leo. You're thoughtful. You've shown that here.

There's so much talk about rights and who has the rights to do what... The discussion about responsibilities often gets left out...

Let me ask those who want the right to insult, curse-out, thread-derail, and have these messages stay so that those pansy-ass recipients of the insults or those lamewads who're actually trying to have a conversation have to stand there and take it or fight back without moderator's assistance... Let me ask you -- do you have any responsibilities? Seeing as how you're part of a community of sorts, have you any responsibility to the community, the public, or the mutual freedom of public discourse, or do you only have individual rights?

Think on it, and get back to me.
 
There's so much talk about rights and who has the rights to do what... The discussion about responsibilities often gets left out...


You hit the nail on the head cap,not just on the forum but about life in general...
 
Responsibilities? I don't owe this community anything. It's a public forum for tickling, and while I appreciate somebody paying for it so we can use it, the only different between this forum and another, is the people, and the forum theme itself. This forum's theme is tickling, and the only reason I'm here is to jack off to preview clips, and post once in a while because I like some threads. Others are just funny, like this one.


When I turn the light off at night, I don't think over if the TMF likes me. I think over if I said everything the way I felt it that day, and in this thread, I have. People are complaining about other people being rude and derailing topics. Report it. You aren't going to start an Internet revolution by bringing to light what is obvious in almost every forum, pollution, corruption, and people who think it's all about them. In most cases on this forum, the people who DO do that, have reason to think it's all about them. Look into it.


The people who complain about life, well, they get support 99% of the time. If they didn't, they'd go cry on another forum.

The bottom line is that people will bitch, flame, troll, whatever else, until somebody does something about it. Creating a thread does nothing but give them the attention they want.
 
Responsibilities? I don't owe this community anything.

Hm. Cultural difference, maybe. When and where I grew up, responsibility wasn't something we thought of as owed to someone or something. We didn't think of it in the terms of a painful burden held under penalty of guilt. You just had it by default, like respect, decency and courtesy. Most would only revoke these things after a significant breach of trust or decency by another.

But you believe you have no responsibilities here? Okay. Thanks for that.



It's a public forum for tickling, and while I appreciate somebody paying for it so we can use it, the only different between this forum and another, is the people, and the forum theme itself. This forum's theme is tickling, and the only reason I'm here is to jack off to preview clips, and post once in a while because I like some threads. Others are just funny, like this one.

And that's great. I'm happy I'm here to be part of your entertainment experience. Just kindly don't confuse me with your other purposes and start jacking off to me. ...well, wait -- you have no responsibilities... Okay... >Sigh.< Jack off to me if you must, but please consider cleaning up after... It's just hygienically sound to do so. 🙂



When I turn the light off at night, I don't think over if the TMF likes me. I think over if I said everything the way I felt it that day, and in this thread, I have.

Good! 🙂 I support that wholeheartedly.



People are complaining about other people being rude and derailing topics. Report it.

Maybe this was overlooked. It's not like we don't do this already. But we are not limited to only that avenue of action. We can encourage the open not to spread negativity when they're feeling that way. There are better, more constructive, more mature ways to redirect their feelings than name-calling and insults. Here's hoping they realize that.



You aren't going to start an Internet revolution by bringing to light what is obvious in almost every forum, pollution, corruption,

Not trying to. Trying to make the current environment in which I post and read a little bit nicer. That's all.



and people who think it's all about them. In most cases on this forum, the people who DO do that, have reason to think it's all about them. Look into it.

"Hmm... Your ideas are intriguing to me and I wish to subscribe to your newsletter." -- Homer Simpson 😀

But I don't think it's characteristic of most cases, though I suppose I could be wrong. Maybe a couple of habitual offenders do have "reason to think it's all about them", but I suspect the bulk of offenses overall are just your general regulars, who sometimes get in a bad mood. It happens. So why not encourage them to rethink that negative post before they submit it?



The people who complain about life, well, they get support 99% of the time. If they didn't, they'd go cry on another forum.

I don't have much of a problem with them. Often, they create their own threads and you can look at it or pass over it. You never even need step onto the thread. Many people have a genuine experience that they want to express here. They're certainly welcome to do so. But sometimes people just crave sympathy. Some crave it more than others. Most often start their own threads. Also not a big deal to me. They're not being disrespectful or disruptive to other conversations.



The bottom line is that people will bitch, flame, troll, whatever else, until somebody does something about it. Creating a thread does nothing but give them the attention they want.

I've said before I don't believe there are supervillain trolls out there who would respond to this thread by saying: "Someone is talking about negative posts! That feels so good!" Trolls or people who engage in the behavior periodically, as you said, "think it's all about them". Unless you're responding to them directly, alluding to them individually in a specific way, or calling them by name, I don't suspect they receive much, if any reward, from this thread.
 
Cap, if the insulting and GR Violations were a simple matter of cleaning up the "You're a dick" or "fuck you, asshole!" comments, then I might support the censorship policies. But it's way more complicated then that. What if Busty Betsy gives an opinion and Tickler Joe responds with "Wow, the last time I heard an argument that sophisticated was on the Flinstones :blaugh:"? It's unflattering, somewhat demeaning, but there was no name calling, no expletives. Would you flag such a comment for deletion? More important, would you go tattling to the mods about it?

As for responsibility, I'm not sure how it applies, but I have responsibilities to pay my bills, show up to work, drive safely, etc.

As for rights, well they are distributed or denied at the whim of the administrators. It's their forum, after all.
 
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