I refer to the subtly communicated dominant-submissive arrangement of some but not all or even many relationships. And when a male tickler hooks up with a girl who submits to the tickling because he enjoys doing it to her, it's gold.
As far as I can see, the type of woman the OP was referring to was a VANILLA person who just plain hated to be tickled, and plenty of those do exist. If you are referring to a relationship with a D/s dynamic, that relationship can't really be labeled vanilla, even if the dynamic is subtle. For a woman who dislikes tickling to submit to it in this context, she is still getting a rush from it, from the act of submitting, even though she doesn't "get off" on it in the way most of the members of this site do.
Also, back to the more vanilla realm, it isn't uncommon, especially in the early days of a relationship, for people to do something to please a partner that they don't particularly enjoy, probably because they don't see long term potential, and/or think the activity will be "just the once". Nor is it unusual for people to "trade kinks"- i.e. I'll do yours if you do mine.
But as many others have said already- it's not an ideal situation, to have to do things you dislike, on all levels, in the context of a relationship. How long can this last? How long before resentment sets in? Trust me, OP, if noncon is your thing, there are PLENTY of folks who have a love/hate relationship with their fetish, and will quite honestly dislike it and resist you, but still enjoy it at the same time.
Thanks for your response.
If I had enough time to sift through thousands of someone's comments only to prove I didn't understand what he said in the first place, there would be proof someone actually wins these millionaire lotteries we read about in the newspapers! What numbers did you play?
If one were curious about which gatherings a person had attended, say, NEST, as it's the largest one and the closest to NJ, all that's needed is a 10-second search of the forums. In this case, a search for Post by: Em Es: and Keyword: NEST. for all posts on that topic. These search terms returned only 15 posts out of more than 3000 you've found the time to make on the TMF, and the quoted post was the most recent, so no time-consuming search is necessary.
There are girls you have fun with and girls you marry. Would be nice if they could be the same woman, but how haven't you ever wrongly predicted how a relationship would go?
Fair enough. We all make incorrect predictions: I did, with an old BF. Things he had said early on led me to believe that he was a bit kinky, or at least kink-friendly, but when it came down to it, he wasn't, or just couldn't be bothered. This is one of several reasons he's an ex now.
But sometimes the one you have fun with and the one you marry IS the same person, and for me, I couldn't have it any other way. 6 years together including 4 years married (and counting) and before you say that isn't a terribly long relationship, bear in mind that I'm 28, so it is quite an appreciable portion of my adult life.
And as far as tickling goes, I'm a "convert".
