Age difference?

[commander]

So I have met two girls through the personals, and have two more nibbling at the latest bait, but they are all more than ten years younger than me - in one case, twenty years. When would you say the age difference is too much to consider in real life?

 

[theticklingmaster]

Age Difference

Dear Commander,

It seems to me that age difference is subjective. Many people will say many different ranges.

I like to keep an 8-year above me limit (I'm not odd, I'm even), & a 20-year old limit under me that will change to a 4-5 year limit under me eventually. (FYI: I am 22) But that's just me.

It all depends on your acceptance, although general consensus seems that anything over 10 years may be a stretch, & old enough to be your parent or young enough to be an offspring is just stretching it even more.

Kevin

 

[TickledToDeath]

Say the older person is.....50 and the younger one.....30. 20 Years difference is not really an issue.
On the other hand...if one person is...40+ and the younger is 19....there may be more an issue of the older seeing the younger as his or her son or daughter.
The 50/30 pairing not as much for the 30 yr old is more into adulthood to be seein as a son or daughter.

60/30?! All depends really on...the shape of the older person. Some 60 year olds look and seem to be much younger and feel as such to visual plays a part as well.

35/16....self explainatory and covers the parent/son/daughter scenario as well.

Everything else is relative and according to personal tastes.

 

[tkrexx]

I was 33 when I met my Wife, who was 21. We married 2 years later. We celebrate a decade of marriage later this month. Trust me, the older you get, the less you look at age as a factor. At times it can't be ignored, as in the late Anna Nicole Smith marrying a billionaire centurion then sexing him to death. True, there are worse fates...

 

[Fire_Sprite]

Well, 20 years younger than me would be a fetus so I'm going to limit my spectrum a bit. Obviously I'm not dating anyone younger than 18 because of the legal ramifications but I wouldn't date someone more than 5 years older than me. There's nothing wrong with the physical appearance of someone 25+ but I couldn't be with someone who's life experience dwarfs my own. Maybe thats just because I'm a guy though.

 

[venray]

My wife is 16 years younger than I am..we met when I was 43 and married 2 years later......


Age means little in relationships....

 

[Iggy pop]

I think it all depends if it is casual encounter or are you looking for a lifetime partner. If it is lifetime partner then I wouldn't advise marrying or getting involved with anybody 20 years older or younger because it can cause problems later. For example a 30 year being involved with 55 year is not bad, but what happens when that 30 year old turns 55. Her partner is then 80 years old. There is huge diffrence between being 55 and 80.

 

[Mistress Aura]

Expert Witness...

Hmmm... it really, really depends on personalities of the people involved. Blessedly, so far I've had quite the opposite effect on men than how Fire Sprite feels...

I seem to have more in common and deal better with people younger than me for the most part. My husband is 21 years younger than me and we've been together for 5 years, married for 4...(Demi Moore's got NUTHIN' on me. LOL 😉)

But he and I are truly the exception to the rule, it seems like--and for what it's worth, society gets very upset with women who dare to marry what they call our "boytoys" and manage to have a really good marriage. (Now that I think of it, all my personal friends are at least 15 years my junior. Heck, my sweet little sub is even younger than that... And for the record, I do NOT see him as my son at all. )

But kids, really--don't try this at home, unless you're willing to not give a sh*t what people are going to think and say about it. If you can't handle that heat, then spare the heart of your potential partner and let it go...

Mistress Aura

 

[Mastertank1]

By actual records in the USA

Marriages in which the wife is ten or more years OLDER than her husband are only half as likely to end in divorce as the "traditional" man older/woman younger unions!
Food for thought.
For me, it's more a matter of intelligence and maturity.
I've always found that in general women of a given age are more emotionally mature than men of the same age.
Personally, I can be a good friend/mentor/non-related uncle to someone under 30, but for a more intimate long term relationship I look for someone over 35 at minimum, and I'm more comfortable with 40 on up.
But tha's jes' me, folkses. Don' mean shee-it to a tree.

 

[maniactickler]

For a serious relationship, id personally keep the age difference reasonably close. for casual relationships or friendships, age means squat. im 41 and id love to go out with an 18 year old.

 

[LindyHopper]

So I have met two girls through the personals, and have two more nibbling at the latest bait, but they are all more than ten years younger than me - in one case, twenty years. When would you say the age difference is too much to consider in real life?

I'd say there's no reason not to consider it. Maybe you'll really hit it off! Or maybe you won't, and one of the reasons might have to do with the age difference. But there's no need to reject anyone out of hand just because they're a bit younger or older than you are. Give them a chance - you might be surprised. 🙂

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

There is a 9 year difference between my wife and I

 

[isabeau]

age is just a number..and it all depends on the person/persons involved..i know someone who is twenty five years younger than myself, but is far more world experienced and learned..age really has nothing to do with it..

TTD you made sense..(for a change, hehe)

 

[milagros317]

When would you say the age difference is too much to consider in real life?

Just among my friends and colleages at work, I have known happily married couples ranging from the woman being 8 year older to the man being 23 years older. If it works for the two adults (both at least 18) involved, then don't worry about what anybody else thinks.

 

[TickledToDeath]

All this reminds me of the Abbott and Costello routine....
Abbott to Costello...........
"Say you're 45 and the girl is 15. You're three times older than she is.
In 15 years, you'll be 60 and she will be30. Now your only twice as old as her. How long before she catches up?

 

[TickledToDeath]

age is just a number..and it all depends on the person/persons involved..i know someone who is twenty five years younger than myself, but is far more world experienced and learned..age really has nothing to do with it..

TTD you made sense..(for a change, hehe)

Coming from you, Isa, that's a compliment! Thanks.
Don't forget to take your Geritol.

 

[Redmage]

So I have met two girls through the personals, and have two more nibbling at the latest bait, but they are all more than ten years younger than me - in one case, twenty years. When would you say the age difference is too much to consider in real life?

I think the important question is whether you and they think it's too much to consider. No one else's opinions really matter very much.

I can tell you that age gap relationships can work. One of my very favorite partners is more than 15 years younger than me. Another lady that I'm quite fond of is 12 years older. Whether or not it works for you though depends on how you and your partners view it.

 

[Libertine]

Crabbed Age and Youth

I'm 51 and my wife KittenToes is 24. No-one can predict the future, but I'm enjoying the present. And if you think about it, it's impossible to live anywhere else.

 

[TickledToDeath]

LOL. My favorite part of that bit is the punch line...

Abbott: Here's the question. How long do you have to wait before you and that little girl are the same age?

Costello: What kind of question is that? That's ridiculous. If I keep waiting for that girl, she'll pass me up. She'll wind up older than I am! Then she'll have to wait for me!

LOL! I love them! Wish they were still on.

Great line indeed.

That even continued....
"Why should she wait for you"
" I was nice enough to wait for her...."

 

[Bugman]

I turned 52 not long ago.As far as just tickling goes i dont think age means much as long as both parties are over 18.I had a cousin who was married to a man almost 30 years her senior,and they had a long happy marriage until he died.A guy i worked with is 48,his wife 64 and they have been married almost twenty years.

 

[aurora5150]

I think the important question is whether you and they think it's too much to consider. No one else's opinions really matter very much.

I can tell you that age gap relationships can work. One of my very favorite partners is more than 15 years younger than me. Another lady that I'm quite fond of is 12 years older. Whether or not it works for you though depends on how you and your partners view it.

wonderfully said. i say as long as you and your partner are comfortable and consentual then sit back and enjoy each other. the only time i consider age a factor is when one partner is under 18. otherwise you're both smart and intelligent people and have the right to be with whomever you choose. i say rock on!

 

[Bugman]

wonderfully said. i say as long as you and your partner are comfortable and consentual then sit back and enjoy each other. the only time i consider age a factor is when one partner is under 18. otherwise you're both smart and intelligent people and have the right to be with whomever you choose. i say rock on!

There is still hope for us old men

 

[huskys]

Age is totally up to the people involved. For me it isn't an issue at all. I have seen 20+ years either way with some people, and they're incredibly happy. As long as its legal of course, I believe if you let something like that limit you, then your probably missing out!!!

 

[cloudgazer2k]

never had a real issue with age. there are so many women out there that a far older than me, but i still find very attractive. Mistress Aura, for example, is a hottie in my opinion.
however, there are some of the younger ladies i'm generally not attracted to. i have come across a few 18-20 year olds that may have a great body, but the personality is terrible.
but, i guess it makes no difference, really. as many people has stated in the past "Age is just a number.", and generally has no real reflection on personality or levels of maturity, as i have seen 30-40 year old women that still, in the right conditions, act just like a 5 year old child.

 

[aurora5150]

There is still hope for us old men

oh of course there is. you guys aren't old.....you are experienced. which is worth so much more.