Another unfortunate female meeting.

[Leo tickles]

Welcome one and all to my seemingly monthly edition of meeting females, and then dumping them.

This one is, again, from Plentyoffish.com, which is free, so that explains most of the troubles I'm having.

Anyways, started out like the rest, phone call, got along, she came over. We cuddled and talked, and she was 'in it all the way because I'm the best', it was then that I decided she was either smart, or wishing. The answer to that I'm still not sure, but be that as it may.


Next day I call her (she agreed to meet up and hang out), and she starts bitching to me about family life and how they control her. (Car is in her name, she's 21). I point out that I'm not here to be an escape. She points out that's what she's looking for. I point out that she is a worthless piece of trash who takes abuse from family and then runs to somebody before they can dish it back. She broke down crying, I hung up the phone.


Afterthoughts: I didn't learn anything new from this girl, other than the fact that I'm never washing this shirt, that spray stuff she was using smells amazing. I want to know what it is, so I can tell the next girl to wear it.

Seriously though... no, actually, the above was serious.




And so another one concludes in a worthless person crying because they know truth when they hear it, and try their best to escape.



Next.

 

[WorkInProgress]

I assume you want opinions, and on that assumption, I'll offer mine.

Your own needs will be better served, by far, if you stop thinking of every interaction and transaction strictly in terms of how well it does or doesn't serve your own needs. You need to approach the whole thing with a bit more empathy. Do I mean you should have stayed in the relationship with her? No, she probably isn't the one you're looking for. But you did not need to insult her. When you're breaking off a relationship, the least you can do, if you're even a minimally sensitive and empathic person, is do it as kindly and sympathetically as possible, and go out of your way not to say anything that even remotely implies that she's undesirable in any way. Whether you believe it or not, changing your approach to the women who aren't what you're looking for is going to be a prerequisite toward attracting the kind of woman you are looking for.

(If anything in this post seems harsh, be assured, this is the toned-down version.)

 

[Redmage]

Good grief, man. Your problem isn't "worthless people," I can tell you that.

 

[drew70]

Seems to me from what little I've read of your posts that you always seem to latch onto the first excuse to alienate whatever woman your with. She was using you as an escape. Tell me exactly why that is a bad thing? People escape to their GOOD place. If she was escaping to you, that meant she preferred your company to anybody else's...well, at least until you showed her your sensitive side and bitched her out.

 

[tcklft]

I think you should join a monastery. That way you'd never have to deal with all those awful ladies you keep meeting and dumping. Enjoy your life sans filles and leave the rest of us to our fun.

 

[Leo tickles]

You folks crack me up.

 

[brianspencer66]

Let me get this straight ok? You met this girl online talked online then on the phone and she just goes over to your place just like that? Where are these women? Most woman I know would never do that. And if it really happened how about just meeting for lunch the first time or maybe twice so you can find out what a fruit cake she is ahead of time?

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I assume you want opinions, and on that assumption, I'll offer mine.

Your own needs will be better served, by far, if you stop thinking of every interaction and transaction strictly in terms of how well it does or doesn't serve your own needs. You need to approach the whole thing with a bit more empathy. Do I mean you should have stayed in the relationship with her? No, she probably isn't the one you're looking for. But you did not need to insult her. When you're breaking off a relationship, the least you can do, if you're even a minimally sensitive and empathic person, is do it as kindly and sympathetically as possible, and go out of your way not to say anything that even remotely implies that she's undesirable in any way. Whether you believe it or not, changing your approach to the women who aren't what you're looking for is going to be a prerequisite toward attracting the kind of woman you are looking for.

(If anything in this post seems harsh, be assured, this is the toned-down version.)

I think that this is very GOOD advice. It seems I am not the only person around here that has a problem with your attitude. I understand that you wanted to break up with her but I think it was awful of you to put that girl down and make her feel undesirable. I think that was unnecessary. Obviously, the girl had problems because her family is abusive to her which she can't control so she decided to use you as an escape. I think that would be a good thing but you've made your own choice.

 

[unclebill]

Forget about her, and get a puppy. They are much less trouble than women.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Forget about her, and get a puppy. They are much less trouble than women.

Oh yeah like that's real nice, . I think that if SOME men took the time to understand women, they wouldn't be as much trouble. Also, men can be troublesome as well you know.

 

[WorkInProgress]

I assume I'm one of the ones who crack you up, Leo, so now I'm going to give you the non-toned-down version of my reaction. Leo, as long as you're the kind of person who would behave the way you behaved, you're not going to attract the kind of woman you want to attract, because the kind of woman you want to attract has higher standards than to get involved with a guy who would ever behave the way you behaved. You don't seem to comprehend, on any level, the difference between meeting a woman for possible intimacy and buying a pack of chewing gum. If you buy a pack of chewing gum and find that the taste isn't exactly what you wanted it to be, you can spit it out in utter disgust and be done with it. But when you meet a woman, you're meeting a human being with feelings, and the fact that this doesn't enter your equation is a problem.

Does this post crack you up, Leo? (Based on what I've seen so far, I would guess that yes, you probably do find it quite hilarious.)

 

[drew70]

I really do apologize for my responses coming out four times but when I tried to reply the first time it was taking a very long time to submit my reply so I hit the back button several times and it posted my response four times.

Yeah, that happens to me from time to time. Sometimes the forum software catches it and doesn't permit the repetition. Other times it posts all of them. It's possible to delete them one at a time, by clicking on the edit button, and then selecting delete.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Well in that case drew, I should probably delete three of my responses so that what I said isn't repeated three times.

 

[unclebill]

Oh yeah like that's real nice, . I think that if SOME men took the time to understant women, they wouldn't be as much trouble. Also, men can be troublesome as well you know.

Good point, Jen. And women are easier on carpets, too.

 

[poopies]

Good point, Jen. And women are easier on carpets, too.

MOST women are easier on carpets unclebill.... most women are easier on carpets.... *shudder*

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Thanks unclebill.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I wholeheartedly agree with drew.

Plus, I think you're a jerk to women and don't really deserve a good one. Maybe after you grow up a little you'll be more worthy. Not so much right now though.

Well even though I had a problem with you before on my other thread, I actually agree with you here and you actually said something very nice. Gosh, what a moment🙄.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Well I hope he doesn't think that I am a dick or any of us because we're all trying to be honest with him now and give him some good advice on this thread.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Well even though I had a problem with you before on my other thread, I actually agree with you here and you actually said something very nice. Gosh, what a moment🙄.

Funny, I read this post and the first thing I think of is that this sounds like somebody I'd like to tickle...then I remind myself that I have had the pleasure.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Well I hope he doesn't think that I am a dick or any of us because we're all trying to be honest with him now and give him some good advice on this thread.

He's made it clear he thinks it's all a joke. We crack him up, he said.

 

[Capnmad]

Welcome one and all to my seemingly monthly edition of meeting females, and then dumping them.

This one is, again, from Plentyoffish.com, which is free, so that explains most of the troubles I'm having.

No. It doesn't.




I'll answer this next piece with the words of the only person you'll listen to:

Next day I call her (she agreed to meet up and hang out), and she starts bitching to me about family life and how they control her. (Car is in her name, she's 21). I point out that I'm not here to be an escape.

Because every religions God knows, it's AAAALLLLLL about you.

She points out that's what she's looking for. I point out that she is a worthless piece of trash who takes abuse from family and then runs to somebody before they can dish it back. She broke down crying, I hung up the phone.

You have a disorder. You aren't the only one. Other's here have disorders. They don't post about it in every thread.

...and some do, only they don't mention their issues in the context of a disorder.

Afterthoughts: I didn't learn anything new from this girl,

That explains most of the problems you're having.



Somedays I wonder why people take you so seriously and take the time to give you their earnest opinions, when it's so very apparent that you don't care. If your descriptions are even halfway accurate, and if your mood and responses typically displayed here in your online persona are reflective of who you are in reality, you'd strike me as a dysthymic narcissist.

In any event, if you actually want to connect with someone else in any meaningful way, eventually, you'll have to get outside yourself.

 

[cabalist]

Good grief, man. Your problem isn't "worthless people," I can tell you that.

Agreed. And I doubt it has anything to do with the Plentyoffish.com site being free either. It could be the fault of that site to some extent, though, for failing to enforce their own rules.

1. We banish anyone who is extremely rude, has anger management issues, uploads fake pictures or is otherwise unfit to date.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

No. It doesn't.




I'll answer this next piece with the words of the only person you'll listen to:












...and some do, only they don't mention their issues in the context of a disorder.






That explains most of the problems you're having.



Somedays I wonder why people take you so seriously and take the time to give you their earnest opinions, when it's so very apparent that you don't care. If your descriptions are even halfway accurate, and if your mood and responses typically displayed here in your online persona are reflective of who you are in reality, you'd strike me as a dysthymic narcissist.

In any event, if you actually want to connect with someone else in any meaningful way, eventually, you'll have to get outside yourself.

I really like this response! I totally agree with what he's saying.

 

[Leo tickles]

And we have an update. She called ME, and apologized. (For what I'm not sure, but she said sorry), and wanted to come see me tomorrow.


I said yes, so we'll see how it all goes. Apparently, girl thinks it's her fault, go figure that one out. I'll update after we hang out.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Dude, didn't you do a post exactly like this one a few months ago, about the same exact thing with women?

If you keep having the same exact problem with totally different women, what should that be telling you?