21 and still living with my parents at home

[vampirecult]

Do you think this makes me some what of a loser and a loner with me still living with both my parents at home?

the only reason why i'm not out on my own is because personally i'm not ready to be out on my own yet money wise housing wise etc.... i feel that i would really struggle out there in the real world. 🙁 since i've been faced with a big time learning disability all the way through my life. but i dunno though

let me hear your thoughts about this. feel free to rant and rave weather you approve or disapprove with me still living with both my parents at my age of 21 years old



would you be comfortable doing this yourself?

 

[Oddjob0226]

You're doing what you need to be doing to get through life. That's not loser-ism. Now my 36 year old divorced pal who lost his job, couldn't pay off his credit cards yet went on Ebay and bought a $200 replica Captain America shield and is now back living at his parent's house while returning to college to get the bachelor's degree he started back in '86.... well, that's another issue entirely.

How do you buy a replica of something that isn't real to begin with?

Why worry about what other people think. It's like the famous saying: two's company, three will wake the neighbors.

 

[vampirecult]

You're doing what you need to be done go get through life. That's not loser-ism. Now my 36 year old divorced pal who lost his job, couldn't pay off his credit cards yet went on Ebay and bought a $200 replica Captain America shield and is now back living at his parent's house while returning to college to get the bachelor's degree he started back in '86.... well, that's another issue entirely.

How do you buy a replica of something that isn't real to begin with?

Why worry about what other people think. It's like the famous saying: two's company, three will wake the neighbors.

Thank you Oddjob thanks for your mighty wisdom of advice 😛 🙂

 

[Oddjob0226]

YW, despite my mispellings. I really should proof read more.

When you're ready, it'll happen. Until then, you're establishing yourself and being becomeing better prepared. Better prepared than MANY who journeyed out too soon.

True, some people might think you're a loser, but what of them? What are they doing to advance your life any? Poiting and laughing, and that's all they have to offer? You're on YOU'RE schedule, and better preparation now will enable you to be a better success later. We all move forward on different timetables. You're doing not a thing wrong.

 

[Edge]

There's no set age that makes you a loser. Most people I know, who went to college, thought they'd move out from that point when they were 22-24, and most couldn't afford it, with school loans, car insurance etc...and so they moved back home. Once you have the $ and your life is organized, then you try to move out.

 

[The Pianist]

Myself, I am almost 21 and am still living at home. In my circumstance, I get along great with my family and live quite close to my university and have almost all the freedom, space and support I could want.

Sure there would be benifits to living away from home, but in my current situation, it would be quite hard to find a living situation that actually benifited me more than it made life harder and more expensive. When I finish uni, yeah, then I'll probably move, but until then I have no particular reason to.

In my opinion though, it is not whether you still live at home, are still a virgin, don't have a BWM or what ever at whatever age you like to mention that makes you a loser... instead, its whether you consider those superficial things to be an intergral part of who you are or not.

Personally, who I am is totally independant of where I live.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Unfortunately, this isn't an aberration anymore. It's a disturbing symptom of the current economic trend. It seems to happen whenever the economy goes south.

Oddjob, your friend that you've described sounds priceless. He's got me ROFLing quietly on this Sunday morning.

 

[Oddjob0226]

Oddjob, your friend that you've described sounds priceless. He's got me ROFLing quietly on this Sunday morning.

Oh yeah! This is the same boy I discuss in the Oscar Host thread:

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=55708

I have YEARS of stories. The same month he got the shield, he also had a Green Lantern ring made for him, with an uncut emerald in the center. He took me to see Margaret Cho at the Improv & bought my dinner (I told him I couldn't go because I was trying to watch MY finances.....). He saw 2 or 3 movies and bought the Marx Brothers collection on DVD. And soon, he had to move.... and time passes.

Last year right after getting fired he took $18,000 of his $20,000 401K and paid off all his credit cards, which is something I recommended he do the year earlier when he still had a job and his debts only would have been about $15,000. I had some paintings in an art show and he bought them. I was touched and flattered, and, knowing about his bad financial straits, I sent him an e-mail that night asking him to contact the gallery and reneg on the deal since it was money he couldn't afford to spend. Costing me my $$ commission and possible self-promotion for myself with the gallery when they lose their sale since no one else can buy them when they've been marked as bought - and all this while I'm getting laid off from work myself, just looking out for him, that's the kind of guy I am.

I don't hear from him for a month and I'm thinking I insulted him by watching his back, pointing out his troubles in a constructive way. So he doesn't buy my paintings. His money does NOT go to my art. He does, however, go to the two day A-Kon Japanese Animation convention, and I just shook my head for about 3 weeks.

 

[ticklkitten]

Hey vampire... do what you gotta do. I moved out of my Dad's house when I was 17 and went to a college as far away as I possibly could and still be in the same state (which was a whopping 550 miles). I wouldn't give up those experiences for the world but I was SO not ready. You're a step ahead of me by making sure you know what you can handle.... best of luck.

 

[steph]

Well, at age 17, Elvis ran screaming from the building (thanks to an early graduation and a scholarship at BC)and never looked back. If my parents had been normal, loving people, I'd have stayed home as long as I could.
XOXO

 

[ticklkitten]

Well, at age 17, Elvis ran screaming from the building (thanks to an early graduation and an scholarship at BC)and never looked back. If my parents had been normal, loving people, I'd have stayed home as long as I could.
XOXO

I was in the same boat as you steph, WAY abnormal family, early graduation and a scholarship. If vampire has a good relationship with his family I think he is making the right decision by staying at home until he is financially ready to move.

ALTHOUGH, some day you do have to make the leap and it is scary as hell when you realize that you don't have anyone to bail you out when you get into trouble. But it's gotta be done...

 

[Barlow]

Hey Vampire, I think that the issue is between you and your parents and you shouldn't worry what other people think. I'm 30 and live more than a thousand miles away from my parents, so you may want to enjoy spending time with them while you can.

My two cents,

Barlow

 

[phfttklr]

Hey Vampire,

You have to do what's right for you. Don't let other peoples lives dictate how you should run yours. I waited until I had enough money to buy my house at 26. I watched all my friends go from one apartment to another and back and forth from home. I always wished I had moved out but in the long run I had a house and they still were in apts. - not that that's a bad thing, but an advantage to own. Now I'm selling and can make $100,000.

I don't know where you live but let me tell you - and others in NY will agree- it's getting very hard to buy property anymore if you are even remotely near NYC.

You'll find out, the older you get, that 21 is still young and probably won't be fully mature until late 20's. It's not the same for everyone and some mature younger, some older - lol - but for the most part it's about then. It's time and experiences that make people wiser. Ask anyone on the board that's over mid 30's and they'll tell you.

Think about #1 right now and I guarentee a good 15 yrs from now, you'll look back and understand.

Hope we all helped in some way.

 

[unclebill]

Vampire, do not worry about moving out of the house at age 21. You are showing good judgement by staying home. Rent is high, and utilities seem to go up every year. And lets not forget paying for 3 meals a day when you are out on your own. Take your time, get established in a career. If college is not your thing look into the building trades. They are always looking for young kids that want to learn a trade. Once you have that down, then you can start looking for the swinging bachelor pad you desire...😎

 

[Wicker Man]

Not everyone has to live life the exact same way. If you want to stay at home with your parents then stay...if you dont then get a job and move. Its as simple as that VC. 😉

 

[vampirecult]

Thanks for everybody that read and replyed to my post. it means alot. so just thanks for all the advice and helpful and kind words 🙂

 

[The Sean Man]

Living at home is bad? Ahhh yes.....

....yet another false belief they try to pound into people's heads. Oh, and don't forget, you're not considered "mature" until you've graduated college, gotten married, bought a house, and have kids. Oh yeah? Well.....


BITE MY IMMATURE ASS!


VC, do what makes you happy. That's all that's REALLY important in life😀


The Sean Man