Another question: Group or one-on-one tickling?

[LindyHopper]

I've been thinking about this in the context of things like NEST or private parties . . .

I'm glad you're thinking about it! That's always the first step towards tons of fun.

Public playtime is promoted as being safer because there are monitors present to prevent things from going too far. It's one person tormenting another, but with back-ups for the safeword, if one chose playmates poorly?

That's the way I've always thought of it. I can play with someone I've just met at a gathering because I know that nothing too horrible can happen. You have to much more cautious before agreeing to play with someone privately, where there's no one around to help you should the person turn out to be dangerous.

On the other hand, a semi-public environment is apt to feel more exposed, and perhaps more committed, than playing with a single person alone? A group would seem to imply a more general degree of trust, to accept a vulnerable position with multiple people around who would have the theoretical opportunity to take advantage of one? This may come down to trusting the 'ler to control the situation, which is probably part of the job description, but would that be easier or harder than trusting the 'ler to not go too far in a one-on-one situation?

If one 'ler in a group situation ever tried to "take advantage," the other 'lers would likely beat the crap out of him! 😀 They tend to be very protective. I think having multiple people around actually makes the situation more safe for the 'lee, not less.

Actually nowadays, when I play at gatherings, I usually have one of my regular play partners, someone who knows me very well, be somewhat "in charge" of the scene. That combines the benefits of a trusting relationship with a well-known 'ler, and the fun of playing with lots of people.

As for your concern about being "more exposed..." yes - people are watching, and you have to be okay with that if you're going to be involved in a group scene. Even at gatherings though, some people choose to play privately or semi-privately. Not all scenes have to happen in public view.

As for feeling "more committed," in group play... I've never felt that way. The 'lers (at least the ones I've played with) tend to be very protective of their 'lees, always putting her needs first. If she wants to stop, play stops. In fact, I've occasionally felt more "committed" when agreeing to play with a single person alone. That's when the guy might have "expectations," and if I don't want to go along, that can result in some hard feelings.

(I said I'd been thinking about it, not that my thoughts had gotten anywhere near conclusions!)

Well, keep thinking then. 🙂 Or don't. As I've told other newbies in the past, there comes a point when the best thing you can do is just jump in and give it a try, so you can find out firsthand that you were really worrying over nothing! Good luck, and have fun!

 

[dvnc]

Best part, really, is that you can find play partners in both areas. I don't do all my play in groups, and have had partners that are, to date, not public knowledge.

Sometimes there's somethin' t'be said for private intimacies.

I still dig a good scene, as I did back when this thread was written, near 6 years ago.

The concept of meals and flavors comes to mind. Some folks like only certain flavors. Some are INCREDIBLY selective about the flavors they'll encourage to touch their tongue.

Some eat anything regardless of flavor.

Some delight in the variety of many flavors, big feasts and individual delicacies.

It's all about what you want. Start with what you think you want. Find someone trustworthy, and experiment. Find several if you can. Expand your experiments to the edges of your interests. Why? Because you can. You just have to behave within your own degree of comfort.

There's ALWAYS folks that'll help with this, 'cause it's fun!

 

[chicago]

Group tickling can be fun if I'm comfortable with the people, but I hate having an audience just sitting there gawking at me.

One on one is almost always more fun.

 

[evilwomanhehe]

this thread is quite the blast from the past..

..but a good thread it is.

I am a private person. I like a dark setting...no one around but the guy tied to the bed..no audience. Just me tickling the living hell out of him.

Victoria

 

[Maestro1874]

I've not had the pleasure of participating in a good group tickling as a ler or a lee, so I can't say I can offer anything from past experience. However, As always I think it would depend on the people involved. I don't generally engage in non-sexual tickling mostly because for me it IS sexual, and I don't like the implications of practicing a secret turn on with the uninformed. ( Or uninitiated? ;-) ) Therefore, it would have to be an intimate group setting of some sort. This I would think, is harder to come by. Either way, one on one has been fantastic and if I have the opportunity to explore a group setting I'm all for it.

-Maestro

 

[ViperGTS]

Been away for the weekend, and this caught my eye.

As many have said, it depends on the setting for me. If I feel particularly evil, or if it's my significant other, I prefer to be the 'sole' ler, with my lee strapped down nice and tight. This way, there's no one around to distract me from my twisted and cruel punishment of the girl, AND there's also an element of helplessness for the lee when she's the only one in hearing range aside from the person who's driving her mad. "Scream all you want, little lady..no one can hear you..."

In a social setting, I would say that I prefer neither over another. Personally, I'm a bit of an exhibitionist (I couldn't be a producer otherwise) when it comes to tickle torturing my victim. If she's strapped down for all to see and a group of people is watching her get tortured, I'm spurred on to be as evil and sadistic as possible. On the other hand, at the last NEST, I assisted with the kidnapping and group tickle torture of irishgirl5, which was quite fun as well.

 

[Oddjob0226]

I am a private person. I like a dark setting...no one around but the guy tied to the bed..no audience. Just me tickling the living hell out of him.

I've participated in both situations, enjoy both, and will continue to participate in both. But in terms of preference yes, there is something to be said about that closer psychological intimacy in a smaller setting. It ain't performance art after all.

 

[drew70]

For me, a one-on-one scene can be erotic or not, depending on our intentions. I'm perfectly capable of plutonic one-on-one scenes, but they are somewhat difficult to arrange, because the female friend either expects some romantic intimacy or fears that I expect it.

As a lee, I don't mind being tickled in front of an audience. Of course, usually once I'm strapped down, there are multiple lers, and I'm so wrapped up in dealing with the onslaught of overwhelming tickling sensations that I'm oblivious as to who is watching.

 

[Stage Whisper]

One on one is definitely my preference, and I haven't even really experienced either.

I'm a private person by nature; there are only a few people in the world that I'm very comfortable around. And even with them, I'm happiest when it's a case of hanging out one-on-one. I can give someone my full attention, and vice versa. If I were put into a group situation, I would pull back mentally and physically, and just observe.

 

[milagros317]

For a Ler, I think that one-on-one is best. That way, every ticklish reaction that you see or hear is known to be caused by you.

For a Lee, the overwhelming sensations from being gang-tickled are just wonderful.

 

[tickmankyle1]

Hi all,

Gettin' back to focusin' on the reason for this fine forum, I figured I'd ask another question. Shake the tree a little, and see what falls.

The question of the moment is this: Do you prefer group tickling or one-on-one tickling?

I personally like 'em both, for different reasons. In both cases, the implication, to me, is serious tickling play, as opposed to the casual innocent stuff where my friend's daughter asks to be tickled. The innocent stuff is appropriately innocent. This concerns the stuff beyond innocence, to me. May not, for others. Contradict me, and show your perspective, where it's different, too. I wanna know what's thought, here.

In the serious play, I prefer the one-on-one stuff for the eroticism, though I prefer the group stuff for it's novelty, strangeness, and social value. I'm friends with nearly all the 'lees with whom I'm fortunate enough to play. It's delightful. I really dig group play, even though there's no sexuality being exploited there.

Contribute, if you please. Thanks!

dvnc

i love tickling so groups one on one what ever i just love tickling later

 

[Tickleslave83]

Being a tickle torture virgin I'd prefer one on one at first but would love it if later on I were tied up THINKING I'd be getting one on one but getting a surprize. After nearly passing out from one on one tickling be great if she opens a door with a dozen girls and says "Ok your turns now!"

 

[xSamanthax]

Hmmm.

Well, I have never actually been gang tickled, but the thought of it is highly arousing, especially if I were blindfolded. I suppose it is the sense of exposure/vulnerability that really gets me going. That and the thought of being surrounded by people who are as turned on as I am...Guess I have a little exhibitionism in me, lol.

On the other hand, 1-1 situations allow me to push the boundaries a little further and really explore deeply. That takes a little more trust, I think, than can be had in a random group encounter.

~Sam

 

[ticklebutterfly]

Personally

I prefer one-on-one at the moment
but keen to try group
one-on-one for me is more close and more intimate. Fortunately for me, the only person ever to have properly tickled me, seriously, is my boyfriend so yeah i guess thats why its so intimate and personal for me,
would like to try group but we dont know any one else into tickling. its not a subject we talk bout outside of us.

 

[Amnesiac]

I prefer one-on-one because there's concentration of sensation. A big problem with group tickling is that it's often uncoordinated and you have a Person A working on a spot that isn't affected because Person B has found a better one that blocks it out. This often causes one or more 'lers to overcompensate and some of their movements look downright painful for the 'lee.

Viper mentioned the gang-tickling of IrishGirl 5 last year, and that was one of the few I've seen that DID work because it was being directed by a maestro, and performed by a group of VERY talented 'lers who knew how to restrain themselves for the sake of suffering.

Other than that, I don't care much for the power exchange/role-playing aspect of tickling; I do both playful and sexual tickling so I can settle for either. What I DO care about with tickling is suffering...I want the 'lee to be in agony, NOT from pain, but from the sheer unbearable intensity of the tickling, and groups just can't manage to create that kind of sensation because of the chaotic fashion in which it works.

That said, I WILL watch, and maybe lend a hand...but only if it makes a difference.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I prefer one-on-one, It's not only more intimate, but it's a lot easier to communicate your enjoyment between the Ler and the Lee without 500 sets of hands and mouths flapping in all directions.

 

[Strider]

Generally speaking, I tend to play one-on-one, though I don't particularly mind if others are observing.

 

[Tissueboy]

Just a thought...

No-one seems to have brought up this side of the coin in this thread yet...but one of my fantasies is to have me as the only ler, but to have multiple lees. I mean think about having 2 or 3 pairs of bare feet tied down side by side, ready just for you...

 

[KittenToes]

As the lee: One-on-one, always. I don't generally care how many people are watching. I'm quite exhibitionistic. I prefer this because being tickled generally gets sexual for me and I don't want to get turned on by anyone except hubby. Nor do I think I even could be turned on if someone else did it, because if it isn't my fella I actually dislike being tickled.

As the ler: It depends. I've tickled someone alone, and in tandem with one other person. The extra person can be good at times due to the fact that I don't have enough hands to do everything I want to do at once! But I can be even more evil when alone, because I don't have to keep myself in check to match anyone else's pace. I would probably consider participating in a larger group scene as a ler. Again, I don't really care who watches. Ler-ing isn't sexual for me. I wouldn't tickle anyone I WAS sexually attracted to or that I had any qualms about tormenting. That's why I only tickle women on the rare occasions that I do ler.

 

[minerva]

Being gang tickled is a lot of fun, but the more intense stuff, where the 'ler really gets you, really gets inside your head as well can only be done one-on-one IMO and that's the way I truly like it

 

[Bugman]

Being gang tickled is a lot of fun, but the more intense stuff, where the 'ler really gets you, really gets inside your head as well can only be done one-on-one IMO and that's the way I truly like it

I didn't hear any complaints when Pokey and i got you in his room last year.😉 I did hear quite a bit of laughfter. 😀

 

[minerva]

I didn't hear any complaints when Pokey and i got you in his room last year.😉 I did hear quite a bit of laughfter. 😀

That's why I said, it's a lot of fun 😀
and with you guys it was a LOT lot of fun

 

[Bugman]

That's why I said, it's a lot of fun 😀
and with you guys it was a LOT lot of fun

I know luv,i was just teasing you.😉 It was a lot of fun for me,i'm glad you enjoyed it also.

 

[Tickleslave83]

Although I'm shy and not an exhibistionist the thought of being watched while being tickle tortured is a turn on. I think I'd really enjoy it more if I know others are delighting in it. Big fantasy is to be tickled by a girl while a few of her friends watch and cheer her on and tease me 🙂. The more people the more creative. Really what could be more fun than trembling in place as a dozen girls all discuss in front of you the best way to torture you! I'd be too shy to appear on video but the thought of being tickled in front of an audiance is somewhat exciting.