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An Apology

His Divine Shadow

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I'd like to apologize to the community for troubles and strife experienced or caused by events of Sunday past. (Shempday) Ann has posted a thread regarding some of the workings of Shempday, made as I was penning this. That thread has made this apology more important, not less. She has explained the event, but none of the blame can rest on those gathered for Shempday. The word filters and altered logos (although those were not made by me) were put in place entirely by me, and any blame or credit thereof should be placed nowhere other than on my shoulders. Whatever may have been involved in the planning of the event, in the end the one who created the filters was myself, the one who added the logos myself, and the one who turned both of these on, again, myself.

Anguish suffered during the event and flaring tempers in its aftermath have their origination in my errors. I should have, but did not, give greater and deeper consideration to what the filters would do when turned on. The troubles many experienced when trying to log in, read their PMs, or simply browse the forum should have been anticipated and considered by me. As the one who knew of the filter and brought it into use, any responsibility for their effects cannot be placed anywhere other than in my lap.

An aside must be made with regards to PMs: no one read any of your Private Messages during, before or after Shempday. No one ever has gone through and read the Private Messages of members. The filters were global; all parts of the forum felt their effects. If you return to those PMs now, you'll notice that the filtered words are as they should be.

Again, whatever you may think of Shempday or its planners, none of the consequences of this year's forum changes can be placed anywhere but on my shoulders. When the filter issues first became apparent, I should have immediately pulled them all down; I did not. I waited too long to remove the worst of them and far too long to remove them all. The consternation brought during the event and, especially, the broiling tensions seen now around the forum are my burden to carry and remember. I would hope, but cannot demand, that everyone involved will look beyond my misjudgment here and find common ground again with those they now engage in argument with. I cannot ask, and would understand, if any among the membership find my apology inadequate. Any among you are welcome to send me a message if you have further complaints or frustrations you need to air; I promise to give each my full attention and thought.

The privilege I have in the community to make the changes I did should be exercised with greatest care and restraint; it was not. All this could have been avoided had I put some forethought into it; I did not. For these and other errors, everyone here has my deepest apologies. Thank you for reading. Whether worthy of a response or not, this need be said. That I waited two days to say it is bad enough.
 
Thank you sir. I'm sure many will appreciate this apology. It is about time the members who were hurt or what have you by this get told something other than "Get over it". So, once again, thank you. Thank you very much.
 
That’s bullshit man; you or anyone else doesn’t owe anyone an apology or anything else for that matter. I tell you what; next year let me take the fall for whatever happens. Blame me for hacking the site and changing the admin passwords so that it couldn’t be stopped. Then I’ll be happy to respond to every single complaint with the same “too bad if you can’t take a joke” reply until everyone just gets tired of complaining. We have a forum full of crybabies here who just need a good cyber spanking to straighten their asses out!
 
Given all you have done for this community my friend,i would hope no one would fault you for making a mistake.It should be clear by now there was no malicious intent on anyone's part.
 
I agree with Cassi and Jay here.
I don't think you owe anyone an apology at all.
 
That’s bullshit man; you or anyone else doesn’t owe anyone an apology or anything else for that matter. I tell you what; next year let me take the fall for whatever happens. Blame me for hacking the site and changing the admin passwords so that it couldn’t be stopped. Then I’ll be happy to respond to every single complaint with the same “too bad if you can’t take a joke” reply until everyone just gets tired of complaining. We have a forum full of crybabies here who just need a good cyber spanking to straighten their asses out!

honestly baby I don't think you need to apologize.

What they said. You, or anyone else for that matter, don't need to apologize for anything. It was a prank and it's not a big deal.

Also, I agree that next year you should do it and blame it all on Tony. He seems like the perfect fall guy. 😀
 
I don't think you owe anyone an apology.

But this shows the measure of the man.

I feel like a jerk for causing so much trouble, and I hope one or two others do too.

So, now that life is good again - who's ticklish 🙂
 
That’s bullshit man; you or anyone else doesn’t owe anyone an apology or anything else for that matter. I tell you what; next year let me take the fall for whatever happens. Blame me for hacking the site and changing the admin passwords so that it couldn’t be stopped. Then I’ll be happy to respond to every single complaint with the same “too bad if you can’t take a joke” reply until everyone just gets tired of complaining. We have a forum full of crybabies here who just need a good cyber spanking to straighten their asses out!

This.

HDS your apology is appreciated but I personally don't think it was necessary. It's not like you intentionally meant to hurt anyone and this has been blown way out of proportion IMO.

I guess the good news is that I'm not Jeff or Myriads because the outcome would've been entirely different, trust me.:hipoke:
 
u dont owe no one anything dude it was a prank and all in good fun if people cannot take a joke to bad
 
Thank you for your apology, HDS. It shows everyone that you truly care about the forum and its members. I hope everyone who was hurt, confused, etc. will read, appreciate, and accept your apology.

You made a mistake that caused problems for others, and it's good of you to step up to the plate and apologize for that mistake.

Thank you again.
 
I think someone needed to apologize and I think people can start to forget about this shit now. I know I said I was on hiatus, but I wanted to say you're a good guy HDS and I really like you. There are no ill feelings on this end and I hope others can follow in your footsteps and mostly apologize for the way in which they reacted to complaints. I realize the filter wasn't thought through very well and it was stopped when people realized the problems with it. Anyone doing a prank like that could have made that mistake. It's the "get over it" mentality of some that is troubling for me, but I'm going to forget about it.

I don't think you need to worry about people being upset at you. I admire you for coming out and saying that.
 
You've got nothing to apologize for. 😡

I Love you.
 
I don't know you very well , HDS , but your apology shows that you are most definitely a class act.

This forum is lucky to have you as a member/moderator.
 
Some think it's required (not me) some don't. Those that feel they need this, please accept it, and those of us that feel it's not required, let's not worry about it too much.
 
Alex, sweetheart, you have absolutely nothing to apologize for. Nothing. The idea, nor the resulting drama, was your fault in the least. Someone asked something of you and you did it. But that wasn't a mistake. The idea wasn't yours, and you obviously weren't going to tell who was responsible for it "no". And I don't think anyone here owes anyone an apology. Perhaps an explanation, but not an apology.

Please, please don't take any guilt onto yourself. Seriously.

I love you.
 
I think it was very constructive to shed some light on exactly what happened. I'll agree there was no need to apologize, we all mess up from time to time and you meant no harm. But that you did certainly shows your character.

Anyhoo, we done with this nonsense now? New topic.

So um Federer won his 15th grand slam on Sunday. Greatest tennis player ever? Discuss.
 
When i first read this I thought it was someone updating a thread from last year.
 
I'd like to apologize to the community for troubles and strife experienced or caused by events of Sunday past. (Shempday) Ann has posted a thread regarding some of the workings of Shempday, made as I was penning this. That thread has made this apology more important, not less. She has explained the event, but none of the blame can rest on those gathered for Shempday. The word filters and altered logos (although those were not made by me) were put in place entirely by me, and any blame or credit thereof should be placed nowhere other than on my shoulders. Whatever may have been involved in the planning of the event, in the end the one who created the filters was myself, the one who added the logos myself, and the one who turned both of these on, again, myself.

Anguish suffered during the event and flaring tempers in its aftermath have their origination in my errors. I should have, but did not, give greater and deeper consideration to what the filters would do when turned on. The troubles many experienced when trying to log in, read their PMs, or simply browse the forum should have been anticipated and considered by me. As the one who knew of the filter and brought it into use, any responsibility for their effects cannot be placed anywhere other than in my lap.

An aside must be made with regards to PMs: no one read any of your Private Messages during, before or after Shempday. No one ever has gone through and read the Private Messages of members. The filters were global; all parts of the forum felt their effects. If you return to those PMs now, you'll notice that the filtered words are as they should be.

Again, whatever you may think of Shempday or its planners, none of the consequences of this year's forum changes can be placed anywhere but on my shoulders. When the filter issues first became apparent, I should have immediately pulled them all down; I did not. I waited too long to remove the worst of them and far too long to remove them all. The consternation brought during the event and, especially, the broiling tensions seen now around the forum are my burden to carry and remember. I would hope, but cannot demand, that everyone involved will look beyond my misjudgment here and find common ground again with those they now engage in argument with. I cannot ask, and would understand, if any among the membership find my apology inadequate. Any among you are welcome to send me a message if you have further complaints or frustrations you need to air; I promise to give each my full attention and thought.

The privilege I have in the community to make the changes I did should be exercised with greatest care and restraint; it was not. All this could have been avoided had I put some forethought into it; I did not. For these and other errors, everyone here has my deepest apologies. Thank you for reading. Whether worthy of a response or not, this need be said. That I waited two days to say it is bad enough.


Personally, i'll let those who were inconvienanced decide if an an apology is do or not. IMO, the important thing is that somebody did apologize for the actions. This is a much better, and more mature response then telling people to suck it up, which only adds fuel to the fire. Hopefully now things can get back to normal, or as close to normal as they ever are on this forum. Thank you, HDS for being an adult about the situation.

Edit: PS, personally I don't think what was done was that bad and know that no ill intentions were meant. I think most decent people will understand that, whatever there position on this event is.
 
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I dont think you needed to apologize. Sometimes things dont always go as we intend. You are a close and very good friend. 😀 That will never ever change. The bunnies wuv you too. 😀

PS: Stop by the Self Referential Thread sometime. We all miss you. :bounce:
 
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No need to apologize for something all in good fun, HDS. Keep on rocking, and thank you for all that you do for this forum. 🙂
 
As one of Sunday's loudest opponents, I wanted to drop in to offer my thanks to you, HDS. I appreciate that you'd understand our side and be cool about it all. :beer:
 
we are all equally to blame here My friend as you had enough on your plate and didnt need anyone adding to it on short notice...
 
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