A lurker coming out of the cold

[TicklishTony]

I've been following the tickling forum - and other tickling sites - for many years, but only now am signing in. I didn't want to do anything that would seem unfaithful to my wife. She does tickle me, very effectively - it's part of our married life - but doesn't really understand it, especially the tying me up part, or teasing banter. Back when we were dating (30 years ago) I first brought it up, and she said if I ever came across a "tickling bar" (not that I knew of any) I should go. I mentioned this recently, saying I imagined that wouldn't work now that we were married, but to my surprise she said, "no, you should do it," as long as no nudity or sex is involved. So I'm actually thinking about coming to NEST. But I do want to be sure that I don't have to worry about those limits being crossed. Especially if I were to sign up for one of the kidnapping scenarios (which look like a fantasy come true). Should I be concerned? Thanks for your thoughts!

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

Your wife sounds very reasonable, a rare treasure to be sure. I don't know about NEST but I'm sure there are others who can better answer that question.

 

[milagros317]

Congratulations on delurking and joining the posting members of the TMF!

All play at NEST is consensual and nobody will violate your boundaries.

If you sign up for kidnapping, you will fill out an elaborate form which lets you state exactly what kind of activity should follow.

Come to NEST and have fun!

 

[Tickleminx]

Congratulations on delurking. 🙂

If you sign up for kidnapping, you will fill out an elaborate form which lets you state exactly what kind of activity should follow.

Really??? How does this work?

 

[milagros317]

Congratulations on delurking. 🙂



Really??? How does this work?

Many more people want to be kidnapped than can be accommodated. So, if you're lucky enough to be chosen, they will act out your scenario some time during the weekend of NEST. You fill out the online form only if you want to do so. 😀

 

[Soda Bobinski]

At any rate , TicklishTony , congrats on delurking & cozying up to the TMF fire.

Good luck on getting 'kidnapped' & I hope stuff works out for ya.

 

[TropicThunder]

Congrats on de-lurking. Hope to see you at NEST.

 

[TicklishTony]

Thank you all for your thoughts and your welcome!

 

[pfromptown]

I'd say the specifics of the limits depend on your wife really, and you should explain to her what NEST is (if possible) and ask if she would be cool with it.

 

[gigglemakr]

Everything is consensual at NEST. You can choose, or not choose, to participate in any activity. You can choose to be an observer only. No one will pressure you to do anything. You will, however, meet a good number of like-minded people some of whom will become friends or yours and all of whom will welcome you to the event and be glad you're there. My friend Milagros has it right.

 

[BlackestLily]

Welcome to the forum!

If you have an interest in attending a gathering, I encourage you to go. Everything is consensual/permission based, and your limits will be what you establish with play partners you may find. In my opinion you have nothing to worry about. 🙂

 

[BMoreTklr]

Welcome and kudos on de-lurking. I did the same last year around this time in preparation for attending my first NEST. And 500+ posts later, I'm still here. What everyone has said about NEST is true. You should be fine.......bring the wife........she'll have fun too, and may even grow to understand the tickling fetish through speaking with other there who share that same interest.

 

[sporelord]

Congratulations on de-lurking! It can be quite a daunting leap, but you'll never look back!

 

[TickleRelish]

Welcome. Glad you decided to come in out of the cold.