My experience is that women who don't have a tickling fetish are very often super-willing to the the evil ler. Don't start with, "will you tie me up and tickle me for an hour?" Do it in pieces. Maybe a bet where you bet she can't get you to say mercy within 5 minutes. Or a game with stakes, like winner gets a 10 min massage, but next time, winner gets to tickle the loser for _ minutes. She may enjoy it, and become more daring when she sees that you like it. On the other hand, finding women who don't have a tickling fetish and are ok with being a lee has been more difficult, at least for me. And for dominatrixes, try to find one who doesn't think it's fun to tickle you out of your mind. The rationale of women being submissive doesn't make sense to me. If anything, I'd think that (if it were true) would motivate them for a bit of revenge. If you hate the sensation but love the dynamic, that points to "ler." In videos, I think you'll see a lot more male less because the guy who creates the website saves $ being the ler himself rather than paying a woman to do that, plus he probably has a tickling fetish so he wants to. So . . . I think you should search more!