Am I in my "Nesting Phase" ?

[Tamia78]

For those who know me, I'm not your typical female. I don't cook, I'm not a neat freak, I'm not going around the house with the vacuum or toothbrush to make sure every single surface is spotless.

But within the last month or so, I've been having these incredible urges to clean, organize, basically get rid of the clutter and organize better. I also have OCD tendencies (making sure towels and sheets match, for god's sake!). I've been experimenting with a little cooking (not much, but alot for me, lol).

This is TOTALLY not normal for me to actually want to do these things. I know pregnant women and animals go into a "nesting phase". Is that what's going on?
I'm starting to scare myself.

...As a matter of fact, I'm looking in the corner right now.....there's a speck of dust.....Um...I'll finish this later.....

--T

 

[Capnmad]

Don't worry, Tam... These are all just signs that it's time to move in with me... 😉

 

[Redmage]

Do you have reason to think you might be pregnant?

 

[RobAce]

Hmmmmm Tamia,

My house could use a little sprucing up.

Perhaps I could arrange a little trip for you

Rob

 

[Tamia78]

Nah...not pregnant, unless I'm carrying the baby jesus (or the antichrist, most likely 😀 ), but you know how menopausal women get hot flashes and such?

I just wonder if there's a hormonal equivalent in younger women?

--T

 

[venray]

Nah...not pregnant, unless I'm carrying the baby jesus (or the antichrist, most likely 😀 ), but you know how menopausal women get hot flashes and such?

I just wonder if there's a hormonal equivalent in younger women?

--T

I believe a thorough exam is in order...I will book the flight later today...

 

[Tamia78]

I believe a thorough exam is in order...I will book the flight later today...

Alright now, Cap'n wants me to move in with him, and flights offered for me to "spruce up" the house and lord knows about venray

People, I didn't say Maid! Jeebus....what is it with men and only one thing on their minds....

--T

 

[TheAceOfCakes]

It's pretty likely, I'd say.

Seems to me, as a general rule, that most "weird" behavior that we can't find any other explanation for is probably the result of some hormone shift. Too much of one, not enough of another, a complete change in balance, etc. And such a shift could probably be set in motion at a certain age to trigger a "nesting phase" like you describe.

It's all pretty interesting, IMO. I think as humans many of us like to think our ability to think makes us immune to something as innate as a hormone. And you still have control over the feelings -you may feel the urge to cook, but you may choose not to - so there's some rationale behind that mindset. But at the same time it's kind of funny how our "animal side" comes through and makes us do such random things.

 

[Capnmad]

what is it with men and only one thing on their minds....

...housekeeping? 😛

 

[Tamia78]

Exactly!

Ace: You're absolutely right that most of the weirdest stuff we do could be due to a hormone imbalance or something. I've just never heard of a total lifestyle change unless you have something major (i.e. pregnancy, menopause) happening, ya know?

--T

 

[Capnmad]

Exactly!

Tell you what... You come over, and we'll take turns with the feather duster... You use it on the furniture, I use it on you. 🙂 I like an equal relationship! 😉

 

[Tamia78]

Tell you what... You come over, and we'll take turns with the feather duster... You use it on the furniture, I use it on you. 🙂 I like an equal relationship! 😉

That is NOT equal!🙄

 

[kered]

Nesting???! I want it on file that I only hugged her and shook her hand at NEST. Really!....Serious! I was in the bar the whole time, I swear!!

 

[Sammy Scales]

People, I didn't say Maid! Jeebus....what is it with men and only one thing on their minds....
--T

Huh...? What? Did somebody say something about a french maid and a featherduster???

Ooooohhhh.... That was that thing in my mind!!! Easy big fella!!! 😀

 

[Tamia78]

Oh Kered.....there was that one time............

 

[Snail Shell]

Maybe you're bored since leaving school?

Snail Shell

 

[Tamia78]

Maybe you're bored since leaving school?

Snail Shell

Snail, I'm never THAT bored that I actually WANT to clean, lol. I always find something else to do besides that. That's why it's so weird.

--T

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Have you ever thought it might perhaps could be not because you have OCD and not because you think you may or may not tend to have OCD tendencies, like you said yourself you have been out of school for a while Tamia and that could have something to do with this sudden major tendencies to wish to clean and organize and straighten things up around the place-want things in certain places, could be a big part-with u not attending school anymore.

However don't think it is likely OCD not real sure but thinking that is not the case; like you said likely not that you are pregnant-you have no reason or cause to think or even believe that would be a true realm of possiblity or chance.

So I rule out OCD tendencies and rule out being pregnancy, never have really heard of women going through the change menopause wishing to clean and organize and straighten things up big time around the place. My guess is not really that you are going through the "nesting" phase Tamia.

My guess is I am thinking that the reason that you are probably big time cleaning and tidying up and suddenly have major compulsive tendencies to wish to organize things and have things in certain places-not cause of OCD-but because most likely could be -because maybe you feel that in some ways that there might be some sort of emotional chaos or distractions in your life-that you might be having trouble with-maybe cleaning and organizing things-helps you get a control and grip on things emotionally-helps you feel emotionally in control of your surroundings around you, that could be a big reason.

Maybe it helps you cope and deal with the big time emotional changes going on in your life and the big changes in your life Tamia, course I am not a counselor and not a psychologist, but that is my wild guess Tamia. Do you think that might be the reason this is happening? I hope that this has helped you greatly maybe have more of an answer and more peace of mind to why this phenomenon is happening.

Just try your best not to be overly concerned or worried about this Tamia. I am sure over time the answers will come to you and you will know why you are doing this, no stress and no sweat ok friend. I am sure when you figure it out-you will be back to yourself again and no longer will these cleaning impulses grab you. You are a sweetie and a great person. Have a great night love reading your posts and replies, always a treat, devoted fan ticklebunny 2 let me know if this helped

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Ward, weren't you a little hard on the beaver last night?

***as eddie haskell*** gee, mrs. Cleaver your house is always spotless, i guess dusting in pearls and high heels is the secret.................... Remember dust***cough*** is a***cough*** protective covering***cough*** for furniture***cough*** clean or cluttered, it's all good.

 

[unclebill]

hmmm.........perhaps it`s gas.

 

[Tamia78]

Bunny......WOW!

I actually never thought about it that way before. I'm definitely a control freak, and it's an understatement to say that my life is chaotic at this time. I'm not sure that it's the answer, but it's pretty damn close. It makes sense to use symbolism because I can't control the chaos right now.

Thanks for the post, gives me something ELSE to think about.


ps. Uncle, it's NOT friggin' gas, dammit!
besides, ladies don't do that sort of thing, it's disgusting.

--T

 

[AffectionateDan]

Do you have reason to think you might be pregnant?

Damn, I wasn't the first to say it! Foul!

 

[cloudgazer2k]

ps. Uncle, it's NOT friggin' gas, dammit!
besides, ladies don't do that sort of thing, it's disgusting.

--T

you've obviously never met the ladies i know. beware Taco Night!

i wish i could come up with a decent answer to the question, Tam. i've had my moments when i go crazy with the cleaning, like that one episode of the Jetsons when Rosie was malfunctioning ("A place for everything, and everything in it's place!"). i guess there are times when there needs to be order, and the mind can't handle the clutter.