Advice before visiting a domme?

[MaleTickleeDC]

Okay, so as I've mentioned before, being a 33 year old single guy, I don't exactly have girls leapfrogging over each other in order to tickle me. So I'm thinking about visiting a domme to see what the experience is like. I've found one in my area who engages in fetish play and seems to be cute and reasonably priced. Her website seems legit as well.

I am kind of nervous, because I've never visited a domme before, and I really haven't been tied before either. I had a couple of long-term relationships in my 20s where I never came out to my gf's, but they sort of figured out on their own that I liked tickling, and so they would tickle me because they knew I enjoyed it. Because I never came out to them though they never tied me down, so I have no idea what my endurance level will be. Do most dommes use safewords?

Also, I know this may be a silly question, but are dommes engaging in a legal activity? I've always been more of a "live within the bounds of the law" sort of person, and the idea of being arrested for the first time in my life because the place I go just happens to be raided while I'm there is a bit much. I see talk about dungeons all the time on here, so it seems like this stuff is legal, or at least law enforcement doesn't seem to care about it. Anyone have any info on this?

Anyway, general tips and advice about how to approach this situation would be appreciated. I haven't even contacted her yet so I'm basically starting from scratch here. Thanks in advance.

 

[Mehcookie]

If she engages in fetish and foreplay. You should be prepared for any thing erotic, not just tickling. Other things could come with it, such as paddling and other extreme sex play (which I still find erotic myself). It always depends on the Domme.

 

[TropicThunder]

A good Domme will negotiate the scene with you, and you can establish a safeword.

You also establish boundaries then and there too. If you don't want any other type of fetish play, you simply state so. If she is a professional, she WILL respect your limits. Communication is the key. Just be sure to discuss any issues you may have.

 

[milagros317]

The most important thing is communication. The Domme should know both your safeword and your slowword. Laws vary from state to state. Cover your ass by telling th Domme that you seek no illegal services. Put her tribute in a plain unmarked envelope and hand it to her to put away when you arrive. If any cops shoud show up, tell them you are two consenting adults who like to have fuun and want their privacy. Have fun!

 

[MasterPaladin]

In NYC in order for it to be illegal there has to be a paid sexual favor involved if it's just tickling your safe. Most places usually state they are not full service lol this means no sex so police don't bother with them.
As far as a safeword it's usually Red at least in all the places I've been lol and yes I am a retired Police Officer.

 

[Em Es]

I don't get why a guy wanting sex would see a dominatrix instead of a call girl

Leaving aside how absurd it is that prostitution is illegal . . .

I'm not saying this is the intention of MaleTickleeDC but I don't get why a guy willing to pay for sex would see a dominatrix instead of a call girl. Of course, considering how beautiful most mistresses are and how a tickling session is the kind of dungeon activity that would arouse a man, it's doubtful a fellow would refuse wrapping up the session by making love with the domme, if she's willing. But if he paid her for the domination and the sex is free, then it's all legal, right?

I remember an m/f tickling session I had with a dominatrix where she asked me to get her bottle of water, which she'd left next to her purse. (Why didn't she get it herself? She was cuffed to the bondage bed!) As I picked up the bottle I noticed her purse was open with her condoms in plain sight. For a split second I thought, "Is this a hint?" If that was her way of leaving the ball in my court, I'll never know because I said nothing and she certainly made no move once I uncuffed her. (This domme left the dungeon game before I could get back to see her again.) In hindsight all I can figure was, at best, she'd have let me have her for a separate fee, because if you saw this girl and saw me, you'd know there's no way on God's green earth I would have been that hot little number's type. And if you knew the kind of money I earn, you'd know I would not have had the kind of dough she'd have wanted to bake a cake with me!

 

[MasterPaladin]

the police need a whole lot of dialog to get enough to arrest a john or a pros. in your case had you have asked her , do you want me to use one of these and she said yes there is nothing you could have done even if you were a cop. to lock up a pros she has to name a price tell you what she is going to do and in that she has to make it clear she is doing it for money then if you were a cop you would be able to lock her up. as the cop you cannot say any of this or it's entrapment prostitution is a very hard crime to make an arrest on especially if the prostitute is professional about it.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

I'm not saying this is the intention of MaleTickleeDC but I don't get why a guy willing to pay for sex would see a dominatrix instead of a call girl.

These are good questions. As you noted, I doubt any guy who gets turned on by tickling is going to refuse sex, or at least a happy ending, after the session is over. Would a call girl even be open to fetish play though?

Given that I have pretty much no experience with dommes, I have no idea how often sex or some kind of "release" occurs post-session, presumably not for the money. But you're right that it would be awfully frustrating to leave without it.

 

[milagros317]

But you're right that it would be awfully frustrating to leave without it.

Really, it's no more frustrating than leaving the cinema after seeing a very erotic film that gave you an erection.

 

[wiz314]

DON'T MARRY HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[porcelaindoll2]

I have noticed on most dungeon and mistress sites that there is usually a no sex policy. Once the penis gets involved it turns into prostitution and most don't want a mix up with the law. I'm not saying that all mistresses have a no sexual acts policy. You could ask her, but I am not sure if that would be a wise idea. Does her website have any rules on it?

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

I have noticed on most dungeon and mistress sites that there is usually a no sex policy. Once the penis gets involved it turns into prostitution and most don't want a mix up with the law. I'm not saying that all mistresses have a no sexual acts policy. You could ask her, but I am not sure if that would be a wise idea. Does her website have any rules on it?

I get the impression after looking at her website that she is indeed afraid of penises getting involved. LOL.

 

[spike246]

I have visited many doms to indulge in foot worship and being tickled. I have been with some doms who have tied me to a rack and tickled me in which I was so ticklish that it was excruciating and they were really into it. I have run into others that just didnt have the touch and were bad ticklers. I usually stick with the ones who are good at it. Also I have never met any that were real ticklish on their feet which was frustrating.

 

[usgrant]

If she is taller then you, she is probably a guy.

 

[The Last Laugh]

Of course, considering how beautiful most mistresses are and how a tickling session is the kind of dungeon activity that would arouse a man, it's doubtful a fellow would refuse wrapping up the session by making love with the domme, if she's willing.

Speak for yourself. I personally wouldn't want that.

Then again, I wouldn't to do a session with a domme in the first place. Or call girl for that matter.