Advice

[Wisdomoflife]

Hello all,

I have been with my boyfriend for several several months and we are great together. I enjoy tickling him though he really enjoys tickling me. Here is the thing... it seems that ticking his is main stress release, stimulation, and bonding activity all in one. He is romantic and we do other things together, a lot of other things, but for the most part Tickling is his primary focus daily, hourly.

I love it; however, I would like to open him onto other activities which hopefully would give him more outlets and round out our relationship.

I am looking for advice from someone who has been in my boyfriend's position and might be able to give some insight.

Trust me, tickling will still be at the top... but any insight anyone has would be great.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Hmmm...that doesn't really sound all that good to be honest. Tickling, I believe, or whatever you're into, should be part of the relationship, not ALL of it.

Assuming you know that already since you've tried/are trying to get him to branch out a little, the most you can really do is really sit him down and try explaining how you feel. Also, listen to him and try and understand where he's coming from. Maybe reach a compromise.

Or, force him to do something else. Cut him off - make him give a little before he takes. No tickling unless he makes you a picnic or something. 😛

Focusing on just one aspect in a relationship means missing out on everything else that makes every facet of a good relationship great.

 

[love feet]

Hello all,

I have been with my boyfriend for several several months and we are great together. I enjoy tickling him though he really enjoys tickling me. Here is the thing... it seems that ticking his is main stress release, stimulation, and bonding activity all in one. He is romantic and we do other things together, a lot of other things, but for the most part Tickling is his primary focus daily, hourly.

I love it; however, I would like to open him onto other activities which hopefully would give him more outlets and round out our relationship.

I am looking for advice from someone who has been in my boyfriend's position and might be able to give some insight.

Trust me, tickling will still be at the top... but any insight anyone has would be great.

Are you his first girlfriend he has be able to tickle?
If you are than he may be making up for lost time if not he may see you as toy & not a good gf .
If he can see you for the person that you are that is Good if not that is bad!!!!
I don't have a girlfriend but if i did would love the person & tickle the hell out of her all of the time but love her as i am doing it!!!

 

[Adam]

I'd have a sit-down chat with him. Tell him that you love the tickling, as you stated, but would like to tone it down a bit and try other outlets on occasion. If he truly loves and respects you, he'll listen. If not, then he's probably not the right guy for you. Please understand that's just how I see it. I wish you both well.

 

[Wisdomoflife]

Thank you all for writing.

I think I can take this advice and totally make it work. He is completely a keeper, and yes, I think I am the first gf he has had that he can fully explore this with..

Thank you again, I love this forum.

 

[KrazieDog]

You actually worded it very nicely Wisdom and I'd tell him, exactly like that in a heartfelt conversation. Reiterate that you still love it and want to continue the play, but also other stuff too. Good luck to you!

 

[baldadonis]

I think this problem is much easier than having a significant other who never wants to tickle. You already have the tickling aspect of the relationship, so now you just need to get a better dynamic of all around activity. I agree with what everyone else has said. Just make it clear that while you love the tickling, it cannot be the entire focus of the relationship. If he truly cares about you, and it sounds like he does, he should have no problem making this adjustment for you.